Phew...I've just about got through the whole thread now...it's been very interesting reading!
OP- No, YANBU. She is your DD and it is your choice. I get where you're coming from too but I didn't remove the bottle from DD's set as I felt she had already seen plenty of positive views of BFing (me with DS, many other friends BFing their babies) but has also seen other friends bottle-feeding. I have told her that babies get milk from their mums, like animals do, but that if it doesn't work or the mum doesn't want to, they get their milk from a bottle. She knows that breast milk is the best food a baby can have.
LTOS, You say you don't connect a bottle to formula necessarily but I think lots of other people do. As another poster describes, the bottle is everywhere as an icon on anything associated with babies; cards and wrapping paper, clothes, baby changing/feeding rooms etc... other images we see of bottles are on adverts for formula and on the packaging so it's only natural that we associate one with the other.
Besides, figures from the Infant Feeding Survey 2005 show that 48% of babies are being BF at 6 weeks, 21% of these exclusively. I would assume that these figures include the feeding of EBM through a bottle/cup/tube or other method. So, as the figures suggest that something like 80% of babies are having some formula by 6 weeks, it's logical to expect that most people would associate a baby bottle with formula milk.
An interesting point was raised earlier about children having toy/candy cigarettes. I loved them as a child and I have unfortunately been battling the dreaded weed for a long time now. Interestingly, there were a few posters who remembered liking the sweets and now don't smoke. However, no-one actually answered the question- would they let their DC's have those sweets? I wouldn't. Not because I think it will necessarily guarantee they'll smoke when older but just because I don't think it gives quite the right message.
The difficulty with a bottle as an accessory in a doll's set is that there is no sensible equivalent to represent BFing so bottle feeding becomes the default rather than an alternative. A lot of posters here have banged about 'choice', well, quite but unfortunately, the 'choice' to BF is not represented, as is often the case.
Nancy
'I often think that the more unhinged members of the BF brigade have probably never achieved anything in their lives other than having kids and feeding them - which is why they bleat on about it so much.'
I think that's pretty offensive and aggressive, TBH. I think attitudes like that can only contribute to the poor image that BFing sometimes has and goes some way to accounting for the fact that BFers are in the minority once baby gets past 6 weeks!