to expect a tiny response from MN on the biggest day in my life?

[MadameDefarge]

posted in chat. Maybe sounded too nonchalant? didn't want to sound pathetic.

have lost everything, apart from a tiny bit of equity in the home I was forced to sell. Am trying to set up a cafe, all sound re business plans etc. Am a single parent, have been hounded out of my home by fucking crack dealing cunts that held a gun to my 8 year olds head, am trying to to do my best. We lost our home, my job, everything that matters.

Finally after a year of searching and disappointment have found somewhere that might possibly be the answer to my dream.

I want my boy to see his mum being a success, doing well, overcoming obstacles. Protecting him and moving on from shit. I have spent two years wanting to end it all,and crawling back from the abyss.

But I am so scared. And need a bit of support.

So probably not AIBU either. but felt very sad that not answered in chat.

Hi Madam

I wish all good luck in your new venture.

Bad, horrible things happen but I believe the world is a good place. If I had known, 10 years ago, the things that were going to happen to me and my family, I would never ever had thought I would still be standing (phew long sentence!)

Keep your chin up and keep moving onwards. You are obviously strong or you wouldnt even be considering trying.

All will be well, eventually.

Chegirl, I really appreciate what you say, because I sort of know from you MN posts what a hard row you have had to hoe, and what a fantastic job you have done.

I try to remember that its not what life throws at you that counts, its what you do with it it that matters. I don't think I always rise to the challenge properly, but I do what I can.

And any other cod philosophy that seems appropriate!

Good for you and I wish you all the best. I used to live opposite a crack house and you have my sympathies

walkinthewoods, just tried to email you, but got a failure notice (grrh!) will try again tomorrow,

Well done MadameDefarge, hope your new venture(and life) are a HUGE success

Have been out all day at nycos concert and practice, so haven't been on mn all day

Thank you purple, and every MNetter gets a 10% discount, as long as they ask for a sausage roll and a fruit shoot. (not that I will be serving those things of evilness) But I will get the message.

Madame. There is no such thing as 'properly' IMO. You do what you can do. The fact that you can put your head above the covers is enough somedays!

Let us know how it all goes.

Darling one being his mum sounds like enough given what you have gone through
he truly won't give a shit as long as he has a live mum who loves him.

Stop stressing. If this works out it's for the best if not then something else will come up.

I hope that you have the very best of luck but some blessings are not and some dramas turn out to be blessings
Well this has been my experience

Best of Luck Madame

I did see your thread, but chat tends to be a bit lighthearted etc, so i did not think (by the thread title) that it was serious.

SO, lots of ra ra ra from me

Good luck with the venture. Whereabouts (roughly) is your cafe? DS and I love cafes...

Ooh shiney

Ignore my sad tragic story! Twas but a blip in my school annual. At least I fucking hope it was. First and last time I try to be a caring citizen, I can tell you.

SGB, 'twill be in Hackney and festooned with imaginary portraits of Shiney. >

ooo if its in Hackney I could even pop by.

How exciting.

Ronaldhinio, I think you are spot on. However hideous it was, and believe me it was, it has has great fringe benefits. which are, having had to sell the beautiful ex LA flat I saved for years to buy, I got out with some equity before the crash, and I could use it to send ds to a school far away from here (only choice in those circs were to go private, no space in other LEA schools) but near enough to his dad to be happy, and to have a bit left over to try and start the cafe of all loveileness. I hope.

Must be the only private school parent who really didn't want to do it!

I will of course announce the grand opening of Cafe MN with much fanfare here...

If I get the lease tomorrow, that is.

In which case, Chegirl, all MN discounts apply! (including introductory free food for Dcs)

and ta for the pom poms purple! I am loving them.

Ooo, we are not too far away and might well pop in for a fruit shoot at some point.

Madame GOOD LUCK with today.

Not sure why you got an error message? its coddycat at yahoo dot com or you could try co dot uk (both mine)

ooh i'd have loved it if my mum had a cafe when i was growing up. your boy will be so proud, watch him around the sticky buns

Sorry you didn't get a decent response Madame, it's hurtful when that happens isn't it? I didn't see your thread, MN moves like wildfire sometimes and I am dipping in and out... this happens to me too sometimes and I am always miffed despite knowing the rationale

You sound like a fighter! Keep working at it and you will make your little boy proud.

Hello Madame, don't 'know' you but want to wish you all the best - I have always wanted to run a cafe

Your little fella has every reason to be proud of you already, I reckon!