To be really mad because a woman just told me morning sickness is psychological?

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I'm 4 months pregnant with my second and just over months of awful morning sickness - well all day long sickness in my case. It was the same with DD1 - sick all the time, chronic fatigue etc.

I just met a woman who has three kids and said morning sickness is psychological - of course she didn't suffer from it at all and with her first didn't even know she was pregnant until three months. She told me if I didn't know I was pregnant I wouldn't have felt sick. Her doctor apparently agreed with her. Yeah right! I obviously subconsciously want to have what feels like motion sickness 24 hours and day and throw up etc. It's such a blast!

I didn't say anything to her but now I am just mad as hell. I'm a positive thinker and definitely not a hypochondriac! Where does this woman get off saying it's psychological? Does she really think that woman who suffer from morning sickness are mentally weak or what?

Thank you for making me laugh about morning sickness! I am 10 weeks, it is hideous, all day, and definitely not psychological. A few people have tried to tell me that its not as if I am ill, so must be in my head. Unbelievable! I might try Thunderduck's suggestion...

also had little/no ms with first pg and 9 months (not hyperemesis, just quite a bit of barfing) with #2. Heartily agree with all other posters that she is talking rubbish. What in heaven's name gets into some people? They pop a couple of kids and suddenly become world-renowned experts on all children .

I am sorry you are having a rough time of it. I spent months on dry crackers and flat ginger ale. The only plus side was that I didn't gain loads of extra weight because I didn't eat like an elephant unlike the first time round. I hope you feel better soon. Weirdly, Gaviscon helped me with the nausea even tho it's for indigestion. Hope you feel better soon

Is there anywhere left to throw up on her?

I can't even walk along the street at the moment, every teeny little smell is making me need to barf (I threw up in the gutter today).

Sometimes even sounds are setting me off.

Had none at all with DS, easiest ride ever. This time, not so much...

I had to pull out of a youth camp I was leading when 3 months pg with dd1 as I was so horribly sick. It was a real 24 hours a day camp thing and with 24 hour sickness I knew I would be a liabilty.

I told the overall leader why I was withdrawing with 2 weeks to go and I just knew she was going (had no kids herself).

2 years later she phoned me and apologised if she had come over all at that point, because she was now pg and so sick she couldn't stand up without throwing up.

Everyone is different. SHe was lucky not to have morning sickness. I bet every other part of her life is perfect too, no?

Oh yes, YANBU. Can I slap her too? I had 4 MCs and never experienced morning sickness during those foreshortened pregnancies. However, puked and felt terrible, totally knackered and in a constant fog all the time for four months straight with all my successful pregnancies. That woman is lucky she managed to carry to term -- my doc mentioned low progesterone levels as a poss cause of the MCs, characterised by lack of morning sickness. Maybe she just isn't sensitive to progesterone, or sensitive in general either. She deserves sincere hatred for letting her fellow women down, with her 'I'm a better woman than all you wusses' attitude, probably boasted to her doctor, the silly twat.

would also like to nominate becstarlitsea's comment :

"My MIL is actually very kind, she just has a brain full of total shit which she believes to be true"

For like, quote of the century or something.

Haha scottishmummy, how funny.

BTW head being a nautical term for toilet made me think, she was right, it was all in the head (all I had ever eaten in my lief sometimes, by the look of it)

I remember reading that a study that proved morning sickness was totally cross cultural - suffered by women in the Peruvian jungle and New York businesswomen. Obviously all in the grip of the same psychological confusion then...

One theory is that it is to protect the baby by making you avoid foods that might harm the foetus. Whatever causes it its miserable you have my sympathies.

Brings back memories of DH's single male friend who told me all symptoms of pregnancy were psychological. Had to hold myself back after suffering 4 months of feeling like death then the final month on crutches with SPD. Grrr

OMG I was bed ridden for 3 solid months whilst carrying the dtwins, I was continuously vomiting blood and bile and could barely crawl to the loo. I could eat practically nothing.It was NOT a mind over matter thing, it was all consuming and no wearing sea bands and nibbling ginger biscuits(helpful hints from non sufferers) didn't help.

Thankfully my doctor was very supportive.

What a cow!!!!

Superbean,

I hated it when people said "it is not as if you are ill". The problem is that during pregnancy you can feel bloody shit and on top of that you can't take any drugs to make you feel better which means you are actually worse off than a sick person.

In saying that I did find the best remedy for morning sickness was sleep / rest and lots of it. Nothing else really worked (unless I was hungry).

OMG

When carrying my twins my morning, afternoon and night sickness was definitely NOT psychological! Silly woman!

Oh and YANBU.