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To be really mad because a woman just told me morning sickness is psychological?

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Lishylooloo · 20/06/2009 22:15

I'm 4 months pregnant with my second and just over months of awful morning sickness - well all day long sickness in my case. It was the same with DD1 - sick all the time, chronic fatigue etc.

I just met a woman who has three kids and said morning sickness is psychological - of course she didn't suffer from it at all and with her first didn't even know she was pregnant until three months. She told me if I didn't know I was pregnant I wouldn't have felt sick. Her doctor apparently agreed with her. Yeah right! I obviously subconsciously want to have what feels like motion sickness 24 hours and day and throw up etc. It's such a blast!

I didn't say anything to her but now I am just mad as hell. I'm a positive thinker and definitely not a hypochondriac! Where does this woman get off saying it's psychological? Does she really think that woman who suffer from morning sickness are mentally weak or what?

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 20/06/2009 22:50

Say you feel very sorry for her having such an out-of-date doctor. That view went out years ago.

giraffesCantRunA10k · 20/06/2009 22:51

Oh what an idiot. Can you accidently spew on her?

Marthasmama · 20/06/2009 22:54

mistlethrush - I was exactly the same, I put on a stone in the first 10 weeks as all I could eat was rubbish, but I had to eat constantly to try to keep the sickness at bay.

MaggieBeau · 20/06/2009 22:58

I never experienced it myself and I 100% believe it. I used to get period pain and people who didn't get it themselves sometimes implied it was psychological!!

The good news is that annoying comments aside, hyperemesis has been linked to a reduced risk of breast cancer! SO, eh, lucky you?

Reallytired · 20/06/2009 23:00

I had awful morning, afternoon, evening and night sickness with my son. It was hell on earth. By the end of my pregnancy I was skeletal. You have my sympathies.

If its any consolation, I had no morning sickness with my second pregnancy. (A daughter) Unfortunately I had SPD instead.

However I think that stress can exastabate morning sickness. Certainly it did in my case. However stress can cause lots of other conditions to get worst like ezcema. Prehaps its best to avoid this nasty woman to avoid your symptoms getting worst.

TheCrackFox · 20/06/2009 23:03

Even if it is psychological (which I most certainly do not think) does it make it any less real and upsetting?

What a smug bitch.

Maybe tell her that lack of social skills and empathy are also psychological and that your doctor agrees with you?

sazlocks · 20/06/2009 23:10

You did well not to slap her. She sounds a bit bonkers to me although if you have never had it then its hard to understand IMO. I was glowing and possibly faintly smug with no MS during my first pregnancy. How I am paying now with my second with all day nausea and sickness at any time of day. Ho hum !

FlappyTheBat · 20/06/2009 23:12

My morning sickness with dd2 started before I even knew I was pregnant - we weren't even trying for a baby so put my nausea down to a bug!

With dd1, was so bad that it would even wake me up during the night, ended up weighing 1 stone less immediately after she was born, than I did before I was pregnant.

Agree with others that you should "accidentally" vomit over her, of course morning sickness isn't psychological, it has a physical cause!

gigglewitch · 20/06/2009 23:15

o dear - my dh said something along those lines when we were having dc1 - I nearly thumped him!
By the time we were having dc3 he had discovered that he was wrong - yet again...

hester · 20/06/2009 23:15

What an idiot. Though it's bringing back to me a long-repressed memory of me, at a much younger age, kind of suggesting to my brother's girlfriend that period pain was probably linked to being uptight/having issues about femininity. She suffered terribly, of course.

Lord, what a twunt [me].

hester · 20/06/2009 23:17

I am actually feeling hot with shame, and this really is very ancient history. Comfort yourself with the thought that this woman will probably go through the same agonies of mortification one day, Lishylooloo.

MoominMymbleandMy · 20/06/2009 23:18

Puke on her for me too, please.

YanknCock · 20/06/2009 23:30

30 weeks, still being sick 1-2 times a week. Would be happy to vomit in her handbag since someone else is getting her shoes.

Psychological, my fucking arse.

There's some new research that suggest hyperemesis is linked to the child having a higher IQ. Tell her that, and then look sadly at her children. (I'm sure that's wrong on so many levels, but honestly, what a stupid bitch).

Poppity · 20/06/2009 23:31

Oh! You have my sympathies, mine were like 24hr motion sickness too

How insensitive! The way I discovered I was pregnant in two of my pregnancies was because I was feeling sick, I thought I had a bug(doh!)until someone suggested I wee on a stick!

Flibbertyjibbet · 21/06/2009 00:12

Her doctor probably just glazed over and was nodding off as she was speaking.

She must have mistaken that for him nodding in agreement with her

(9months all day nausea and vomiting here)

Dior · 21/06/2009 00:17

You should have done a tinkly laugh and said, 'Oh, you are soooo funny'.

Or hit her

treedelivery · 21/06/2009 00:35

Could you have tuned into your psychological self and vomited on her shoes?

The rude silly mare.

sayithowitis · 21/06/2009 01:14

I am so glad to know that the nine months of 24 hour sickness I endured with my two successful pregnancies were purely psychological. Presumable the many weeks I spent in hospital each time. on a drip to stop dehydration due to the fact I could not even hold water down, the injections I was given to try to stop the 'hyperemesis' were also psychological!

The woman is a pllck.

I was also told that morning sickness indicates a healthy baby and certainly with my two, they were very big and very healthy. Sadly I had no morning sickness with my other preganacies and lost them all! Maybe there is something in that!

StealthPolarBear · 21/06/2009 06:18

I had dreadful ms with DS - from 5 weeks until 16 weeks I was sick most mornings (and continued feeling ill through the day). When I got pregnant again I fully expected to have the same - I was waiting for it. Although I've felt a tiny bit sick now and again I've been mostly fine. So I was wishing it on myself and it didn't arrive - doesn't sounds psychological to me!

Jumente · 21/06/2009 06:59

I would have asked her if she knoew how to stop it then...I'd be GRATEFUL if it was as easy to sort out as a few trips to a counsellor, as it would mean I might not have it next time. But sadly I think she was probably talking out her arse.

I have heard that stress contributes - I was heavily stressed both times so maybe it did in my case, but I can't vouch for anyone else.

Picante · 21/06/2009 07:01

You should tell her that morning sickness has been linked to babies with higher intelligence (this is true honest!).

Jumente · 21/06/2009 07:04

Touche Picante

Jumente · 21/06/2009 07:05

I mean, touché

Picanté

StealthPolarBear · 21/06/2009 07:14

I haven't been particularly stressed in either pregnancy!

SarahL2 · 21/06/2009 07:31

Damn it, yankNcock and Picante got there before me!

I was going to say to tell her that MS is linked to children with higher IQ's then to look at her children with a whistful sadness before brightening up and saying "ah well, will save you a fortune on University fee's though won't it" before flouncing off, head held high, grinning proudly.

Stupid cow

disclaimer - may be bitter as I had MS till 5 months with DS and have been puking for over a month already this time