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At nursery allowing 3 year old to watch coraline?

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monkeypinkmonkey · 10/07/2009 23:04

My 3 year old watched some of this at nursey today. Am I being unreasonable at being concerned by this? I don't think I am. He said he was scared which to me is enough as I think I'm going to nursery manager on monday. But just wanted to check I wasn't being PFB? I checked and it's a PG which the bbfc say may upset younger and sensitive children. Thing is I only really let him watch cbeebies as this is directed at his age.

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coppola · 10/07/2009 23:05

no you are not being pfb (I bloody hate that term anyway)

coraline not suitable for a 3yo.

coppola · 10/07/2009 23:06

in it's entirety though - I suppose some of the scenes, such as the ones with the mice, would be ok.

TrinityRhino · 10/07/2009 23:07

my 2 and 4 year olds thought it was fab

it is scary but only as in the bad thing is scary and then we beat her

its a fab film

but I do think that the nursery should be checking with parents before showing the 'newer' films that kids wont have seen already

and if he only saw a bit he hasn't seen the good ending

actually rethinking it, 3 is too young I reckon without mummy there

we went to the cinema and they were with me so different entirely

Merrylegs · 10/07/2009 23:09

Blimey. What were the nursery thinking? Coraline has a kind of disturbing, nightmarish quality about it. Not at all suitable for a 3 year old IMO. Not least because they wouldn't really understand it. My eight year old enjoyed it but was a bit creeped out by it.

YANBU or PFB at all.

godiegogodiegogo · 10/07/2009 23:11

YANBU, but then I would not be impressed at nursery showing DD any movies while she was there. I do not pay them to stick her in front of the tele. i choose what she watches and when.

paisleyleaf · 10/07/2009 23:11

yanbu
PG means 'parental' guidance....not 'keyworker'.

I've not seen Coraline, but my 6yr old nephew found it too scarey, and he's quite desensitised with much of his viewing and gaming.

The thing is, is there is so much choice out there of stuff to watch, there is really no shortage of films for young children. So it's unecessary to have them watching something that is inappropriate

crazylizzy · 10/07/2009 23:11

YANBU, I just don't think it's an appropriate film to show in a nursery of all places.

By the way, whats PFB?

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monkeypinkmonkey · 10/07/2009 23:12

Thank you! Just wanted to know before I went to speak to her. I mean I was freaked out by the trailer (i'm a softy).

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janeite · 10/07/2009 23:17

YANBU - I haven't seen the film yet but have read the book and it is not at all designed for pre-schoolers. The story is quite complex and has quite deep themes that are far too sophisticated for tinies.

MissSunny · 10/07/2009 23:21

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janeite · 10/07/2009 23:23

It IS a children's story - but not intended for such young children by any means. I teach it to Year 8 and dd1 readit when she was ten and dd2 read it when she was 12.

MissSunny · 11/07/2009 01:20

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ll31 · 11/07/2009 01:29

definetly you're not unreasonable .. saw it, and wouldn't take very young child ,, though in some waysm, maybe young child might actually be less upset than say 8 or 9 year old in terms of understanding ... no, you're definitely completely right, its a bizarre choice of film for young kids

nooka · 11/07/2009 05:18

I decided it wasn't suitable for my eight year old! But then it might well pass many toddlers by. A very odd choice though, and really nurseries shouldn't be in the habit of showing films. A little bit of CBeebies type TV here and there for quiet times maybe. However I remember my nursery doing this sort of thing at the end of the day too (mostly Disney tosh though).

Aeschylus · 11/07/2009 08:21

of course what you could say is WTF are the doing watching a film that is "technically" not released yet on DVD....

you should wind them up, as I expect a staff member downloaded it..

get some free weeks

bruces · 11/07/2009 09:10

I thought the film was a PG my 13 yr old saw it and said it was a bit scary! Aren't they meant to get your permission or let you know in advance what they plan to show.......bit dodgy about where they got if from as Aeschlus said before

Kayzr · 11/07/2009 09:16

I agree with Aeschylus!! It isn't released on dvd until the 12th October!! So they are breaing the law

bluejeans · 11/07/2009 09:18

YANBU My DDs after school/holiday club shows DVDs sometimes and they have to be U cert due to some of the children being under 5. Not sure if it's their own rule or from the Care Commission etc but makes sense to me!

Also a bit shocked at them showing a pirate DVD!

lottiejenkins · 11/07/2009 09:29

Crazylizzy PFB is precious first born! I wouldnt think it is a suitable film for a three year old! Also agree about showing a pirate film as well!

Frizbe · 11/07/2009 09:44

No way suitable to be shown at Pre School, what were they thinking Pirate Film too you can have a field day with that one!

melpomene · 11/07/2009 12:01

YANBU. Coraline is a great film, but dark and menacing. In any nursery group there will be some children who are sensitive and easily scared, so it's safest to stick to U cert.

I did take my 4yo to see it in the cinema and she enjoyed it, but it was my decision to take her based on the knowledge that she is robust and not easily scared. I wouldn't want anyone else to choose to show her something like that without consulting me.

janeite · 11/07/2009 15:55

I was talking to dd1 about this thread this morning and the first thing she said was, 'Why the flip is a nursery watching pirate DVDS?' - I hadn't clicked about that last night. You should deffo complain and tell them you will report them if it happens again - outrageous.

brimfull · 11/07/2009 16:08

I would be pissed off, definitely complain.

I wouldn't take ds 6yr as he is a woos when it comes to scary things.

MollieO · 11/07/2009 16:13

Not acceptable without asking you first. I didn't take ds (5) to see this as we saw a trailer of it whilst at another film and he thought it was scary (he is not easily scared). I didn't want a repeat of my childhood where I didn't sleep for 6 mths after seeing Scrooge at that age with my grandma (she was banned from ever taking me to the cinema again).

Also it must have been a pirate DVD so your 3 yr old dd is effectively a receiver of stolen property!

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monkeypinkmonkey · 13/07/2009 07:34

Thanks everyone,
Rolls up sleeves ready to speak to the manager this morning.

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