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AIBU?

To think it's really, really distasteful to dress up as a 'sexy schoolgirl'?

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waitingforfanjo · 26/08/2009 23:36

It's not that I'm a prude or anything. I've done it myself in my twenties several times (for a party, not ahem private titillation)

It's just lately since I've had my own child, and with so much public awareness of paedophilia and its apparent standing as THE crime people hate most, it just seems to grate on me that people can think it's still ok to sexualise what is essentially a child's outfit.

I suppose what I'm trying to say (but not very well) is that it's a bit like dressing as a Nazi for a party. It's not funny because of all the bad connotations & just not the 'done' thing.( but not quite the same, IYSWIM)

I am probably BU, but it just makes me feel a bit 'eew!'

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AMumInScotland · 27/08/2009 09:58

I'm with SGB on this one (well, it had to happen eventually....) Dressing up in "sexy schoolgirl" outfits is not about paedophilia, any more than wearing nurse outfits is about believing it's ok to sexually assault NHS staff. Ditto French maids, etc.

And those of you who think it's icky for people's overweight parents have an imaginative sex life should get over yourselves. Sex is not the preserve of the young and skinny, however much the advertisers want you to believe so!

TrillianAstra · 27/08/2009 10:00

I figured we were dressing up as sexy sixthformers really. Not sexy primary-schoolers. St Trinian's anyone?

CyradisTheSeer · 27/08/2009 10:11

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harleyd · 27/08/2009 10:13

sgb talks sense

PortBlacksandResident · 27/08/2009 10:47

"And those of you who think it's icky for people's overweight parents have an imaginative sex life should get over yourselves. Sex is not the preserve of the young and skinny, however much the advertisers want you to believe so!"

I was about to post exactly that too AMIS.

OrmIrian · 27/08/2009 11:05

Well that may be true but it is still attempting to look v young. And there is something transgressive about it that is, I suspect, what makes it attractive to some.

I totally agree that nothing wrong with older, and less than lithe, people enjoying a varied sex life. But the fact that they feel obliged to dress up as a younger person to do it rather defeats the object.

AMumInScotland · 27/08/2009 11:15

But I don't think it's about looking "young", or really anything to do with school or children. I think the "sexy schoolgirl" outfit has a life of its own completely separate from that, in the same way as nurse or maid outfits do - it's not that there's anything inherently sexy about being a cleaner, but it has become a "standard" grown-up dressing-up costume.

When people see these outifts, they think of other adults they have seen in them, or films or saucy postcards. It's become part of that whole "packaged sexiness" thing.

njmomof1 · 27/08/2009 11:15

AMIS and PB&R - I agree with what you're both saying...wasn't shocked at that it's perfectly normal, but I am shocked about them being quite soooo..... open? Wanted to say shameless but not right.

I'm sure you know what I mean anyway. I wouldn't consider myself a prude but I don't think I'd appreciate it being flaunted in my face. And why didn't they set up their own eBay account??? They've got a mail address anyway.

As for the original question - I think the St. Trinian thing not too bad...I've gone to a party like it, Straw Hat, Hockey stick and all. But I do think some of the outfits on the market are very cheap looking.

morningpaper · 27/08/2009 11:21

This is paedo hysteria rotting your brain.

About fiften years ago I went to the Torture Garden dressed as a young schoolgirl and got thrown out for not being 'fetish' enough. In them days even people in Grange Hill were fucking their teachers...

It's the uniform (which lots of people like) which you wear at a time when you are discovering your sexuality (so lots of people have a fetish for this). It's the most normal and logical and utterly boring of all fetishes to have. It's A NORMAL FETISH.

Seriously, I know we are paedo-obsessed but fairly soon we are going to pathologise any sort of sex that doesn't involve the missionary position with the lights out.

YABU

Morloth · 27/08/2009 11:21

I think people can dress however they like and do whatever they want as long as everyone involved in any shenanigans is a consenting adult.

BalloonSlayer · 27/08/2009 11:36

I think in the old St Trinian's films the younger girls were sort of the urchins in their oversized school uniforms, then in the Sixth form they were suddenly < saxophone music > in short skirts etc. They were either child: scruff/thug or woman: sexy siren. Both of which were frightening to the male victim, the classic hapless, reserved, sexually-repressed englishman. And that's where it possibly came from. Maybe?

Agree these days it's v inappropriate and wouldn't consider it.

Do sexy nurse's outfits come with plastic vomit down the front from pissheads in A&E?

mayorquimby · 27/08/2009 11:39

i don't see what the connection with paedophelia is. unless of course men are having their women folk dress up as school girls, taking one look at them and then going out the door to fuck children.

JodieO · 27/08/2009 11:45

Agree with SGB

waitingforfanjo · 27/08/2009 11:49

Ooh, lovely, I like an interesting mix of views. Love the idea of paedo-hysteria rotting my brain
I know it's not about paedophilia, per se. In fact I think that's what I'm trying to say, our society has become so PC & sensitive & obsessed with anything that might suggest padophilia is ok, it just suprises me that sexy schoolgirl outfits haven't gone down the nazi-costume route.

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TitsalinaBumsquash · 27/08/2009 12:00

I met my DP when i was still in uniform, i used to wear my uniform rather like one would find on a 'sexy school girl'

DP finds it a turn on as it takes him back to how we were, young and care free and i was also a little more adventurous in those days, i look nothing like a child in the otufit i wear though.

Its not like he pretends to be a school master having dirty thoughts about one of his pupils or anything.....

SolidGoldBrass · 27/08/2009 12:51

I have to say that some people do still dress up in 'nazi' uniforms for sexual thrills - the fetish scene is forever exploding in debates about whether or not this is OK ie is it OK in private, is it OK to wear the uniform if you have replaced the insignia with other symbols to subvert the ideology, is it OK to wear it if you are actually Jewish yourself... etc.
Some people have swastika-hysteria on a level with the more utterly witless NOTW-reader peedo-hysteria IMO (small swastikas are often to be found painted on the front doors of Hindu (I think - or is it Sikh, no offence intended I simply don't know) as part of a design that appears to have religious or cultural significance totally other than indicating support for fascism).

PitysSake · 27/08/2009 12:53

"I went to torture garden"

lordy lord

the things poeple say!"

PitysSake · 27/08/2009 12:54

as someone who has dealt with people and child porn and unfort had to view it several times videos and images, I would never dress up as under my age,
alTHOUGH i am soncidering being spongebob for a fancy dress party and he is about 8, although he does seem to be in paid employ..

PitysSake · 27/08/2009 12:55

how old is spongebob

BalloonSlayer · 27/08/2009 13:01

Well two points:

Noddy is also in paid employment, drives a car and has his own house and is definitely supposed to be a boy.

If he is about 8 in our years, what is that in Sponge years?

Oh, and are you implying that you are dressing as Spongebob in order to sexually titillate?

GetOrfMoiLand · 27/08/2009 13:17

Saw a bloke dressed as Sponge Bob in Ilfracombe Carnival one year, in the rain. It looked a sorry sight - a soggy cardboard box with green tighted chicken legs sticking out the bottom.

Re the sexy schoolgirl, I don't like it personally as have teenage daughter, makes me feel uncomfortable. Plus, why would any normal adult woman want to dress up as a schoolgirl, sexy or not. Showing 8 inches of cellulitey thigh in a gym slip, pretend frevkles on a mothergood-ravage face. You are just inviting the general public to think 'yeah, like you look fifteen!'

PitysSake · 27/08/2009 13:19

i htink its a retro thing to when we were all hormone tastic but my training on paedophiles' modus operandi is that society seemign to condone what they do and that " they all want to have sex with underage kids but are socialised to think its wrong" is a major step in going form impulse to acting out fantasies.

thats all
yes i think spongebob isa working driving er 8 year old

PitysSake · 27/08/2009 13:21

spongebob thread

sheepgomeep · 27/08/2009 13:37

I hate ittoo.

We were encouraged to dress up in school wear for work (asda) to promote this years new uniform.

I refused

sheepgomeep · 27/08/2009 13:40

my ex ran off with a girl still in school uniform (bit of a sore point with me)

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