to feel ignored when my post is not acknowledged?

[snowmummy]

I may be sensitive, or precious and I'm fairly new on here but I would really like to know what the done thing is here on MN.

So is it unreasonable to expect some sort of acknowledgement when you have responded to another's request for information/advice? [gets ready for a flaming]

TIA

Only if someone knows the answer!

Have just re-read that. You want thanking? Is that it?

depends how busy the thread is ine. If you comment and so do many others, yours may get lost in the mele. Mine has many times, you get used to it.

In the grand scheme of things, I think Mn'ers try to aknowledge that you've attempoted to help.

Not sure if that was helpful or not.

yanbu, but is the person you responded to out maybe?

No, not really just an acknowledgement when other MNers have been responded to.

Thanks for your speedy reply by the way

and agree with lia. you know we'll all expect a personal reply from you now!

Most of my posts get ignored, I like to think its because I've said something thats already been said. However in reality its prob. because what I said was pretty boring

I think it's polite to acknowledge if you can.

But I don't get too upset if my words of wisdom aren't received with the breathless adoration they really deserve.

MN is pretty fast-moving and doesn't go in for too much cuddly stuff. IME it doesn't do to be thin-skinned around here. But when you do feel the love, there's nothing like it.

hm...the person may didn't appreciate your input, or the person may have not seen that anyone responded or whatever....
it kinda would depend on the thread, i.e. business and well...was it something very personal/ a long reply you typed, etc...

oh south, I'm sure that's not the case.

See your post actually made me chuckle.

Actually what I just posted was fairly boring wasn't it?

YANBU, but then again YABU, it does happen a lot, no malice is usually intyended. Then people get to know you, get chattier with you, and that's it, you're hooked, your life is gone, and your sofa groans under the weight of your rapidly-expanding butt because you just sit and MN all bloody day eating biscuits.

So in a way, it's a sign that you can save yourself while there's still time...

lia - in a "aww bless" kinda way I bet

If you've come from a smaller forum to MN as I did, it's a shock to the system how anonymous it can be.

But yes, all of the above. Also, if you said something really polite and friendly but that the OP didn't agree with, sometimes it's easier to ignore than to be seen disagreeing with a charming person ifswim.

Often lots of posters are essentially saying variations on the same thing - great minds think alike! It might be hard to acknowlege them all.

Thanks for your replies.

I was beginning to think I had offended the OP is some way but then like I said, I may be being too sensitive.

Oh dear. I'm afraid it happens sometimes. Don't take it personally

Hellooo btw.

TBH, I think most of us respond to offer our support/thoughts, sometimes these responses strike a chord and get picked up for further discussion, sometimes they don't.

It would make a very dull thread if everyone went around saying,

by Mrs X, please can you help?

By Mrs Y, yes, do this.

by Mrs W, not really sorry.

By Mrs X, thanks mrs Y, that is really helpful.

By Mrs Y, thanks Mrs W, great of you to respond.

and so on, ad infinitum.

Bearing in mind a thread can go up at something like 300 posts an hour it would mean the op couldn't actually think about any of the responses and the thread would make no sense to late comers.

Personally, I think the MN way is to thank sometimes, but most of the time you just accept that your post has been appreciated and do not expect acknowledgement for it. It just seems a little needy to want to be acknowledged all the time!

Snowmummy I'm new on here. I dont understand all the stuff like DS DD PLSM what does all that mean. pls someone tell me. I dont think i'm liked on here either because I am not in the breast is best brigade. Is there anyone out there on my level who I consider a normal mum who does not make a fuss over every little issue.

I say thank you quite a lot. Probably should cut down a bit.

luvoneson, there is loads of useful stuff here including the acronym list.

I think we are all normal mums here, some more intense than others on a subject, some more intense on another subject. I am sure there are many on your level, you just have to spend some time looking around until you see an area you feel comfortable and settle there!

FWIW, you won't be disliked simply because you are not in a brigade, but you will be if you come over all defensive and cross about it.

snowmummy - I try to remember to thank people but sometimes I just say a blanket 'thanks guys' as without doing all the way back I can't remember who said what. That could be because I am getting old too though!

luvoneson - all the confusing initials are listed under 'acronyms' - prob on home page. I will have a look for you. BTW there are lots of VERY pro breast feeders here but there are lots of us who formula fed too!

luvoneson: Click on 'useful stuff' (near the top of the page in blue) and then on 'acronym list' and you'll find out what DD DS etc is.

I doubt anyone have very strong opinions about you yet but if you call any group of people a 'brigade' it's not the best way to get them on side. MN has a lot of people with very different opinions on, well, everything, but we generally get along and agreeing on particular points is not actually a prerequisite for being liked.

KingCanute got there before me!

Luvoneson

DS - Dear Son
DD - Dear Daughter
PMSL - pee myself laffing

Theres a link somewhere with the abbreviations but I'm useless at putting links into posts.

I like to think I'm a normal mum - I've dipped babies dummy in tea occasionally

Gosh I'm good

Southmum, Tea

whiskey honey gin stout is much better