To think my smug ex-friend will be eating her words in a couple of years time?

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I sent an email to an old friend who's just had her first child asking for a meet up and saying i was looking forward to getting some 'me' time instead of being stuck in with my 2 DC's all the while.. having conversation that didnt involve Iggle Piggle and the Wattingers!

The email she sent me back basically said that she felt complete as a parent and didnt understand the idea of needing to have 'me' time as she was loving being a mom.

AIBU to think that when she's where i am in a couple of years time.. 2DC's, little social-life and 3years of nappies and dribble that she'll probably be begging to be her for a while instead of mum?

Is the concept of not wanting to just be MUM but to be UnexpectedWasabi for a while so alien?

Well, in that case I assume there is a reason why you havent seen eachother in several years, and that she is not that keen to resume the friendship. I assume there is more that kept you apart than just your baby, and less to keep you together than her baby.

To be honest, I had friends who buggered off when I got pregnant. And it is not always easy to know who buggered off, and who was left. Maybe she saw it as YOU bugging off from the group rather than the other way around?

At least, when my friend who buggered off, contacted me after SHE had her baby, saying it would be so nice to meet up and talk baby stuff, I politely declined saying I was too busy with work and baby nr 2. To be honest, I just wasnt keen to see her. In fact, it gave me enormous pleasure to kindly refuse her invitation. After all, 4 years earlier she lost interest in me due to MY baby, so I was not about to gain interest in her just because of HER baby. I am not better than that.

I was always desperate for kids. Always wanted 5 or 6. I now have 3. Alot this friends dropping friends, PFB stuff happened in my circle. It seems to go in cycles. I now look on with distant memories when people have the PFB and are in this little bubble. It doesn't last.

My ex h and his partner have a baby. I have 3 5 and under. Him and his partner are all that smug way when their baby hanging happily in the sling and my 3 fighting/running off/moaning for something. But their time will come. I remember when mine were cute and couldn't walk/speak, i know they feel smug, but i'm having the last laugh.

I have lost my desire for more babies. 3 is enough. Its chaos. I love them but its hard going at times. Two years ago id never have believed how much i am enjoying my me time. I live for my saturday morning off, sat morn is precious to me in the same way my kids are.

Wasabi
she's a bitch. Leave it alone. You have done nothing wrong and she's a nasty cow.

It's called 'Schadenfreude'. Very enjoyable it is too. You just wait, nemesis will catch up on her, don't you worry.

Yes, schadenfreude isn't a wonderful thing, but it's very human to feel it!

I have a friend who when she was pregnant was going on about using real nappies from birth and breastfeeding til 12 months, and basically saying how she thought anyone who used pampers or formula "just hadn't tried hard enough"

A friend and I tried to gently say that it's best to see how you get on, as the first few weeks can be very hard and there was no shame in using disposables OR formula if things don't work out (and that using washable nappies from birth when they're doing 12 craps a day might be a pain) but she was having none of it.

Anyway a few weeks later she sent us pics of her baby drinking his bottle with a huggies poking out of his vest. Nothing wrong with that, but I just wonder if she cringes when she remembers what she said to us!

JamesAndTheGiantBanana did you fall out with her over it though?

The only thing unreasonable here is that you are still trying to be friends with this woman! (based on link to other thread). Wash your hands of her.

wideratthehips, no no no, it's just one of those daft things you say before you have kids, I think. I can remember saying my child would never watch tv.

[eyes ds sitting slack-jawed in front of cbeebies]

Tis true, she is poisonous, and you are well shot of her. Revel in the Schadenfreude, it feels sooo good to know that one day she will get her comeuppance.

If she EVER has the front and bare-faced cheek to contact you directly again.. reply only by forwarding her own email back to her.

Close that book, her ship has most definately sailed. She sounds jealous and poisonous and you deserve SOOO much better than an idiot like her.

YANBU except to think she was your friend (having read other thread).