Sick of DP being scruffy

[FlorenceMorningale]

I'm sick of DP taking no pride in his appearance. He wears t-shirts that are 3 sizes too big for him, old and scruffy ... even to go out in. Jeans that are massive on him, tops with holes in and stains etc ...

When we first met he wore decent clothes and I had no idea he was such a scruff until I moved in with him and found that he had 2 decent items of clothes and the rest was all fit for the bin. Even a charity shop wouldn't take his clothes.

It's got to the point where I begrudge ironing his stuff and I feel embarrassesd being out with him.

AIBU?

Don't you think a lot of people / men appreciate having someone help them shop? I have a good male friend who I have assisted in buying shirts and jumpers, and he looks an awful lot better in the things we picked than in his previous free gift t-shirts. Since I helped him on one shop, he was able to go back and buy more similar things. We need to go shopping together again, though - he's losing the technique a bit!

Infantilising?

What utter tosh.

My DH and I have been wed for 25 yrs- he is not an infant but he does have no dress sense whatsoever.

He buys the odd (??) T shirt himself, but suits, jeans, and anythingmajor- like over coats tend to be chosen by us both- he just can't do clothes.

SM- ""positive risk taking.allowing people to have skills acquisition and make mistakes is therapeutic.""

Eh???

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