To refuse to give DD's friend another choice

[Sparkler]

I'm looking after a friend's children today. I've just made them some lunch, sandwiches etc, and offered them the choice of which crisps they wanted. Two minutes later one of friend's dds (who is almost 10) tells me that she doesn't like her crisps as they were too salty for her and could she swap them. I told her that she did have a choice which ones she wanted and that because she had opened them she should eat them up (nasty witch Sparkler alert lmao)
Next thing she comes into the kitchen and tells me that she had put them out on the bird table and could she have another packet.
AIBU for telling her that she couldn't have any more and that she'd had her choice and she shouldn't have wasted them like that?
Oh dear - I'm so glad I don't have four girls of my own

You can use bashed up crisps for a topping on a pasta bake type thing. I'd have done that with the leftover ones and given her another packet. If it was right after being served lunch, she had obviously tasted one, and not like it...rather than eating half a packet and demanding another. Agree with those who have pointed out you wouldn't make an adult guest eat something they didn't like. I can understand the countdown to payday big shop reluctance to waste food though

Hmmm, sample menu.
Well I can tell you what we've had tonight.
Main dish was a chilli.
Also did rice, chips, mince+onion pie, mixed peas and carrots, baked beans, baked potato, chicken fingers, chicken fillets(southern fried style).

Everyone chose what they wanted.

There was also a gnocchi bake from last night if anyone wanted any of that.

Oh and one dd always has grated cheese over baked beans if she has them.

did you hear that THUD? Twas the sound of my chin hitting the floor!! Wow juuule that is a lot of choice - hope your dcs know how lucky they are

The crisps aren't really that big a deal, are they?

Another THUD here - I can't believe you manage to produce all that. That is literally like a restaurant.

I spent over an hour cooking one dish this evening, so you must never be out of the kitchen.

Why don't you just make something they all have to eat?

yabvvu to tell a child to eat up something that she found to be too salty.

It doesn't take that long. I'm used to it now so once I've got everything together it's not so bad.
Worse is when they start coming in at different times. Then it can drag on for a while (hours?). But now the older ones sort themselves out if they are not there when I do the main meal.
They don't always like the same stuff, hence the different options. It's not like that every night but there is usually at least 2 choices. I've found that younger children's tastes are not always the same as the older children (children?). And I like what I like which isn't always the same as them. Soooo, I make different things.
Sunday lunch/chicken dinner stuff like that, everyone likes something so it's more a case of leaving something off the plate rather than cooking something different.

YANBU - A 9 year old knows enough about crisps to make an informed choice surely? Sounds a bit bratty to me. Bird table thing very annoying and manipulative.

I do not generally buy crisps, but sometimes get one of the larger bags and put in a bowl to share around, thereby avoiding the problem of fuss pots. If they don't like them they don't eat any because there is no alternative. My children have never yet refused a crisp of any kind

You gave them each a packet of crisps?? ;-) I prefer to do "no. children - 1" bags in a bowl on table and they share :-) Sometimes i mix up the flavours just for fun!

Oh god im dreading the Ds's friends round for dinner stage.

Just sorting out my "emergency chair" al a Peter Kay style to take over to Juuules house for dinner!

OP - I'd expect this kind of behaviour from my 5 year old, but not an almost 10 year old.

YANBU - it's not like she wasn't given a choice at the beginning as it? Some kids are just PITAs.

at Simplesusan. That's given me a chuckle this morning.