To be so upset and angry because of complaint about my friend breastfeeding?

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My friend and work colleague had a DD 6 months ago. We both work in a primary school.

Several weeks ago my friend visited her old reception class in school. The class topic has been 'Growing' ang the reception teacher thought it would be nice for my friend to bring her DD in during the lesson where they would be talking about babies.

I've just had a phone call from my friend and I'm really angry at what she told me.

Apparently at the end of the lesson in school my friend needed to feed her DD and so sat quietly in the reading corner away from the children while she BF.

Friend had a call from the head on Friday telling her that a parent has complained about her BF'ing in front of the children

This parent said that her DS had said he had seen Mrs "boobies" and had been a bit giggley about it.

The head is being lovely and only spoke to my friend about purely to let her know what has happen and as far as I know this parent has been put in her place.

I am just so shocked that this parent could do this. I know the parent in question and the more I think about it I#m getting more and more angry!!!!

jopie;....i've never voted conservative in my life....i just think society needs to get back to some sort of normality...where will it all end?...

Normality? Whose definition of normality are we talking about here?

There has never been a fixed normality within society. The norms are fluid and ever changing.

F&Z...i don't know any gay people..i've meet some, but deffo never known any gay parents

to get back to point of thread a little, it definitely impacts on us all if bfing is not seen as a normal everyday activity that is not shameful or weird or embarrassing or to be done privately
if we as adults feel uncomfortable about it, we really owe it to our children to not pass on these attitudes
only indulge in them discreetly and not in a classroom!
we need to see bfing - being around other bfing women is a big indicator for bfing our own children successfully
bfing rates are pretty abysmal and we all know women who would like to have bf / would like to have bf for longer, but couldn't
the reasons for bfing problems are sometimes not clear
a culture where women see other women breastfeeding as a normal day to day part of life is so advantageous

Red - go do that sort of thing in the toilet, there's a dear.

you can kind of tell, dp.
they're just the same as us, in fact they very likely are us, posting on here. no two-headed monsters, just nice people or twats or naff or brilliant etc etc etc perfectly 'normal' human beans. you'd know that if you met any. (and of course the truth is that you likely have and didn't notice...)

do you think it's possible to make an informed decision about something you know so little about though daftpunk? would you not feel more confident in your opinions if you had met some gay parents before condemning them all?

On the bf thing - this was interesting to me as I was at dd1's playgroup and was having a stay and play session [cos I am a great mum don'tchaknow] and dd2 needed a feed. I worried I'd get a complaint or the play school would. I love the playschool and would hate to create waves for them.

Loads of the 3yo came up to ask what I was doing and were interested in 'that baby having her snack time'.

I offered to move but the group leaders said on no account to move.

So that is a positive

Flocci - "but [I] would be equally upset if a calf sucked from its mum's udder in the corner of the classroom."

What on earth would you have done if your kids had been at the school I went to? - the field next to the school was full of cows and we not only saw the calves sucking from their mums' udders, we frequently saw them being born as well....

RustyBear - it's ok I am herding all cows into sheds by school run time.

Lambs too, the way their tails wag with joy when feeding is simply vile.

daft punk, I didn't say Conservative, I said conservative, do you not understand the difference? One is a political party, one isn't....its more a state of mind. And you are most certainly conservative.

Normality? You think you are normal? You think only your views are normal and that the rest of us are all wrong...honey you're in a tiny minority here, do you not get a hint from that?

you are so lovely, frank.

Fox you're right.....
how dare I parade my mammaries!

children can react with embarrassment to bfing if they have never seen it - sometimes their only association of breasts is with pictures in tabloids etc
it's even more important imo that these children are given the chance to see breasts being used for their actual purpose - ie to feed a baby, not to titillate and make money
how else can they learn bfing is a nice normal natural thing and not something slightly dirty?

Rusty, I grew up in the countryside. I used to watch the sheep shagging in the field opposite my school all the time.

Perhaps a massive screen should have been built around the school to prevent it?

Was stood behind Red at the time.

we haven't smooched for years i feel

F&Z;

i know gay people are really nice..i know that, it's cool that they can get married now, but they can't have it all can they.!

i just don't understand why i'm always attacked....is it because i'm a white hetrosexual married woman living in surrey?

sorry tree - hope your not concussed for too long

Franny speaks the truth as always

I think it's sad that there are children who find breastfeeding shocking, and something we should get angry about and seek to change.

The role of the head teacher should IMO have been to reply loftily "No, we don't have a problem with staff or parents breastfeeding, and neither should you". A school is a public institution which is supposed to be run for the education of the children. So breastfeeding is something a school really should have an actively positive stance on. Does it have Healthy School status? I would imagine this comes under the healthy eating policy...