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AIBU?

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to think people who do this are selfish twats?!

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motherbeyond · 20/08/2009 13:14

take the sofa's in places like costa,when there are only one or maybe two of them?god,it annoys the hell out of me.
i come in with kids hanging off me..pram/double..buggy board..nappy bags..and mother! the only place to stick the pram is by the sofas.the only area with enough space to sit comfortably with everyone is the sofa area.but.fucking.no...there's some old bloody biddy nursing a luke warm americano.aaarrghhh.

i went into our local(coffee house..not pub!!) the other day and there was a guy sitting on one sofa(30 ish..slob-like).i had usual baggage and said "excuse me,is anyone sitting here?"

he replied " my wife is going to sit there" and looked away.

"oh,right" i said..thinking,why cant she sit on the sofa next to you and we'll have the other?! just rude.

if there's only one or two of you.sit at a table,with two chairs!

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VinegarTits · 20/08/2009 13:39

yau and a bit of an arse, tis tuff shit innit

SomeGuy · 20/08/2009 13:40

oh ffs, what gives you special privileges? They've paid just as much for their coffee as you have, and as they don't have any kids running around, they are unlikely to put off other customers.

SomeGuy · 20/08/2009 13:41

motherbeyond - are you saying you trying and nab TWO sofas for you and your kids?

IsItMeOr · 20/08/2009 13:43

YABU. It bugs me when people let their toddlers run around screaming, but if I don't like it I'm free to leave. This is just life.

But wish all the seats in coffee houses were comfy ones.

GibbonInARibbon · 20/08/2009 13:43

too much coffee perchance

YABU, sorry but first come, first seated on soft settee.

Roomfor2 · 20/08/2009 13:44

YANBU to think that it makes sense that a couple sits at a 2-person table, leaving the 'family-sized' tables for the families!

But, the sofas are generally more comfortable, and if the place isn't full, most people would not think to take a smaller table just in case a larger party came in.

Agree it is v annoying though. You'd think they would have offered to move over or share their sofa so you could have the other one. The fact that they didn't probably makes them selfish tw@ts, but not the fact that they sat there in the first place, as they probably just didn't think.

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motherbeyond · 20/08/2009 13:44

I DON'T think because i'm a MOTHER i'm entitled to a pigging sofa!! let me reiterate,more of another person in need of more space.fine,if i was sitting at a sofa minus kids,because it had been free when i had got there,then great. but if i saw someone who looked like they could do with more room, id say "i'll shift up" or " you can i have the sofa's,i'll sit over there!"

also, my gran has bad joints,and if she has to sit on a sofa,we have to haul her out of it,by each arm..very unglam!she would much prefer a chair with a straight back and of a certain height.

i know it's not life and death..but you know not many aibu posts are!!just a chance to vent/bicker..botyh of which i enjoy!

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Confuzzeled · 20/08/2009 13:45

YABU

GibbonInARibbon · 20/08/2009 13:46

and if I saw you were peeved I would think you so unreasonable, I would casually lounge on said settee and slurp my coffee and follow with a deep contented sigh.

GypsyMoth · 20/08/2009 13:47

kids stuff seems to be put on menu as a kind of after thought. its not designed for kids is it? i mean,sofas at the BACK of the shop? so you have to manouvere buggy all way through the shop!! just for a sofa?? is there no area for buggies? no,well that tells you something.

can't you get your dc a take out babycino or whatever??
or buy a fruitshoot from greggs? much better idea

hot coffee does damage,feel the need to point that out to you. as you seem to think i'm clutching at straws. (just in case you end up in a&e clutching a hurt child)

MrsBadger · 20/08/2009 13:47

actually I don't think someone already installed on a comfy sofa in a coffee shop IBU not to invite a mum and horde of kids to share it with them.

VinegarTits · 20/08/2009 13:47

arf

kittywise · 20/08/2009 13:48

yep, it's annoying but tough shit. they have every much a right to sit there as you do.

BalloonSlayer · 20/08/2009 13:48

God YANBU, I feel your pain: the coffee shop I go to has only ONE set of comfy chairs/sofa and absolutely no one ever sits in them except this set of up-themselves, self-congratulating twats who are always shrieking and over-reacting to the smallest thing.

They behave as if that bit of seating belongs to them. One of them even works there FFS, she spends so much time with her mates she ought to get the bloody sack but it's as if the manager is in love with her or something.

VinegarTits · 20/08/2009 13:48

Go to MacDonalds instead, kids will have a better time

diddl · 20/08/2009 13:49

Do your children have anything to eat or drink?
If so, aren´t you better off at a table?
And if theer´s nothing for the children,why bother going in?

kathyis6incheshigh · 20/08/2009 13:50

ROFL Balloonslayer.
I think I know the place you mean.

MrsBadger · 20/08/2009 13:50

Balloonslayer - I bet no-one with kids ever goes in there though...

violethill · 20/08/2009 13:50

Still don't get your reasoning OP

Who are you to make judgements about who is 'most in need?'

As others have pointed out, some conditions, eg arthritis, can afflict people of all ages and isn't apparent to the observer.

The 30 year old man might have been having a god-awful day and was desperate to get out and relax with a coffee.

I know that on the (rare) occasions I nip out in my lunchbreak, I probably look like your typical totally together professional woman. Would you expect me to vacate a sofa for you? Because inwardly I might be just as frazzled as you are.

I think the real issue is that some people think that giving birth automatically confers a sense of entitlement on them... the rest of us ought to just budge up/move along/put up with your kids in our faces.

Like I said, get over yourself - you and your kids are no more important than anyone else on the planet!

Roomfor2 · 20/08/2009 13:52

In restaurants, I always sit at a table appropriate for the size of my party - i.e. a couple at a 2 person table or a 3-4 party at a 4 table, but not at a large table designed for 8 people.

But I think in coffee houses, the sofas often swing it! They are always the first tables to be taken, people are there to relax. It's just unfortunate that they also seem to be the biggest tables, so larger parties lose out.

[I wish there was an 'ah well, c'est la vie' shrug emoticon]

Overmydeadbody · 20/08/2009 13:52

YABU obviously.

They are no more selfish twats than you are quite frankly.

Having hordes of kids hanging off you doesn't give you special rights over the sofas.

If I'm in a coffee shop sans DS I will happily sit on a free sofa, and not move for a harrassed nappy-laden puch-chair pushing woman with hordes of kids. No thanks.

VinegarTits · 20/08/2009 13:54

You sound like Bianca

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motherbeyond · 20/08/2009 13:54

plus..i can guarantee you,that my children do not run around screaming isitmeor. that pisses me off too.which is why my kids know that that would be unacceptable...so there!

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BitOfFun · 20/08/2009 13:55

Gibbononaribbon has got it

GypsyMoth · 20/08/2009 13:56

OMG!! someguy is right!!!
you DID say you put pram across the 2 sofas so dc are hemmed in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

YOU TAKE 2 SOFAS FOR YOURSELF!!????

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