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Original poster

To be angry at my PILs for feeding DS (9 months) a frozen pea?

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porcupine11 · 29/06/2009 12:58

I was cooking and my in-laws were holding my DS. I had measured out some frozen peas, and looked up to find them putting one in DS's mouth. I freaked out a bit, as I would think this would be a big choking hazard. They said it was fine and safe etc. DS eventually spat out the pea.

Am I being over protective (had just completed a baby first aid course, so I had a heightened awareness of danger) or are they being unreasonable? And how am I supposed to trust them to babysit if they do things like that?

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ZoeC · 29/06/2009 13:00

Not something I would particularly fuss over (but then I really like eating frozen peas )

How old is your ds?

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 29/06/2009 13:01

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porcupine11 · 29/06/2009 13:01

9 months

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Picante · 29/06/2009 13:01

Too small to be a choking hazard really - that's more grape size / nut size. Not a great thing to do but there are worse sins!

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porcupine11 · 29/06/2009 13:02

It was just the size of the fake choking hazards we used on the course

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Tamarto · 29/06/2009 13:03

YABU - Hes 9months old, maybe you'd have a point if he was 9days old!

posieparker · 29/06/2009 13:05

I'm guessing [whispers] that this baby is your first??? It would annoy me too but in a few years when your ils have done far more serious wrongs you will long for the frozen pea incident!!!

Northernlurker · 29/06/2009 13:06

Your nine month old son should be able to deal with lumps in his food considerably bigger than 1 frozen pea.

You are being hopelessly overprotective and as for not letting them babysit

You are this child's mother but you are not the only one who loves him and you are also not the only person in the world to ever have a baby and keep them safe. Try to get a bit of perspective please.

ThingOne · 29/06/2009 13:06

I gave my children peas at nine months old - perfectly normal food in my opinion, so yes, YABU.

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blametheparents · 29/06/2009 13:09

Frozen peas are delicious!

Sorry, but YAB a bit U

ButtercupWafflehead · 29/06/2009 13:11

Yes but frozen ones aren't "Squishy real easily masticated peas" are they?

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fatslag · 29/06/2009 13:13

I left ds2 with a mate for an hour - she told me proudly that she gave him a yoghurt and fished out EVERY PIECE OF FRUIT in case he choked. Since ds2' favourite snack at the time was a chicken leg, I had to laugh...

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porcupine11 · 29/06/2009 13:13

Yes it's my first baby and I think I probably am overprotective, but I'm trying to get better! Hard to hold myself back sometimes, but I did manage to stay on the sidelines as they tried to balance DS on a chair (with his hands on the back) and then let go and stood back to watch the results. I think that's progress!

They haven't actually wanted or offered to babysit yet, but they do live quite far away. I think this is the problem, he's never been looked after by anyone apart from DH for a couple of hours at a time.

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onepieceofcremeegg · 29/06/2009 13:13

Porcupine I have done a similar first aid course and to (hopefully) put your mind at rest the reason the "choking hazards" used on the dolls/dummies are the size of a frozen pea is because that is the size of the dollies' throats. The sizing doesn't correspond to the size of a real baby's throat. As others have said it is slightly larger objects that cause a choking hazard for real babies.

Overmydeadbody · 29/06/2009 13:13

He's 9 months old. He should be able ot manage lumpy food, including peas.

YABU and PFB.

MavisGrind · 29/06/2009 13:17

I'm more concerned that the OP is 'measuring out' frozen peas. Surely you just tip them in the pan until it looks about right and then add the ones that -splilled out onto the floor?

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porcupine11 · 29/06/2009 13:20

It was part of a specific recipe rather than just peas as a veg on the side... this is very specific

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posieparker · 29/06/2009 13:21

Porcupine, I took at least a couple more dcs to back off from being totally in control. My mantra was that I was their protector and voice until they had their own. I can't see it's a very big deal and I think it's difficult to bury such intense feelings to protect, he's only nine months. You're probably more annoyed that they didn't think about any risk rather than the risk they took??

bumptwitknocker · 29/06/2009 13:24

Not really a huge issue, YAB a bit U, but I can't think why they would give him a frozen pea anyway. Who eats frozen peas?

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LyraSilvertongue · 29/06/2009 13:26

bumbtwitknocker, my boys love frozen peas.

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porcupine11 · 29/06/2009 13:27

That's very true posie, because they don't see DS much they always seem to want to 'experiment' to see what he can do this time...

I really try to hold back. I wouldn't ever feed DS processed supermarket cake for example, but I didn't say anything when FIL fed him an entire slice, while in my head I was panicking 'salt!' 'sugar!' 'E numbers!'

Yes there is no doubt I'm hopelessly over-protective

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LyraSilvertongue · 29/06/2009 13:27

I don't serve them as a meal, btw the sneak them into their mouths when I'm cooking.

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