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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that you should at least hoover before having a kids party?

110 replies

allaboutme · 13/08/2009 16:47

I'm probably being a middle class snob, but have just taken DCs to a birthday party at a boy from school's house.

The cream carpet was black with dogs hairs. There was dog hair in the party food.
There was a washing bin overflowing with dirty underwear all on the floor in the bathroom.
At one point my DS dropped his dummy and it was so dirty when I picked it up, I stuck it straight in my bag!

On top of that there were only fizzy drinks on offer - i had to ask for something non fizzy

and the house stank of smoke. Birthday boys Mum nipped out for a fag a couple of times during the 2 hour party.

AIBU to think they could have at least hoovered or tidied a little bit before inviting 15 kids and their parents round???

OP posts:
beanieb · 13/08/2009 16:49

Oh dear! I won't be inviting you to mine then

K999 · 13/08/2009 16:50

Why bother? After a kids party the place would be trashed anyway...

OneStroke · 13/08/2009 16:51

It's terribly common to notice let alone comment on other peoples' housekeeping skills. They've probably got more important things to do than housework. I know I have.
YABU.

Original poster
allaboutme · 13/08/2009 16:55

thought i might be unreasonable

just cant imagine living in house in that state, let alone other people seeing it

i actually feel a bit sick at the thought of it, feel like i've got a dog hair stuck in my throat -perhaps i have ocd.....

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TrinityRhinoIsInDetention · 13/08/2009 16:56

I'm not inviting you to mine then

poopscoop · 13/08/2009 16:56

snob!

Get a life

poopscoop · 13/08/2009 16:57

No chance of you being middle class. They would not comment.

dal21 · 13/08/2009 16:57

YANBU

You dont have to make the place immaculate by any means. But the rest of the stuff (other peoples dirty underwear on the floor) - is gross!

ilovesprouts · 13/08/2009 16:58

yanbu ,she could of given it a quick vac round !! dirty bitch !!hair in party food yuk !!

gingernutlover · 13/08/2009 17:00

no way would my house ever get to that state let alone anyway else see it like it

but

other people have different priorities, what is important to you is obviously not to them

to be fair i would be feeling the same as you about the dog hairs in the food though - it is unreasonable to give other peoples kids food with dog hairs in it - yuk

Original poster
allaboutme · 13/08/2009 17:00

oh i'm not middle class at all

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mrspnut · 13/08/2009 17:01

YANBU - a bit of mess is fine, dog hair in the food is certainly not.

SoupDragon · 13/08/2009 17:02

snob.

ilovesprouts · 13/08/2009 17:05

i dont think shes been a snob, no way would i have a kids party with my house like that !!

Greensleeves · 13/08/2009 17:05

I am so heartened by the responses on this thread

we don'[t have a dog and I would clean before a party, so there certainly wouldn't be hairs/grot in the food

but my house is a pigsty, if you popped in to see me unexpectedly this week you OULWD find piles of grotty washing, piles of ironing, carpets not hoovered, unwashed pans on hob etc

In my defence I have been ill for ages (now have UTI, fever and seem to be coming down with another cold/fluey thing - joy unbounded)

but if you popped in to see me without calling ahead you would probably think I was a disgusting slattern

in fact I am keeping my friends at arms length and not letting them pop in and see me because I think they would run a mile if they saw my filthy floors and overflowing washing pile

proverbial · 13/08/2009 17:06

Its snobby to not want dog hair in your food? I'm practically a communist but if that makes me bourgois nose in the air then count me in!

herladyship · 13/08/2009 17:06

smoking - yuk
hair in the food - yuk

carpet - tbh i can understand why someone might wait unitl AFTER the party to hoover

brave woman to invite 15 kids & parents round though, sounds like a nightmare to me!!

Sn0wflake · 13/08/2009 17:09

YANBU - it should be clean..... I don't care if a place is untidy but if you have kids you should keep it hygienic. Is it really snobby to have a few standards? Then I'll be one thanks.

junglist1 · 13/08/2009 17:09

Just be grateful you were invited to the party. The rest is neither here nor hair really

Greensleeves · 13/08/2009 17:10

what do you do when you are ill then snowflake? I can't afford staff

HerBeatitude · 13/08/2009 17:13

God this middle class snobbery about hygiene.

Thinking dog-hairs in food is not OK is not snobby, it's sane. Thinking it's OK is some kind of perverse middle-class reverse snobbery - as long as we're not Hyacinth Bucket, who cares if there's salmonella on the piano? Stuff and nonsense, pass the parcel.

Gawd 'elp us.

HerBeatitude · 13/08/2009 17:13

God this middle class snobbery about hygiene.

Thinking dog-hairs in food is not OK is not snobby, it's sane. Thinking it's OK is some kind of perverse middle-class reverse snobbery - as long as we're not Hyacinth Bucket, who cares if there's salmonella on the piano? Stuff and nonsense, pass the parcel.

Gawd 'elp us.

Original poster
allaboutme · 13/08/2009 17:14

but if you are ill then its not usual standards and of course thats fine
if you were having a party, even if you felt ill before hand and didnt have time to clean up, surely you'd ask a friend to help out or something, just so it was a bit hygenic?

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HerBeatitude · 13/08/2009 17:15

I'd just cancel the party if I was ill. Imagine 15 kids runnign around when you're feeling like shit

HerBeatitude · 13/08/2009 17:16

I don't agree that it should be clean (my house is a tip at the moment because I've been ill too) but you shouldn't invite guests and serve them dog-hair sandwiches. It's inhospitable.