To not like my DH being referred to as my partner?

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I was on the phone to some twatting call centre the other day, and they asked me what my partners name was, even though they'd just called me Mrs Unrest.

Is it unreasonable of me to not like my DH being categorised as some kind of business partner?

I know that partner covers just about every kind of relationship, but I'm proud of us being married for 10 and I take the vows we took seriously and so don't like them being trivialised by someone else.

Yes...I know I should get a life/get over myself/get annoyed at bigger things, and I'd like to think I'm not being judgy or smug about people who aren't married or those whose marriage has broken up. If I am I'm sure you'll let me know, I'm a big girl, I can take it

scottishmummy at starter marriage! My mother had a very posh colleague who took her aside when I was 17 and asked whether she had arranged my first marriage - apparently you should marry for money first and look for love elsewhere! Sadly we are obviously too plebian to follow the example of the upper classes. Sometimes I wish she'd listened.

my parents happily married (to each other) i never wanted to be married

YABU. I'm sure people who weren't married would be just as offended if someone referred to their husband. Even though you are Mrs you might be divorced. My mum is still Mrs although she is divorced and has another partner. It's such a faff to change surnames!

And why on earth would anyone be proud of being married? I can understand being proud of maintaining a relationship, whether married or unmarried, but proud of being married?! Is this the 1950s??

my friend proud of her kitchen.folk take pride in funniest things

"And why on earth would anyone be proud of being married? I can understand being proud of maintaining a relationship, whether married or unmarried, but proud of being married?! Is this the 1950s??"

I am. I am very proud to be married to such a lovely man, showing our commitment to each other.

Why would anyone not be proud to be married unless the marriage was an unhappy one?

BTW, not saying that you can't be equally as proud of a partnership (only difference is an offical bit of paper, after all)

official even

You can be proud of your relationship, or proud of the person you are in a relationship with, but simply to be proud of being married as opposed to not being married strikes me as very odd indeed.

I agree with OP. Partner is a liitle too cowboyish for me.

So what do you suggest as an alternative, Athene?

wife too subservient and twee for me

Agreed seeker - I'm not proud that I'm married as opposed to not being married, but of the marriage as a part of our relationship (Does that make any sense?)

'partner' is shite, so mealy mouthed, crappy, placate everyone dull dull dull right on public sector droningly awful.

I have a husband.

I think we should all use "special friend"

i think being proud of joint endeavours is valid.married or not.reflection upon achievements as partners is nice

You have a husband, moondog, but what have I got? A paramour? A boyfriend? A lover?

Anything but a partner.Paramour is quite good.

i hae a bidie-in.he used to bidie-oot now he's bidie-in

most people will think you a humourless uptight freak for caring

husband/wife sound so curmudgeonly.smell the formaldehyde

paramour would sound a bit odd at parent's evenings.

Seriously, all you partner haters. What's the alternative? And it has to be a word that can be used in formal situations by an adult woman to describe an adult man-thus ruling out paramour, bidie-in and boyfriend.

ahem no ruling out bidie-in.its ok

Husband. That's what he is.

husband is only for marrieds,some of us dont want a husband.at all