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to not want my dd's nursery to teach her to say "ta"?!

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mummy2isla · 27/05/2009 10:10

Not to be snobby or anything .... ... but I HATE babies being taught to say "ta" - my dd (11 months) has just started in nursery and all the nursery staff tell her to say "ta" all the time - I don't like it, but have the feeling I would be a bit awful to ask them not to?

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onagar · 28/05/2009 14:26

"is the word ta actually used anywhere in this country still" I grew up in East London where it was used by adults.

If I actually cared enough I ought to be offended that people are saying my native language is offensive. A bit like saying you don't want your children to sound like pakistanis isnt it.

OrmIrian · 28/05/2009 14:31

My manager sometimes says 'ta'. I give him a hard stare whenever he does it! But then he calls me blossom too so I suspect he's beyond the pale anyway.

Tulia · 28/05/2009 14:32

onagar - it is used all the time by adults where i'm from too, i really can't see a problem with it.

i even think an 11 month old baby would sound (dare i say it?) quite cute saying 'ta'

expatinscotland · 28/05/2009 14:33

'A bit like saying you don't want your children to sound like pakistanis isnt it. '

Pretty much.

[rolls eyes]

Really, it's just a word, and not an obscene one.

BFD.

You trust the unwashed masses enough to watch your own child, they're good enough for that to you.

If you want them speaking the Queen's English as well then hire a friggin' Norland Nanny or an elocution instructor.

junglist1 · 28/05/2009 14:34

expat

AitchTwoOh · 28/05/2009 15:24

you LOVE that your kids sound like wee westies, expat, you phonetically-typing fool.

expatinscotland · 28/05/2009 15:37

I rather like how they say the long 'o', tbh.

It's not just Tesco, it's Tesc-OH.

And how they roll their 'r'.

And the way they use intonation, particularly with questions. 'Why?' just sounds a lot heavier and carries more weight in a West Highland accent.

Of course, 'Where's Mummy?' can get annoying sometimes.

juneybean · 28/05/2009 18:41

At work today (at the nursery) a 14 month old kept saying ta when HE was giving me something so its like conditioning.

screamingabdab · 28/05/2009 19:42

juney Ah Bless, he's got it all the wrong way round.

Bit like when DS1, age 2, announced loudly to a packed shop "Mummy, you've done a poo"

MarthaFarquhar · 28/05/2009 20:05

I say "ta". 'Tis part of my cockney heritage. You lot are cultural oppressors.

However, since moving North, poor DD has been indoctrinated into the world of "thank-you". Don't get me started on the short vowels .

Thunderduck · 28/05/2009 20:07

It could be worse Expat. They could sound as though they were from Edinburgh.

juneybean · 28/05/2009 21:19

Martha I'm from the North and find ta quite common here lol

pamelat · 29/05/2009 18:21

I'm from "hey up me duck" country but have never heard "ta". I thought it was a generational rather than geographical thing

A bit like how only the older people here actually say "me duck", not us sprightly youngesters of 30 something

Blondeshavemorefun · 29/05/2009 18:43

you are paying the staff to look after and educate your child so i dont think yabu to ask them to say thank you rather than ta as you hate ta so much

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mummy2isla · 29/05/2009 20:23

Hello! I have been at work and can't believe the amount of posts. Aitchtwooh and screamingabdab and blondeshavemorefun - I agree!!! cthea chill the f* out you loon! [hiding behind large tree]

BTW blonde shave more fun, or blondes have more fun??!!

the point is that I just don't like the sound of it! It's horrible - "say taaaaa", "taaaaaa"

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screamingabdab · 29/05/2009 20:27

Mummy 12 pages, you must be very proud

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mummy2isla · 29/05/2009 20:28

Ooh it's like a little debate I've started.

Sadly as I am having Friday night in by myself while dh is out getting drunk at the cricket it's probably the most thing that'll happen screamer !!

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mummy2isla · 29/05/2009 20:29

ahem, most exciting thing!

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clemette · 29/05/2009 21:23

Nothing much to add, but I do encourage DS (16months) to say "ta" and when he does I reply "thank you". I model the "standard" form but allow him to access a modified one. Shall I have my PhD taken off me?

As for trying to control how your children speak, it is well established that children adopt the accent of their peers, not their parents so you might want to start drafting a letter to the PTA for the future...

Blondeshavemorefun · 30/05/2009 13:15

2isla - its blondes have more fun

but i answer to blondes, blondie, bhmf etc

though bella calls me other names

KAEKAE · 30/05/2009 17:40

I think YABU....and you have far too much time on your hands! It isn't that bad come on! And what on earth is wrong with the word belly?

screamingabdab · 30/05/2009 17:44

My 6 year old said to his brother yesterday "Do you want to sex me on the bum?"

Makes me yearn for the days when ta or thankyou was my biggest worry

JemL · 30/05/2009 21:53

Shopping at Asda is common?!

pamelat · 31/05/2009 12:24

so what does shopping at ASDA and at Boden make me?!

ponynuts · 03/06/2009 11:39

Doesn't really matter what she says, as long as she's meaning it to say thank you for something she's been given. If you're that concerned don;t send her to nursery and look after her at home yourself. Say 'thank you' at home and she might pick that up instead.

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