To think my wife is being unreasonable

[SomeGuy]

We are going to Mexico next week (flights not yet booked, but about to be).

Flights on Monday cost £735 total for our family of 4

On Wednesday the cost is £895 for our family of 4.

DW is organiser of a monthly lunch meetup with her friends. There are usually about six women, with their children, and each brings food. The next meet-up is not at our place, but at the house of one of the other people involved, and is scheduled for next Tuesday.

She says we can't go on Monday, saving £160, because she has given her word that the lunch meet would take place on Tuesday, and she says they would probably cancel it if she doesn't come (even though it's at one of her friend's house, who quite frequently has a lunch with just one other person).

I think she is being unreasonable, because there is frequently one of the 6 that cannot make it, and there's not really a significant difference between 5 cooking for 5 and 6 cooking for 6.

It's not that we can't afford the extra £160, it just seems wrong to 'waste' it.

i am judging him and he sounds like a twat.

I called him a SUG. Some people are so out of touch with today's terms.

Here is the definition from urbandictionary.com

SUG - Smug Unemployed Guy, use in the same context you would use terms like yuppie, nymbie etc

'SUG is used to define someone who is happily unemployed and infact "smug" at the thought that they have a very comfortable life whilst not working. Quite likely to grow food in the garden and keep chickens.

Maybe claim to be self employed but never actually do any work, to "smug" to work.'

fucking HELL!

what the shit has his employment status got to do with it?

he is self employed - i am assuming jouno type who reads high brow literature. Writes the odd 'bryson' esq piece for the telegraph.

Why have people got their knickers in a twist about unemployment/employment in this instance?

urbandictionary is not really evidence of a term's currency. Anybody can add definition for anything. I could go and define 'hf128219' as 'one who insists that urbandictionary entries are fact'.

Note that the only google hit for 'smug unemployed guy' is this self same thread: www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&safe=off&num=100&q=%22Smug+Unemployed+Guy%22&meta=

It's best not to use acronyms that nobody else uses.

The term you were looking for btw, is 'funemployed'

www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-funemployment4-2009jun04,0,7581684.story

funemployed, noun:

"The state of being without a job, yet having lots of time to enjoy fun activities during otherwise normal working hours.

'Hermina is funemployed, so after her workout on Wednesday morning, she went down to the beach and joined her other laid-off friends for a barbecue with margaritas and horseshoes.' "

Press cuttings Shortcut to Accessibility page - (access key = 0) Skip to content - (access key ... on the lot of SUGs, smug unemployed guys, mentions how the writer and other ...

It's not the only one on Yahoo.

Ah I see, it comes from Grazia:

www.whitbread.co.uk/media.cfm?id=press_cuttings&view=12109

Not on my reading list sadly. I'm obviously not 'with it' enough.

Or perhaps the influence of the mighty Grazia is waning, cos I couldn't find any other reference to it. Looks like the author was moonlighting from the FT anyway. www.linkedin.com/in/jonathaneley

I am disappointed in you. I had visions of you in your pinny seasoning a leg of lamb whilst reading Grazia.

Someguy Now you've said she is Asian I've got to go away and do some writing. I had the character all written out if she was Brazilian, Russian or Polish. Okay I'm going to go for Singaporean (Asia is a big place) It doesn't have to be true. Yep! got her now very groomed black bobbed hair,skinny and can eat anything and not put on weight. Never wears a bikini because that would be going too far. Will sort out her man like her Mum did for for her dad. BUT in return he has to let her spend,spend,spend. Wants to be as far away from poverty as possible. So in her head she thinks her friends will judge her if she doesn't have the best. Hospitality is of great importance as it has been for generations in her family. Children health really,really important remember the far, far away from poverty and illness as possible. AM I close. Oh! heck I'm putting it the book anyway! Oh my ds is nagging me to get some work done. Who is the Dolly Parton fan you or her?

Heavens above - not sexual thoughts - just a vision, you numpty.

I fancy an American Christmas, and Dollywood is open then, 15 million tacky lights, tacky shows, what could be better?

www.dollywood.com/mini-section/default.aspx?id=115

Wow! I think my Dh would be too embarrassed to tell his friends at his weekly pub quiz that he went to Dollywood. Look for the thread around November when I've book it and he finds a pub lunch he needs to go to on a Monday! Strangely I think its a really great idea I've only been to the Canadian Rockies in Summer. Christmas must be great. To tell you the truth Canada can be a bit boring I think Dollywood is better. Should I book it and lie to him?

Well Dollywood isn't really the purpose of the visit. There's also Hillbilly Golf! gatlinburg-attractions.com/hillbilly_golf_.html.

Why are you going to Mexico? You'll get swine flu

Crikey- nearly 200p osts on this topic..

haven't time to read them all but seems a no-brainer really- she is the hostess, so why is it such a big deal to miss a lunch which is a regular meeting anyway?

If the money is the only factor for you- and youc an afford another £160 no problem, then nmaybe you should just accept that she is going to go to the lunch?

It does seem atad selfish of her though to waste £160 for the sake of a meeting with regular friends.

not the hostess.

Ooh, I just got a reply from that hotel that poshtottie recommended.

Can stay here:

www.banyantree.com/mayakoba/villas/spa_pool_villa.html

at 80% off rack rates. That is still $400/night, plus taxes, mind.

322 square metres is twice the size of my house though.

That seems pretty damn reasonable. If you have the cash.

If you can affor £50 on meat for one meal, you can aford the Banyan Tree place for at least one week.

Well it's not just the cost of the room. We could do 3 nights there (comes with free 90 minute massage), which wouldn't be too bad, but then there'd be all the other costs. I'd seriously resent paying $25 for a drink or whatever ungodly amounts they charge.

And the fact that there'd be Americans tossing tips around for doing pretty much anything. Gah, tipping, I hates it.

Dont' get me started on tipping. I'd rather die of dehydtration than tip. Do you get notified whenever someone post on this thread, SomeGuy, or are you glued to your PC or what?

I hadn't posted on it for a whole four hours. I'm supposed to be babysitting now, while dw goes out drinking. DW did say we would get a babysitter but has decided just to leave it to me instead.

I said earlier you DW should calm down!