to have managed to give birth to 2 children and still........

[Mamazon]

not have a clue about half of the pregnancy and TTC threads are on about?

I only found out recently what SPD was (i thought it was a type of power ranger) but there are things like HCG levels and how much they have increased.

WTF????

I wouldn't know what my HCG level was or how much it should have been.
Was i just a really ignorant person who didn't take any notice? does everyone else understand these threads?

surely im not the only one that just saw the little blue line and waited for 9 months.

Im starting to think im either really thick or that i have somehoe not dedicated enough time to my pregnancies.

I think it's best to pull it just because Mazamon's apology might be lost and people might come in and get upset before reading the rest of the discussion.

Honestly, being a long term TTCer is no fun and sometimes you have a bad day and if someone says something slightly 'wrong' it can just piss you off

it's not rational probably but it is real hurt. Anyway - I'm blethering on but just think if Mazamon were to get it deleted it might limit the amount of people having a go and also might stop any unintentional hurt. Which would be nice all round wouldn't it?

God no - don't pull it. It's actually a useful thread in that it shows how comments can be so open to interpretation based on all of our own personal experiences. I suppose I'm guilty of banging on because it's something that strikes a huge cord with me. Despite appearances, I'm not offended - just trying to show how the OP was clumsy and ill thought out. Not the end of the world.

ok,

I don't know then. Ha ha. I will stop banging on too!

hmmm, unintentional hurt. Well then, people might not want to mention their children walking or talking then. Cos I'll get hurt.
But that would be unreasoanble.
Or mentioning their dads cos I don't have one.
See, it would never stop. There was no intention to hurt.

I am sorry it hurt people, I hope they can feel better soon.

BUT tehre's been many a similar SN thread that MN has refused to pull due to it being 'educational'and I dont beliice in one set of rules for one etc.

Shame we cant put a 'RESOLVED' marker across like on some websites

Sorry you feel that way Riven
I can understand the hurt you feel and hopefully you can also understand how this thread might have upset people who have issues with TTC.

SN and Infertility are I think both very emotive subjects and sometimes the hurt we feel can be magnified or irrational. It's still hurt though, as you know.

DMRivened - how long is your name? But surely you can see that there is a differnce between the tone of a post which says 'My friends dad just died - WTF is she moaning about - I just got on with it when my dad died' as opposed to a thread which says 'My friends dad just died - do I need to do anything to help her/how can I find out?'

must change the name. Its from when the Daily Hate was cutting and pasting threads.

beanie I do agree with your last line- that's why it hink it pays us as the sensitive ones to try and be a bit less so when there is any chance of a misunderstanding. Not always easy, I've been bitten ahrd on here, but worth a shot.

Sassy, where does the OP accuse people of moaning?

Um so what is spd?

its a power ranger force

or its symphysis pubis dysfunction. Basically where the pregnancy hormones loosen all the ligaments it can cause problems with the pelvis rubbing and stuff. Very painful

Do you know what? yes i can see how some people would have read the initial sentance of my OP and possibly have taken that as a little bit smug, but im sorry i have read and re read the rest of the OP and my suibsequent posts and it is patently obvious i wasn't being smug.

Yes my son has ASD and so i can see why someone would think it clever to try and compare this thread with one asking about SN.

But no i wouldn't take offense to someone asking what ASD/SPD(in sn terms) means.

The difference is that the things that some of the TTC and pregnancy threads talk about are things that happen in every pregnancy, but i just didn't take any notice. i was totally ignorant to them. i wondered if everyone else took notice of these things and it was just me being lazy or ignorant and not taking the time to involve myself with my pregnancy.
if anything i was slagging myself off.

but if your offended im sorry, but there really was no rational need to be. If your struggling ot concieve i really do feel for you and i simply cannot imagine how difficult it must be for you. but if your going to get upset simply because someome mentions the fact they don't understand what your going on about then you really need to take some time out.

so yes by all means report the thread and get it deleted.

wghat an odd thread, so people don't know everything about pregnacy..well as Riven so rightly said people don't know everything about sn, but those threads don't get pulled cos some one is offended. you just get the mn email saying tough basically. imo if mn pull this thread they will have to pull all the "offensive" threads.

the thing is 2shoes i really really can't see where people have got offended.

at what stage did i say "why are people moaning"?? where exactly did i say that people shouldn't know these things?

in fact all i have said is that i felt bad for not knowing and that maybe i wasn't as good a mum as maybe i could have been whilst pregnant as i didn't dedicate enough time to finding these things out.

but im sick of explaining myself.
if people have actually read what i've put they will see it isn't at all offensive. if they have and still have their backs up then i think that says more about the way they deal with things than the way i have worded my post.

im so tired of spending days qapologising to people for the way they have taken something.

you don't need to apologise imo, i read your op and took as a "how thick am I" jokey one.and posted that I was as well.
I find it a bit off that people say get it pulled as they are offended.
I now know About HGG, I didn't before this thread. so it has taught at least one person something.
I hope mn hq don't delete it(can't see how they would considering some of the threads they leave)

thanks shiney.

i felt bad at first when i realised people were getting upset.

but havihng read some of the posts i just think some people are a bit barking.
I have a lot of sympathy for the reasons they have probably gotten so sensetive but at the same time they can't really expec the entire world to be sterile just so that they don't get offended.

now im just a bit pissed off frankly.

Mamazon, I don't think you did make a mistake posting this thread. I also think it's lovely that you have apologised for any offence caused.

Getting the thread pulled? seriously?

If every thread that has offended someone gets pulled I hope you enjoy the 2 active threads and the 5 left in the archives.

mamazon, just want to reiterate that in no way was i offended by your op. you didnt know these things. neither did i pre-mc. you cant speak french until you learn it, and you learn it for a reason. its the same with the ttc lingo.

tbh im more offended when people assume that its ok to offer advice on ttc when they have no experience simillar to mine, certainly not when people ask what Im tallking about.

Mamazon, not worth getting pissed over. Just roll your eyes and walk away

Happy Hijack - hello Lissie my lovely

gibbbbbbbooooooooonnnnnnnn where the bleeding hell have you been my lovely?

Had a bloody long break, started lurking a while back and now addicted again

Good to see you

(sorry for hijack, maybe it will deflect from the 'pull, pull, pull the thread' outrage)