Nursery manager kissing DS on mouth, would it bother you?

[Wigglesworth]

My DS is nearly 1 and goes to nursery 3 days a week. They are generally really lovely with him but the manager, who is very hands on with the children, kisses him on the mouth quite often. I may be being very PFBish about him and I will get my tin hat ready but this is something I really don't like, I would never kiss anyones child on the mouth but my own. Would you tell her to stop doing it or just let her get on with it? Do you think AIBU?

lol, mp.

The film is sealed by paint, glue and spagbol juice, lightly dusted with a spray of carer's perfume.

Would not have it any other way.

I'm in the kissing brigade - it is lovely for children to feel loved and cared for. I love it when my daughter comes home smelling of her keyworkers perfume - shes obviously had a lot of love that day

I agree with that too FimbleHobbs, I'm all for cuddles and closeness with keyworkers, kisses too (if the KW is brave enough to go in for one) just not on the lips

People kissing DC on the lips is usually fine with me. It only bothers me if I am next in line for a DC kiss. Then its kind of kissing (eg)FIL by proxy - bluergh.

i cant believe some people on here are saying just because you dont kiss your children on the lips you are not showing affection... rubbish!!!!! my kids couldnt get more affection from me and im always telling them i love them giving them cuddles etc (and kisses)i KNOW where my mouth has been and i still wouldnt kiss them on lips mind boggles where other peoples mouths might have been and kiss my children on the lips especially when they were younger no chance!!!

I know where my hands have been (hands are much more "germy" than mouths, even with washing) - perhaps I shouldn't touch them either...?
(Dread to think where your mouth has been - lol)

But you don't put your hands in their mouth do you though ?

Of course babies and toddlers kiss YOU on the lips but I wouldn't KISS them on the lips.That to me is like kissing a lover.
By germy I meant my germs going to the baby rather than vice versa

Where other people's mouths have been? No doubt licking the toilet bowl or checking out the latest offering of dog poo

Not a case of 'where their mouth has been' as what it may be harbouring.Salivas pretty good for passing on infections

Its a very hard thing i think to ask the Manager not to do...but if you feel strongly about it then you have to be bold and say something. Personally i wouldnt think twice bout it...would think it was a nice show of affection towards the kids... but can see your point i think.

However, having paused for a minute and given it more thought.....it does seem a bit odd that she keeps on kissing your child on the lips...
I have kissed my own children on the lips at bedtime , but only now and again, and they are my own children.....different.

"light film of their own shit and sneeze juice"

haha, definitely. DS definitely has an interesting smell when he comes home from nursery and needs a very good scrubbing to get rid of it all

Me and my DS never swap spit katiestar - I don't know how you kiss but there is no saliva going anywhere from me to him. Other way round however ...

lol at because of the germs

you do realise that your children spend the best part of the day licking the floors and toys that 20 different children have just licked themselves

As a NNEB I have had more snotty lip kisses than I care to remember in fact I was quite glad when I got a coldsore cos i could always say ohhh you have to kiss Dee on the cheeks now cos she might get poorly lips again .

What I really didnt like was the 'sexy' kisses some mums encouraged their children to give me .....i would say ohhh we dont do sexy kisses we do big tickles.

I always have kissed my own dc on their lips even now the eldest is 15!!.

WTF? 'Sexy kisses'?

nickschick, by 'sexy kisses', do you mean nothing more than kisses on the lips? Do you actually use that term with your charges? As a parent, that I would cringe at.

Carmen I know thats why I felt 'blessed' I'd had a cold sore .

blueshoes 'sexy kisses' definitely was not my term it was used by several parents

I think a sexy kiss was a sloppy on the lips kiss - of which I routinely escaped.

NC runs away and hides now you think im a weirdo .

ew at sexy ever being used by anyone to describe something a child does

Sherby dont u start

for those who think its a no because of germs

trust me children get worse off other children/environment then from a carer

would you feel different if a nanny, therefore the only germs she would be catching/passing on would be from your own children

FIMBLEHOBBS "I'm in the kissing brigade - it is lovely for children to feel loved and cared for. I love it when my daughter comes home smelling of her keyworkers perfume - shes obviously had a lot of love that day "

that is so lovely - that brought a tear to my eye

i must be hormonal

as my niece puts it my ds tongues people when i carry him on my back i have to ask people who stand next to me to give us space where he has seen that i wish i knew but since he is only 16 months it will pass.

rivergodess - DS did this at a similar age, it should pass! mind you, he still licks me

It sound a bit strange to me. My daughters teacher has kissed her on the top of the head when she's been upset and was having a cuddle. That was nice but anything more than that is a bit dodgy IMHO.
All the children kiss each other on the lips, but that's different. They don't know any better.