Probably, but he threw my dinner in the bin!

[Washersaurus]

So, DH has been in a crappy mood today (well he is most days tbh). He cooked tea for us all earlier, but just as he served it up I realised my period had started. I dashed upstairs to sort myself out and he called me, I said I'd only be a min. He got cross and stood at the bottom of the stairs - I stood at the top in my pants and said that I would not shout downstairs what I was doing, I would only be a second. He shouted back that he had thrown my dinner in the bin.

I walked out.

DS2 still has bedtime milk from me, I feel guilty for him, I shouldn't have left him really, but honestly I can't deal with that sort of behaviour.

I have just got back from a family party that I otherwise wouldn't have attended, and have eaten some toast.

Was I wrong to walk out?

Am I brave enough for your replies?

It is NOT your fault!
I cannot believe that you have no money of your own - his salary isn't for him- it is family money- you should both have exactly the same amount after outgoings. You both work- only he is paid, and you are not.

The thread I was thinking of was a long time ago- DS2 was only about 6 or 8 months or so...cannot remember the exact details, and it isn;t important now, but I'm sure it was you. I'm sorry nothing has improved since.

I have no advice to give- I do not know what you want to happen or do - I just know that I could not live like this.

What would you like to change?

He's cancelling your holiday because you went out?

He's pocketed all the money? (But managed to spare you a fiver earlier.) I notice you say "I haven't any money" but also "we are skint" at the same time he has money in his pocket. This implies that the money in his pocket is his when it is family money (and actually it is your money, it is paid to you and is your entitlement as you are the main caregiver for your children).

Why is it your fault you are skint? You gave up your job to care for your child and then couldn't return to work as you were pg with another child. Does he have no part in that? Does he think it would have been more financially viable if you had carried on working and then you would have had to pay someone else to care for your child?

It is NOT your fault.

I'm sorry, you're trying to protect him or excuse him or something and I understand, but really, if -as is highly likely - the rest of your self-blame is on a similar level to this, then you really have little to blame yourself over. Please set the responsibility where it really lies.

Now, what do you want out of life? How do you want your future to be?

Hi washers - I hope you are okay today
I agree with what Quattro said yesterday at 11.54 and Attila at 11.36

The fact that you only have money in your pocket if he has given it to you is crazy - At the very least as the mother of his child I would expect the child benefit

If I were you I would find a rl friend to help with an exit strategy and plan plan plan - keep notebook of plans at her house and any escape money you can find.

Or stay and tell him to treat you as an adult, the mother of his child and his wife - equals not his subordinate

You look so gorgeous in your wedding photo. I am very sad that he behaves the way he does and you think you deserve it