Thanks for the well-written, coherent points of view - as for the others, well, I imagine the DM will have a field day!
No, I probably shouldn't have posted on AIBU, but I've been here long enough to expect to get a cross-section of views, which is fine.
I can see that some people share my view, and seem to understand why I was a bit about this. FWIW one of the other Mums just called me and spontaneously said "what a bl**dy cheek!" so i'm clearly not out on a limb on this one.
I never said we wouldn't let the AP come, or made any suggestion that we'd be anything other than welcoming and inclusive to her - that assumption has been made by those people trying to read something different into my posts (some would call it 'picking a fight'?)
The revelance of her being Polish is only that she is "non-native english speaking" - it's shorter to write! I know for a fact that her English is poor, I wasn't making an assumption that Polish = poor English.
I think Katisha has summed it up well:
Not a school trip. Not a toddler group. A day out with friends. And their children.
It's not all the class - it was just 5 mums, who get on well together, and are friends. If some of you think that is a 'clique' then so be it - but to most people it's just a 'group of friends' who I think are entitled to choose who they spend a day out with?
Not everyone is always looking for 'new' friends; not everyone finds it easy and relaxing to be in the company of a complete stranger for long periods, let alone a whole day.
FedUp - I agree - the irony is hilarious!