ok...will try this again, aibu to be put off a school by the amount of children with SN?

[daftpunk]

posted this in education, (Pre-school, like the twit that i am).....my ds is due to start secondary school in 2 years so we're looking around already, i am a bit put off by a school with lots of SN children, as SN also means behaviour problems....i'm not sure if i am being unreasonable.

She will be forgiven becasue she is a known name and a regular poster. Not saying it's right or wrong or having a personal dig at DP - that's just the way it is. Regular posts something inflammatory and gets asked if she's feeling allright - doesn't happen to unknowns.

punky could post something about the price of fecking bananas and still get jumped on and ripped apart
i havent got caught up with this thread yet, but skimming through its good to see that some people can answer without the need for personal insults and snidey remarks

At the end of the day I guess it goes on the balance of what the community gets from a poster - if it's usually no-harm-done pleasant stuff, or even harmless garbage, then people won't care too much. But if it starts becoming more seriously offensive and disruptive people will stop taking them seriously, and not want them around - lola was a regular, and a harmless one until she slipped up and becamse highly aggressive.

Take it with a pinch of salt and don't give more than you can afford to lose - most of all don't believe everything you read.

I think best to just avoid people you distrust or dislike. It's often the only way.

I think that DP's name and well known style probably hinder her more than anything tbh.
I think she worded her op wrongly then posted very much on the hoof, she does seem to post first, think later and it got worse and worse.
However, I think her apology seemed a sound one and it has turned out to be an interesting thread.
I think that ANY poster who had caused so much furore is brave to come back and apologise tbh, new or old.

You might be right Lizzy but I don't really think being 'brave' is out of character here! iyswim

yeah she already said that fio, whats the point?

" its good to see that some people can answer without the need for personal insults and snidey remarks "

T'is good indeed Harley. Let's hope your mate takes that on board for future reference as well.

The point is it didn't get the reaction she thrives on so she posted a more inflammatory thread in AIBU.

Sorry daftpunk, we have gotten along on music threads etc but recently you just seem to be very bigoted. I appreciate the fact you offer support though, despite the fact we don't see eye to eye, so thankyou for that.

mollyroger...lol, yes...ace song!

fiofio...wont try & explain it all again, just me talking shite as usual!

bucharest...i don't remember the thread you are talking about, but apologise for calling you whatever it was i called you, i hope you will feel able to talk to me on future threads, i forget alot of what is said to me...i assume everyones the same...i'm realising i need to me more thoughtful.

jumente...i have obviously deeply offended you on a past thread, i have no idea who you are, i know it will just be thrown back in my face, but i'm sorry for whatever it is i've done to you.

shineon....thank you, i will call in tonight....

harleyd...

probably a good idea to let this thread die now.

Dp- I have talked to you since then, on several "relationships" threads, and on the political ones....

I was even warming to you a wee bit....

So, let's start afresh......

Surely it IS unreasonable? I know of parents who won't use certain schools because THEIR kids have SEN, and they see that schools with behaviour management issues may not be the best to support their child's needs. You need to see the big picture with schools. My DS's primary now has a number of children with SEN, but the behaviour is exemplary. It's not about the number of behviour issues (even disruptive ones), but how the school manages it.THAT is what I'd be looking at. (that said I hope the local comp improves before DS gets there, or that he is able to get into the grammar, because the behaviours that I have witnessed at the school worries me (and the fat that their results seem to be dropping). This has nothing to do with SEN, but LOTS to do with school leadership and management.

Dp - no, you haven't - in fact we have had a few decent chats before now. I objected to some of your comments re homosexuals, but seeing that pattern repeated on this thread I now feel that you are playing on people's feelings in an unkind and pointless fashion.

There's no grudge, I just object to people who behave like this.

I'm sure there are plenty of people on here who will be happy enough still to talk to you, I shall just keep away.

...and I have to thank you for that apology, because it'd be rude not to, but truthfully you've not done anything to me so it's unnecessary.

who were you?....have you name changed?

forget that...it doesn't matter, i'll just keep out of your way too.

OP, A friend of mine was asking me a similar question when her Ds wa supposed to start primary school. In our school some years there is a high percentage of SN children but you have to take several things in consideration:

• usually a school that has a number of SN children also has the resources to deal with it.

-there is a number of things like partial deafness... that do count as SN

• all the points Mrsdoasyouwouldbedoneby points

-IMO for a child to be confronted with different people having different abilities and different way to cope with them can only be an positive thing.

I would sooner send my Dcs in a school with a large proportion of SN than a school with a reputation for bad behaviour!

Ok.

thank you gorionine.

Well, it sounds as if you are put off. So I guess you should act accordingly. Are you being unreasonable? I neither know nor care. If it bothers you, let being bothered influence you. You might miss out on a good school but you can handle that I'm sure.

hi cella2..

RC ....is that enough info?

thank you so much