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AIBU?

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Original poster

to expect a tiny response from MN on the biggest day in my life?

77 replies

MadameDefarge · 07/06/2009 21:22

posted in chat. Maybe sounded too nonchalant? didn't want to sound pathetic.

have lost everything, apart from a tiny bit of equity in the home I was forced to sell. Am trying to set up a cafe, all sound re business plans etc. Am a single parent, have been hounded out of my home by fucking crack dealing cunts that held a gun to my 8 year olds head, am trying to to do my best. We lost our home, my job, everything that matters.

Finally after a year of searching and disappointment have found somewhere that might possibly be the answer to my dream.

I want my boy to see his mum being a success, doing well, overcoming obstacles. Protecting him and moving on from shit. I have spent two years wanting to end it all,and crawling back from the abyss.

But I am so scared. And need a bit of support.

So probably not AIBU either. but felt very sad that not answered in chat.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 07/06/2009 21:25

Well done if finding somewhere! I hope your ds was not too scared by what happened.

rupertsabear · 07/06/2009 21:26

Well done! You sound very brave actually. I think my life's hard sometimes, but I remember that it's not, actually, when I read things like this. Good luck.

HecatesTwopenceworth · 07/06/2009 21:27

Oh I am sorry you weren't answered. Sometimes MN moves so fast that something is off active convos between one refresh and the next!

FigmentOfYourImagination · 07/06/2009 21:29

Well done to you Madame

I didn't see your chat thread

rasputin · 07/06/2009 21:30

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PinkTulips · 07/06/2009 21:30

good for you

hope it all works out for you guys

(didn't see the thread in chat, things move down active convos so fast these days...)

hester · 07/06/2009 21:31

We're here now, Madame. It sounds like you've gone through hell. I really hope it's going to work out for you now.

AnyFucker · 07/06/2009 21:31

never saw the thread, was it moving very fast in chat ? (have been in and out all day today)

absolute kudos to you, it sounds scary and exciting and a head-cruncher what you are doing....

all the best of luck to you

if you were setting up in my neck of the woods, I would support you

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MadameDefarge · 07/06/2009 21:31

Oh, thanks, LES.

Sorry to be such a woose. Ds has only just started to talk about what happened. Its heartbreaking.

I am a strong girl, just wish I had made different choices, and not got involved in community affairs, because ds got targeted as a result. But he is just a baby, and didnt deserve to be taken from his home by the police and never to see it again.

But it will be ok, and I am really excited about the new venture.

I guess I just wanted a bit of MN ra ra rah, without having to spill the beans why it was so important! which is a bit selfish of me.

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MummyElk · 07/06/2009 21:31

i didn't see chat thread either but well done Madame, fair play to you for standing on your own two feet! really good luck - just think about this time in two years when you can look back on this rubbish time and think how much you've achieved. really well done x

DippyDino · 07/06/2009 21:31

Things can disappear very very quickly in chat. Don't take it to heart.

And well done XXXX

Anifrangapani · 07/06/2009 21:34

Sounds fab - I wish I had your get up and go. well done in turning a shit situation into a really positive one.

Sorry didn't see the chat thread.

shockers · 07/06/2009 21:35

Sounds twee but you have each other and you sound like a very brave lady. I hope you've moved far enough away for you both to feel safe. I know that I don't know you but I feel it's important that you don't put yourself under too much pressure. Your boy will appreciate your love and protection more and more as he grows and this will matter to him more than anything else. My eldest son is now 21 and I brought him up alone for 7 years before I met my 2nd husband. He has grown into a wonderful young man and our pride is mutual.I wish you and your son the very, very best X

walkinthewoods · 07/06/2009 21:36

Madame

Our company recently went inot liquidation. We had all manor of threats (but not so bad as gun to dc;s head!!!!). I would be happy to talk to you. We have lost alot but I cope with thinking about all the happy things in my life (dp and dc's) Please please please don't cope with this on your own. coddycat at yahoo dot com

e-amil now (think I could benefit from it lol)

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MadameDefarge · 07/06/2009 21:38

Thanks I am not always such a big girls blouse. Most of the time its just fine. I can't quite believe all that nonsense myself, now. But I do feel guilty that I got involved to such an extent it hurt my boy. And boy do I wish I had stayed well clear. which is really sad.

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francagoestohollywood · 07/06/2009 21:41

All the best of luck to you Madame and your ds

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MadameDefarge · 07/06/2009 21:43

Am sniffling mightily now. (in a good way. I hope). Its just I never saw it coming. And it all felt so humiliating. So not meant to be part of my story! if that makes sense.

BUt but but!! Tomorrow could be the beginning of everything great! I guess that's why I wanted to share it here. Cos you are all great and lovely.

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Sycamoretreeisvile · 07/06/2009 21:49

Madame - I didn't see your thread! TBH I never really look at chat as it's right down at the bottom of the screen and something always tends to grab my attention before I get down there!

Well done my darling - fucking hell, had no idea all this horror in your past. You carry your online self with such dignity.

Go for it, and good luck for your new future!

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MadameDefarge · 07/06/2009 21:50

walkinthewoods, how very generous of you!

Anyfucker, fancy soups, salads, stews and stuff? at credit crunch prices? I am your girl!

Hecates, Rupert, Rasputin,Frances, Shocker, Hester, MummyE, Anifrang, dippy, pink and everyone. Feeling so much better. Bless you all.

Wow. Begging on MN, so rewarding!!!!!!

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BCNS · 07/06/2009 21:50

good luck for the future!!

whatever happens ( and I hope its all good stuff) you are already a success for your son. remember that

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MadameDefarge · 07/06/2009 21:53

Sycamore, well obviously it will all be for nothing if Shiney don't let me carry her jumper again. A girl has got to have priorities!

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MadameDefarge · 07/06/2009 21:55

BCNS, I felt so much for you and your boys, know how it feels to not be able to protect them at all times.

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walkinthewoods · 07/06/2009 21:57

Madame

You are the kind of person that helps the world go round. Not saying that lightly but anyone who goes into business is a kind of person that hepls people get employed and the economy going etc etc. You are a do-er and that is fantastic, you go girl!!!!

cazzybabs · 07/06/2009 21:58

You sound like you don'y anyone's good luck because you have belief you can do it...and that counts for a hell of a lot....good luck not that you need it...I am sure your dream will come true

BCNS · 07/06/2009 22:04

awww thank MD.. I'm going to get that all started tomorrow morning thank you!

remember there aren't mistakes in business. these are just learning curves.. don't move ahead too fast.. but keep a steady pace going. Change things if they are not working.
oh and remember your business head.. when it's business your friendly.. but not a friend.. so don't let people want on you. HTH

good luck!