to be angry that my MIL started to wean my 2.5 month old on a chocolate doughnut?!

[thisxgirl]

I imagine I'm not.

He was 3 weeks early so I don't plan to wean him until he is 5 months at least but, while holding him this evening, she reached over to grab one of my DP's chocolate iced doughnuts and encouraged my baby to lick the chocolate off!

DP went mad at her - his first food should be carrot or pear not artificial chocolate-flavoured icing - and she was saying to my baby, "oh daddy's mean, isn't it! You enjoyed that didn't you? I'll have to get you some chocolate buttons. It didn't do your daddy any harm!"

Yeah, great idea, wean a 10 weeks old baby on sugar

Exactly, kitkatcadaverqueen. Obviously it's not just about some random lick of a doughnut. It's the two fingers up at the mum about her informed views on what her kid should be eating. Duh.

Sorry didn't mean to be thick its just so many people going "weaning??? 2.5 months????? Argggghhhhh" etc

and I'm thinking - put mil in her place now if she thinks its ok to disregard your feelings and views, because it will translate to everything, not just weaning.

need more sleep....

I'm in complete agreement with you, kitkat.

I'm just amazed that other posters couldn't see it.

Oh sorry I thought the duh was for me stating the obvious

I really do need more sleep don't I?

how grandiose to tsk and tut "just amazed that other posters couldn't see it"

damn those pesky others for having temerity to have a divergent opinion divergent.

god any one would think it was a doscussion

hmmm, at risk of getting hounded out of mumsnet for expressing an iffy view, this kind of reflects the absolute control that parents want over their dcs lives. No-one is allowed to tell them off/not recognise their genius/ allow them unapproved tastes etc etc without cries of outrage. That's fine, but then it's also a bit exhausting. BTW this is NOT directed at the op, just vague musings.

op reads clenchy and controlling,over stated reaction.yes granny was in the wrong but such histrionics don't help either

deep breath and adult calm discussion about parental preferences. but do be aware everyone (family inc) will not necessarily adhere to rigid rules. maybe pick your battles

It's also grandiose and inappropriate to declare those with a different opinion as "hysterical".

What the gran did was annoying. The op didn't go mad, her dp did. But the op was annoyed and is worried about the prospect of further battles with her mil who has no regard for preferences for parents. Parents are allowed to have preferences, you know. Sugar is one of those and quite a valid issue to be concerned about.

Anyone would think a discussion was possible without the words "hysterical" and "people are saying shoot the mil" being bandied about but apparently not.

"op reads clenchy and controlling" punchy opening line! calling the mil "granny" to make her seem like less of a threat, total lack of accurate punctuation ( pot calling kettle black of course) I'm sure I recognise your posting style from somewhere sm, you don't write for the Daily Mail do you.

Don't worry i'm not real i'm just words on a screen....