to tell my friend her ds is too old for a pushchair

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My freind takes her ds out in a pushchair where ever they go - including to school. The child is 6 in October and heading into year 1 - they live about 10 minutes walk from school and he can barely fit in it. I told her I thought she should reconsider using a pushchair as I thought the kids might tease him, she is highly offended AIBU?

hmm till recently ds has been in a buggy sn one but looed like normal one and i know few people judged me as have been out and about as at glance he appears nt .The same peoples faces recently as ds now got all grown up and got a wheelchair few of them have had decntly to blush and apolgise for thinking ds is lazy and the rest i just grin at as he runs their toes over

5 does seem old to be in a buggy. i leave 10 minutes earlier and walk mine. ds2 was 3 in the november and we walked to school after christmas holidays. it gives them exercise and teaches them abit more road sense.yes it takes longer and sometimes a hastle but 8 months down the line of not having a buggy the boys are now both really good.

GO - true, and if their relationship is good it might be ok. But it would haveto be good I think.

But I think onlookers have zero business judging. So we are in agreement there I guess

I guess it is my job to polish rl balls too, and not give a fig if we get judgey looks. Might put some organic freshly pressed kiwi juice in a frootshoot bottle for full effect

YANBU - if he's able and capable then he should bloody well walk! What is it with parents being held to ransom by their own kids. You can't keep doing EVERYTHING that they want to just for an easy life.

Why would you consider pushing a willing child in a pushchair, which make yours aswell your child's lives easier and safer(this child has a tendency to run into traffic) considered being held to ransom by your child

I think this child is too old to be in a pushchair. However, not sure I would tell a friend that unless she asked me.

I feel terrible when occasionally I put my 4.5yo in doublebuggy with 11mo for school run when he's asleep. I make him walk any other time as I think he must learn - he start school in Jan. He complains all the way and has a paddy (its 20min walk each way) but how else will he learn?

I'm suprised he will go in it as my 5yo nearly 6 wouldn't want to in front of his friends

"How else will he learn?"

Don't worry about it Rosiest, and don't feel that you have to "teach" him not to go in the pushchair. It's not something he'll have to "learn". They just grow out of it. It's fun but eventually it's not that great.

TBH its peer pressure from looks you get that makes me feel he shouldn't be in it. It would make my life a damn sight easier if I didn't have to drag him to and from school everyday.
But I do kind of think he's too old - although he is a very immature 4.5yo so this has alot to do with it!

Try not to worry about the looks. It's none of anyone else's business and if it makes things easier for you and yours and isn't hurting anyone else, then why not?
It'll probably not be for that long now anyway.

I know There are others in his nursery that arrive in a pushchair and I don't judge them. Its each to their own I guess.

just ignore it, he'll walk on his own eventually. sounds like laziness to me on both accounts. I personally would make a joke out of it, be light hearted if you really can't keep it to yourself.