Nursery manager kissing DS on mouth, would it bother you?

[Wigglesworth]

My DS is nearly 1 and goes to nursery 3 days a week. They are generally really lovely with him but the manager, who is very hands on with the children, kisses him on the mouth quite often. I may be being very PFBish about him and I will get my tin hat ready but this is something I really don't like, I would never kiss anyones child on the mouth but my own. Would you tell her to stop doing it or just let her get on with it? Do you think AIBU?

If you don't like it, ask her not to. Your baby. When you see it happen, say loudly to him: "kisses on the lips are only for mummy darling, give X a kiss on the cheek to say goodbye". Then, just in case she's a bit dense, follow up with: "I just don't like it when he kisses other people on the lips" said with smile.

yanbu kisses from the fam only on lips

Blondeshavemorefun - no I wouldn't feel different if it was a Nanny doing it as she could still have a cold sore virus. Not everyone knows when they've got an outbreak coming.

Fanjita so the only reason you dont want the carer to kiss is that they MAY have a cold sore coming

you could say the same about you,your dh, gp's, family and anyone else who may kiss your child

so therefore that means NEVER kiss them

Yes it does mean, for my DH and I, never kiss children on the lips (or adults except each other ) and we don't but DS gets loads of kisses on the cheeks, head, belly etc

I guess it's also partly how a parent/carer has been brought up themselves, maybe? Although a person could change that if they felt strongly enough that only lip kissing equals affection.

It's certainly been an interesting thread.

This week alone my DS has put the following in his mouth. The door-stop. My flip-flop. Un-identified matter from the floor. Soil. And licked the bin. Unless the nursery staff has a cold sore (and I would expect them to be professional about that) I would be impressed with their bravery of wanting to kiss my DS on his lips. As far as I am concerned when my DS is in nursery I want him to be shown as much love and affection as he has at home and that includes (if he wants them) kisses on the mouth.
My DH disagrees with me and thinks nursery staff shouldn't kiss on the mouth and should turn away if he tries to.

pmsl@licking the bin - dont you feed your ds

yes this thread has def been interesting

i shall carry on receiving slobbery snotty lovely kisses from my charges and return them, though mine will not be S&S - slobbery&snotty

never mind kissing them on the lips, what about holding their hands!
Have you any idea what horrible habits children have?
They are constantly picking their noses, wiping their noses with their hands, picking their bottoms and both boys and girls seem obsessed with having their hands in their underwear.
ugh

Wow, not been on for a few days, I can't believe my OP has had such a huge response, thanks for all your replies.
Myself and DH kiss DS on lips but I don't like others outside of our immediate family doing that. Kisses and cheeks, head etc and loads of cuddles are all fine, I want them to show him loads of affection. I like Ruperts suggestion about telling DS in front of manager that he should save lip kisses for Mummy and Daddy.
Oh BTW he has fungal infection on his tongue and suspected hand foot and mouth which my DH has subsequently caught too, nice nice nice.

Your poor DS (and DH) - hope he gets well soon - it does, however, give you the ideal excuse to speak to the nursery manager since it is entirely possible tht she has been exposed to this too?

clemette had exact same thought about breasts when people are going on about lips being too intimate!! Lips are for lovers? And breasts?.... Of course they arent, that is different when you are feeding a child or kissing a child.

How the hell is kissing your own child, or even someone else's in anyway sexual.

And mouths are unhygenic?? WTF, of course there are germs there, but there are germs everywhere, and frankly avoiding my sons mouth because of germs is akin to a thread on here a few years back where folk were using rubber/ latex gloves to do nappy changes on their own children because it was 'dirty'. Stupid and shocking.

Like someone else said, I am just glad we are passed the stage of suprise tongue!

I kiss DS where he wants to be kissed, and I hope so does everyone else who he loves and loves him. I find it a very sad world where people are upset that a loving caring person is doing something sexual by kissing a child.

If i say 'give mummy a kiss' to my 3 year old she automatically goes for the lips. Am i supposed to tell her no lip kisses for whatever reason, germy, inappropriate, slobbery. That makes me very sad.

Can't say i'm too bothered about other people kissing my kids on the lips, it's up to them if they want covered in snot. But i kiss them on their little baby lips and love it.

That was my first thought Kerry.