To wish DH had given me a push present...?

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A small part of me feels aggrieved that he didn't. He used to be so generous.......

I got an eternity ring after ds was born, I'm selling his fucking ring to pay for a pram now

Well i was just about to post about how outraged I am that people expect presents for giving birth, but then i saw that pretty much everyone else was outraged too, so feel a bit better now.

YABU

have to respond to some of the comments on here about this being American (implied naff) tradition - I am British andI live in US with American hubby and did not get, expect or want a push present. My sister who lives in the Uk and has Italian husband got diamonds for both her kids. None of my friends here got push presents either...can we tone down the anti-american sentiment a little?

Did you not also have a baby shower?

'Push Present' has to be the most noisome phrase I have ever come across on mn.

My dh did give me gorgeous jewellery when I had my dcs, but I certainly didn't expect anything.

Appropriately misogynistic, I reckon your present should be decided dependent on sex of the baby. If you birth the baby of the sex your DH desires then your present should definately be bigger, perhaps even a cash reward too.

I gave my husband a pair of amethyst cufflinks for his First Father's Day, and he gave me a beautiful amethyst ring for my First Mother's Day. PolkSaladBaby was born in Feb, so both dates were fairly soon after her arrival, and amethyst is her birth stone. It was a nice way to mark the occasion, and will be a nice present to pass on.

Just before our 1st anniversary I joked that he could either give me an eternity ring then or when our first child was born! It wasn't actually a hint or anything, but it obviously stuck in his head. I did actually think that an eternity ring when your first child is born is a bit of a tradition? My sister got rings for each of her two girls (her husband didn't get the cufflinks though, I think!).

'Push present'?

What freshly invented hell is this?

Surely the baby is your reward for the pushing?

Basically, what DwayneDibbley said ("I aint no Dwayne Dibbley!"). Vulgar and nouveau.

"PUSH PRESENT"???

Bleughh. Like I want to remember pushing.
Isnt a baby enough???

well i did ask my DH to buy me flowers for after our DC's had been born- but only because he never ever buys me flowers and i wanted an excuse to get some- however true to form DH didn't buy me flowers for either of our 3DC's births!! I'd have never wanted a 'present' though.... we had our children!!

sounds agricultural!can i claim slash and dash present?

Does Hallmark do a "Push Card"?

I kinda thought the baby was the reward you got for the pushing?

I'm not wild about the name, but personally, I see nothing wrong with gettig a gift when you have a baby. But then, I see nothing wrong with a gift when anything exciting or worth commemorating happens.

And frankly, if I'm pregnant for 40+ weeks and then go through labour I don't really see why a present from my DH would be such a bad thing. It's not essential, sure, but I'd certainly appreciate it.

hilarious thread - haven't read all but has really cheered me up after rubbish day - thanks everyone xxx

P.S can i have a 'thanks for my piles' present.....

What an awful idea. Am sure DW would have given me a that would have stripped paint if I had given her a 'push present'.

Not sure I would have welcomed a conception present from DW to me either. Although a 'well done dear' and a nice cuppa with a chocolate Hobnob would have been well received on a few occassions during TTC.

My grandma got a pork pie and a deodorant from my grandad when she had my mum. And they say romance is dead

truly horrible name and not commonplace from my experience. But I have come across people who expected presents from their other halves after giving birth. One actually marched her DH to the jewellers with the words - right, I've had two children now...

Definitely wouldn't have occurred to my DH, or me for that matter.

Think it's actually quite an old-fashioned idea though - a kind of throw-back to the days when the husband came in to see his wife after he'd smoked his cigar and she'd had a chance to get some slap on, then patted her on the back and handed over a carefully selected gift. My uncle (who's now in his 70s) gave my aunt a piece of jewellery for each son or something. Then she gave it to her daughter in laws when her sons got married.

If it's part of your family tradition or has 'happened' (?!) to a lot of your friends, I guess YANBU to expect something but only if your DH had a clue about it otherwise a bit unfair to expect him to know

Actually, should have clarified exactly what classifies as a push present. For example I don't think a bunch of flowers at some stage in the process is too much to expect - thought that counts etc

I got birth gifts (never heard of them being called Push Presents before!) but from my parents and my aunt. I knew about them because my dad had given my mum birth gifts when we were born. So I expected something from dh, but TBH wasn't entirely surprised when I didn't get anything. OTOH, I had hoped that he would get the message for dc2, but was equally unsurprised when, again, I got nothing from him.

My parents gave me the item my dad gave my mum when I was born. As far as I'm concerned it is now an heirloom, as will be the other gifts, and I'm really looking forward to being able to pass them down the generations.

I was lucky to get a cup of tea.

I have gone wrong somewhere.

erm..just why are people objecting to receiveing presents??

i mean any excuse is a good excuse for a present.

Why are posters so angry about this? It's not as if the gift is a reward or payment, it's an expression of joy, delight, pride - just like any other heartfelt gift.