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To remove the toy baby feeding bottle from my dd's new doll bath and feeding set?

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Springfleurs · 30/05/2009 15:23

I was brought up to think that breast feeding was a strange and rather disgusting thing to do.

Luckily managed to overcome this myself and b/f both dc for 5 months and 14 months respectively.

Took dd to a toy shop today and she chose a doll bath and feeding set. Unpacked it for her when we got in and there is a feeding bottle in there. I know it might seem a bit precious but it irritated me slightly, as though it was a mandatory piece of equipment for all babies/dolls.

Or

I am taking it all rather too seriously?

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MissSunny · 30/05/2009 16:13

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barnsleybelle · 30/05/2009 16:14

lol at jabber!!!!

jabberwocky · 30/05/2009 16:15
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Springfleurs · 30/05/2009 16:15

Read that too WME. We should all be issued a copy in our Bounty packs, no wait there would not room for the mini cans of diet coke!

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Springfleurs · 30/05/2009 16:18

FGS I am NOT being insulting I am expressing (geddit!) an opinion. Just as Shineon was allowed to NOT even consider b/f I am allowed to think that knowing the benefits it is selfish not to even try. I have no personal animosity towards her, I enjoy her posts and there are, as far as I am concerned no hard feelings here.

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wastingmyeducation · 30/05/2009 16:19

I think Avent and SMA would have something to say about that Springfleurs!

AbricotsSecs · 30/05/2009 16:21

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barnsleybelle · 30/05/2009 16:24

But to child, father christmas is normalised, so are fairies, so are talking animals.

We play, we grow up, we become educated and then thanks goodness we live in a society that allows us to make an informed choice...

It's a toy for goodness sake.

RumourOfAHurricane · 30/05/2009 16:24

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Springfleurs · 30/05/2009 16:26

Absolutely shine on, thank you.

Any hoo what are your views on water pistols? they are after all representing weapons and this concerns me somewhat .

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juuule · 30/05/2009 16:30

You are taking it too seriously.

It's a toy. Just like the doll.
My children have loved playing giving their dolls/teddies a bottle just as much as they enjoyed playing bfing their dolls/teddies.
They also know (and most have seen) me bf-ing them and their siblings. They've seen other babies bottle fed.

Let them play.

juuule · 30/05/2009 16:32

And bottles don't always mean formula. It could be ebm. I've explained this to my children, too.

Ponders · 30/05/2009 16:34

Of course demonising bottle feeding is really helpful for those who have to bottle feed

LovelyTinOfSpam · 30/05/2009 16:35

Surely the bottle is essential part of the kit so that little boys can feed the baby EBM while the babys mum has a rest/night out/what have you.

Or is it only little girls that are allowed to play with dolls?

Maybe it should come with a miniature breast pump as well to ensure everything is above board.

OracleInaCoracle · 30/05/2009 16:40

ponders, noone is "demonizing" ff. the point being made is that it is seen as the normal and natural way to feed a baby while bf is seen as something that only the select few do. when i expressed my intention to bf sil and mil both exclaimed "never had you down as a hippy" this attitude does need redressing, but hopefully in a way that doesnt alienate ff mums

roneef · 30/05/2009 16:43

Sorry you are a little unreasonable

Your dd might try to to breastfeed dolly anyway.

I had bottles for my dolls but still breastfed my dc.

Playing with bottles etc has no effect on adult decisions and sometimes bottles are necessary

jemart · 30/05/2009 16:43

When I was a little girl I used to feed dolly with a bottle, it had pretend milk in it and everything, was great fun.
Fast forward 20 years and when I gave birth to dd1 it did not even occur to me that I would do anything other than breast feed, thats what breasts are for!
YABU and taking it all a bit too seriously.

FabulousBakerGirl · 30/05/2009 16:44

Yep, too seriously. And by not letting her play with a toy bottle you are making her believe that bottle feeding is disgusting or wrong so whe will feel the same as you if she can't breast feed.

Morloth · 30/05/2009 16:45

I would toss it. I wouldn't worry too much about it, but I would toss it.

My DS never had water in a baby bottle.

Ponders · 30/05/2009 17:04

I'm objecting to the use of the word normalising in the context of bottle feeding - bottle feeding is normal, & considering throwing away a toy one so that a child's mind won't be contaminated by the idea of feeding a baby like that is demonising it (IMHO)

oodlesofpoodles · 30/05/2009 17:18

I bf my 3 but I ff my dolls when I was little. I also had a toy gun and a toy iron but I make little use of the real versions now I am grown. Nor do I sleep with a live grissly bear. You are taking it to seriously. Helping your dd with her newborn in the future is the best thing you can do to encourage her to bf.

bubblagirl · 30/05/2009 17:22

at the end of the day baby bottles and dolly feeding shouldnt become a debate on bf or ff and calling people who choose to ff selfish i was pumped up with drugs after traumatic birth was unable to bf had no choice but to ff it should not be classed as wrong

my ds is healthy and has no allergies what so ever

but thats not the point here children should be children and they should be able to pretend without it turning into a debate of whats right or wrong or who's right or wrong as mothers we get to choose or not choose sometimes but what counts is we support each other not once do ff mums slate bf mums and as some ff mums dont have a choice its cruel to feel that your choice is the best and only way

how about just excepting that some mums may not for there own reasons want to and some have no choice at all its all normal

i would raise my dd if i had one to choose what was right for her knowing the benefits but to also make her feel its not the only way and you have failed if you don't as i don't feel i have failed my ds is happy and healthy

but again its making a debate out of a normal childish play

hercules1 · 30/05/2009 17:23

My dd has those bottles with milk that disappears as you tip them. Tnh she's never been remotely interested in usign them or trying to breastfeed her dolls either.
I am very pro breastfeeding (fed for 7 years in total) but tbh wouldnt necessary automatically want dd to breastfeed. Great if she does and makes that choice but I have no intention of putting on pressure on her or putting my views on her. She'll be able to make a fully informed decision herself at the time.

HappyMummyOfOne · 30/05/2009 17:49

OP, YABVU.

Children play with lots of toys, doesnt mean anything other than they are young children playing. Did you check if the pack had any spoon re BLW, was the nappy organic cotton?

Your DD will make her own choices when she is faced with FF or BF, you shouldnt make her feel one is better than the other just because of your views. It should be her own choice and not a forced one.

Like Shineon I FF. Had absolutely no intentions of trying BF - my choice my child. If I had a DD, i'd explain some people FF and some BF - not force one or the other on her.

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