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To be so upset and angry because of complaint about my friend breastfeeding?

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memoo · 17/05/2009 14:59

My friend and work colleague had a DD 6 months ago. We both work in a primary school.

Several weeks ago my friend visited her old reception class in school. The class topic has been 'Growing' ang the reception teacher thought it would be nice for my friend to bring her DD in during the lesson where they would be talking about babies.

I've just had a phone call from my friend and I'm really angry at what she told me.

Apparently at the end of the lesson in school my friend needed to feed her DD and so sat quietly in the reading corner away from the children while she BF.

Friend had a call from the head on Friday telling her that a parent has complained about her BF'ing in front of the children

This parent said that her DS had said he had seen Mrs "boobies" and had been a bit giggley about it.

The head is being lovely and only spoke to my friend about purely to let her know what has happen and as far as I know this parent has been put in her place.

I am just so shocked that this parent could do this. I know the parent in question and the more I think about it I#m getting more and more angry!!!!

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JustcallmeDog · 17/05/2009 21:41

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AitchTwoOh · 17/05/2009 21:42

jeez louise, DP, you've really lost it this time. take a wee step back.

daftpunk · 17/05/2009 21:42

jopie;

honestly..all these people who say "it's just a piece of paper"...if that's all it is get married then...show that extra commitment....but people wont...because they want to have the option of quick getaway.

FairyMum · 17/05/2009 21:42

Its a sad thing that children of school age does not see bf as a natural normal thing. Its even sadder that parents call up and complain about it. Britain is a screwed up country when it comes to breastfeeding.

KerryMaid · 17/05/2009 21:42

Actually, I'm intriuged.

What else do these ideal parents have to be, apart from one male and one female?

I'm assuming they're also required to be able-bodied and solvent. Should they also be good-looking, do you have a particular hair colour in mind? Must they own a labrador?

fishie · 17/05/2009 21:43

daftpunk it is surprising that you see yourself as a feminist. usually people who think that women are equal tend to give the same respect to others.

moondog · 17/05/2009 21:44

Hang on, you caN'T bloody 'report'Daftpunk because she thinks kids are better off with married parents.

FFS, she can think what she likes (and statistics show that this is true in any case.)

Calm down you lot.

StealthPolarBear · 17/05/2009 21:45

Wow this thread took off, memoo I'm sorry I bothered to reassure you, as it seems I was wrong, there are a lot of people who think bf is something to be ashamed of Well then, the only attitude is to hell with them.

Not in front of the children, how ridiculous. Why on earth would children need to be prepares in advance to see someone feeding her baby? She wasn't gutting a chicken!

So she should have done it in the car? What if her baby needed feeding now and she was catching the bus? You know, one of those public places with children on? Even if she was driving

SO

WHAT??

She was feeding her baby - I really don't understand the issues? As for the issue of it being inappropriate to also bottle feed a baby in a classroom, what exactly do you think would happen?

daftpunk · 17/05/2009 21:45

i am a feminist...probably the biggest one on mumsnet.

jellybeans · 17/05/2009 21:46

It's so sad how some people have been brainwashed by mens mags and formula companies. Very sad to put men before babies.

My almost 13 year old DD brought her friend round the other week and walked in while I was bf, didn't bat an eyelid, knew I was feeding. DD knows she was bf, not bothered at all. She knows formual milk is breast milk but that of a cow and knows human milk is best. DS 5 giggled a few times about 'sucking on boobies' etc but that was till they were used to it.

I bf in front of DD aged 9's friends and they didn't even notice!

Flocci, would you let your child go to someones house who bfs?

I always make the point to my kids that some people don't like bf as they have hang ups or are brainwashed by sexualisation of the breasts. Hopefully they feel empowered to bf when they are older, they said they will if they have kids. Equally they know that formula is needed sometimes and is OK if bf doesn't work out.

I don't let the anti bf ers get to me (although will speak up against them) as it is them who have the hang ups/sexualisation issues and not me. Society needs to start putting their babies first and not pandering to the likes of mens mags/formula companies. Can some people not see through that? So sad.

KerryMaid · 17/05/2009 21:46

Moondog she said it's a fact that kids are better off with one male parent and one female parent.

I consider that to be a homophobic statement and I can report whoever I like.

moondog · 17/05/2009 21:47

Wel;l you are being fucking ridiculous Kerry.
Grow up.

StealthPolarBear · 17/05/2009 21:47

OK major x post while the rest of the thread moved on

And from re-reading my own post I've realised there is a place I consider it to be completely inappropriate for a woman to bf - when she's driving!
(of course that goes for ff as well )

fishie · 17/05/2009 21:47

oh md you know better than to rise to this. dp has probably picked that up from daily mail digest and is itching to tell us how her way is the only true road....

JustcallmeDog · 17/05/2009 21:48

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KerryMaid · 17/05/2009 21:49

Oh get a life moondog ffs.

moondog · 17/05/2009 21:49

That is the most worrying stance of all, that only thick unquestioning people buy into opinions like those of Daftpunk.

So inaccurate.

MANATEEequineOHARA · 17/05/2009 21:50

Would you say it is much better to stay in an abusive marriage then Daftpunk??? Because is is a FACT that is better Is there a citation we can see or is it from a BNP leaflet.

StealthPolarBear · 17/05/2009 21:50

Can someone please tell me why on earth a child would need to be prepared to see someone bf? Are they going to be scarred for life?

StealthPolarBear · 17/05/2009 21:51

...clings on to original thread...

daftpunk · 17/05/2009 21:52

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BalloonSlayer · 17/05/2009 21:53

Flocci and Gunnerbean

You are both being (that great favourite MN word) disingenuous when you claim that you would have the same issue if the mother had sat and bottle fed in the corner of the classroom.

(GB: I would have left if I knew that my baby was needing a feed - and that would be the same if I was feeding it with a bottle or a breast." Flocci: "I don't think I or anyone has said that the sight of a breast is offensive, I have said that a classroom is not the place to feed a baby. ")

Oh, whatever else you do, DO come clean!

There is NO WAY anyone - including you! - would have complained about someone bottle feeding a baby in a classroom.

Come on, come back here and say that if this thread was about a parent complaining that someone fed their baby sustenance from a bottle in the classroom because they thought babies should not be fed in a classroom, you would also be defending them.

I await your reply.

Come on, admit it. This is about breast-feeding, not about feeding a baby.

KerryMaid · 17/05/2009 21:53

I have no problem with two gay men brining up a child daftpunk.

Hence me challenging you.

AitchTwoOh · 17/05/2009 21:53

lol spb.

i don't doubt, by the way, that the stats will show that children are better off with married parents, but it's no doubt got more to do with class and expectation of opportunity than the bit of paper.

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