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Original poster

Should She Had At Least Told Me?

31 replies

juicyjolly · 11/06/2009 19:25

My 17yr old dd is going on holiday abroad for the first time in her life with her boyfriend and his family, who she gets on really well with.
The holiday has been payed for two weeks ago by the boyfriends mum, my daughters included. I have arranged to give her the money tomorrow as this is when I had the money. There is just one thing bothering me. I have just found out that her family have been insured for the holiday but she never bothered to insure my daughter or at least tell me she hadn't done so. I only found out because I asked my dd to check that insurance had been sorted out.

Was she out of order? Or am I being touchy?
I just thought it was something that is very important when going abroad.

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Noonki · 11/06/2009 19:28

surely at 17 it's your dd's responsiblity. it ws for me when I went travelling at that age.

That said I would have mentionned it if I were the one organising it

Peachy · 11/06/2009 19:35

Get her to do it tomorrow in the post office, easiest sorted that way

theyoungvisiter · 11/06/2009 19:35

They may well have a family policy for the whole year - we do. It covers us but wouldn't cover any guests.

It probably never even occurred to them - it wouldn't to me in the same situation.

Even so, I would still say it's your responsibility to sort insurance for your DD and safer for you to do so yourself.

Having said that, when I was young, footloose and fancy-free I never bothered to get insurance for European destinations. I do now, because it's different with small children and toddlers, but travelling at your DD's age with my boyfriend I never bothered.

shootfromthehip · 11/06/2009 19:37

Sorry but I think you are being touchy. She's 17 and I would expect her to get her own isurance. I presume that they thought the same way

Hulababy · 11/06/2009 19:38

I would never have assumed that another family's travel insurance would have covered my child TBH. I guess as we have annual travel insurance it would just not cross my mind to consider it.

Very quick and easy, and cheap, to do travel insurance online.

oldraver · 11/06/2009 19:40

I use Post Office online, Tesco's is cheaper if you dont have any medical problems

Hulababy · 11/06/2009 19:40

Oh definitely get travel insurance, even for European countries. My sister went on holiday with friends at about 18y and ended up falling off a table daning, ended up having surgery and having to be flown home days early. Without insurance it would have been a nightmare.

whooosh · 11/06/2009 19:41

YABU I think.At 17,she is still your responsibility-and you realised this by asking about the insurance in the first place.
I personally wouldn't expect another family to insure my DD.

snigger · 11/06/2009 19:41

Your/Her responsibility entirely, IMO.

ThePhantomPlopper · 11/06/2009 19:41

YABU. She is 17 and can sort it herself.

ingles2 · 11/06/2009 19:42

you are being touchy.... the parents are taking your dd away on holiday, they've paid for it up front until you had the money and you want them to sort out her insurance as well ???!!! not just touchy but ridiculous imo. Perhaps they should sort out all her money, washing and food as well?

independiente · 11/06/2009 20:17

She wasn't out of order. You are being touchy (and also unfair). So yes, YABU.

independiente · 11/06/2009 20:21

Also, as you think it's something v important (which it is), I'm a little surprised you didn't ask the boyfriend's mother if the insurance was included in the total cost, or whether you/your daughter needed to sort it out separately.

Original poster
juicyjolly · 14/06/2009 21:20

After reading all the replies I realise it sounds like I expected boyfriends mum to pay. No, I certainly did not expect that.
I just thought that someone who holidays at least four times a year could have let me know that my daughter would not have been insured in the cost price of the holiday. Not an unreasonable assumption me thinks.

ingles2...thankyou for answering the actual question, you done quite well seeing that all you seemed to really want to do was bitch.

So, just to be clear. I did not expect anybody but me to pay for my daughters insurance.
I did expect to be told whether or not she was insured in the price of the holiday.

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mrsjammi · 14/06/2009 21:22

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Qally · 14/06/2009 21:24

Honestly, it would never occur to me to take the ripoff insurance sold with holidays, so I can see why they wouldn't have even thought of it - but I can see why you would assume they had, if you do (I know a lot of people just can't be doing with price-checking etc so take the insurance anyway). I'd also never insure anyone else's kid - they might have health problems I didn't know about that would invalidate a standard insurance, and if they were depression or whatever the family might not want to share that information. BUT - yes, I'd check insurance, if only because I wouldn't want to be in a situation where my credit card was behind a hospital counter for someone else's child!

controlfreakythecontrolfreak · 14/06/2009 21:28

is she going on holiday in europe? she will also need ehic (?) card in case she needs medical treatment whilst away.

Original poster
juicyjolly · 14/06/2009 21:31

Thanks for the info....yes I can see why they might not have thought of telling me now. I have never left the country before so this is all news to me, thanks again.

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Original poster
juicyjolly · 14/06/2009 21:32

Panic........what is ehic?
She is going to Egypt.

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mrsjammi · 14/06/2009 21:35

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Original poster
juicyjolly · 14/06/2009 21:37

Thanks again for the info

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bigstripeytiger · 14/06/2009 21:38

If they go on holiday a lot they probably will have an annual policy for the family, so they might not have given it too much thought for this holiday.

LovelyTinOfSpam · 14/06/2009 21:42

Does she need any jabs?

I got caught out with that one a few years back

Qally · 15/06/2009 00:22

I'm pretty sure you need at least typhoid jabs, for Eqypt.

FairLadyRantALot · 15/06/2009 00:24

hmm...surely insurance and whatever else is needed is your and your dd's responsibility...

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