To be fecked off with the supermarket checkout woman

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We were in a well known supermarket. I bought the weekly shop and DD (15) was trying to buy 2 DVD's on her own cash card one was a cert 15. DD was 15 a month ago so was excited to be buying a 15 DVD with her own cash card but the check out woman asked her for ID!!!

At 15 she hasn't thought about getting ID. I was packing my shopping, £40 worth I should add, and minding my own business then saw DD produce a European Health Ins card with her name and dob on it but this flipping woman (she was an aussie juding by her accent) said she needed photo ID. I then intervened and said I was her mum she is 15 and this is ridiculous. I will pay for the DVD and she tried to tell me she was breaking the law by selling it to me.

She did let me buy it on my card, if not I would have kicked up a stink and she knew it. AIBU to be fecked off. The shape of things to come!! This should be stopped now.

Thanks mummyhill, will read it when I get chance.

FFS It would have defeated the object if we had been mystery shoppers because DD wasn't trying to break the law.

But how was the checkout assistant to know that? Are they equipped with crystal balls now?

FGS - exactly what you would have said if you were mystery shoppers. Where I used to work a few people have been given warnings for selling games and DVD's to children and teenagers.

Why post if you have already made up your mind?

Agree with people who have said this is just softening us all up for govt. ID cards. My son's generation won't even begin to imagine objecting to ID cards, it will be second nature to them.

Yes, age restrictions have always been there, but we didn't have the government spending billions on developing a national ID database at the time. The proof of age stuff when I was a teen was just a card, there wasn't the same context. AND the we didn't have this challenge 25 thing that extends the need for ID to adults.

Govt is using underhand methods to force teenagers to apply for ID cards by making it very difficult to live without them - without having to come out openly and said 'we are introducing compulsory ID cards'.

abouteve, I definitely DO NOT think YABU - it's the ATTITUDE of these staff that sometimes makes us feel this way... perhaps if she'd been polite and gone about it in a better way, you'd have maybe been more accepting of her reasons for asking! I feel sorry for your daughter, looking forward to buying her DVD with her own money, quite legitimately and then having that happen. I KNOW that she was only doing her job but sometimes it's the way people go about things that gets our backs up. I hope your daughter enjoys the film. Don't worry about what people are saying, you are her mother FGS and your word should have been enough. Please don't quote her responsibilities as a checkout operator... I already know.... it's all about the attitude and these days some (not all) shop staff have no manners.

Oh lord!

With the attitude that abouteve has shown on this thread, I doubt very much if the checkout girl was the one with the problem!

I don't think it was the staff member who had the attitude problem.

And why did you feel the need to mention £40 worth of shopping OP?

She obviously thinks she is better than the people that work in a shop

However the moral high-ground shift slightly when you say you will let your 15 year old watch SATC

Fair enough for being frustrated at the time but surely having thought about why she was IDed you can come to peace with it all and say 'fair enough'?/

I have never been asked for I.D in my life before, not even as a teen. I live in hope that it will happen one day.

Op - this happened yesterday - you can't still be 'shocked' surely. Time to move on - it's not a big deal.

I don't think you get all judgey about the OP 'letting' her DD watch SATC, if it's 15 rated and she's 15 yo, where's the problem?

TBH, this situation would've pissed me off too, but at the same time I have worked in shops and I know that they have to ask.

Nahui. If I go to the store you work in will you promise to I.D me? It'd make my day, and it'd be cheaper than moving to American so that I don't feel like an old bat.

American not American.

Thunderduck

America. I got there eventually.

Quick someone pass me the hammer please, so I can break into my emergency chocolate supply. I obviously need it.

lol, at having low morals because I would let my 15 yr old watch SATC. Also, I don't think I'm better than someone who works in a shop, don't know where that came from. I worked in an off licence a few years ago. I asked a boy for ID which he didn't have so refused to serve him. His dad came back in with him soon afterwards. I took a common sense approach and sold the alcohol.

I only got annoyed when she didn't believe me. I said I thought the situation was ridiculous.

Of course I've calmed down, just replying to posts.

It wasn't the fact that she refused to sell it to DD. Had she been on her own I would have understood, it was because I was with her.

If the dad was buying the alcohol for the boy then you were breaking the law!

You have come across like you think you are better than her, commenting on the fact that she is Australian and the fact you spent £40 like you deserve an award for it!

TBH I can't be bothered to read the whole thread but the fact she has already seen the film at the cinema is irrelevant.

The checkour operator was doing her job and there was nothing to say the ID was your DD's and you weren't just saying she was old enough.

YABU.

And if she was 15 a month ago but saw it in the cinema as well the nshe must only have been 14 when she saw it in the cinema. I've been refused alcohol when I was 32 in Tesco as I didn't have ID and I had my 8yo daughter with me. But I accept if cashier thinks I'm not 18 then she doesn't want to ru nthe risk of being the person who is fined. They get "secret shoppers" sent in to tes this sort of stuff and for all she knew you and your DD could have been testing her and the slapped a big fine on her. Which she has to pay not the shop. It is aginst the law to buy age restricted products for someone under that age so technically if your DD had no ID she is within her rights to refuse to sell them to you.

I wouldn't have run this risk of calling the dad a liar when he vouched for his son, I believed him. Turns out he was 18.

The law on buying alcohol for a minor isn't as cut and dried as people think. It is not against the law to let a person under 18 consume alcohol on private premises. It is if they are under 5.

Yes, Stripey you are correct she did manage to see it at the cinema at 14. Was waiting for someone to point this out. I wasn't with her that time and she wasn't ID'd. Did it not annoy you that you were refused because you didn't have ID?

The mention of £40 was to illustrate that I had done a weeks shop and not gone in to collaborate with DD to buy a DVD underage.