To be annoyed with childminder for giving DS ready made pasta?

[Snippets]

The freshly stuffed type you buy from M&S? We had an agreement that all meals would be freshly cooked. I take ages making each meal for him from scratch and have never given him pre-prepared or convenience food and bit annoyed she has.

Sorry MillyR, the image of a passata-filled hypodermic now won't leave my brain

PMSL at the limericks! I wish I were clever enough to join in

aaahhhhh, so she's just cross because the nanny stole her m&s grub to give to the child then?

How much harm is it going to do as a one-off, though, tmmj?

I expect that, from now on, the nanny will know that stuffed fresh pasta doesn't count as 'fresh' food and isn't what the OP wants her child to eat, but having found it in the fridge, it was reasonable for her to assume that her employer approved of it.

In a world where children are starving, is this really such a terrible thing?

To those people who keep saying, wait until your PFB is 2 or 3 and eats blah blah blah. Yes, well I accept that when he is 2 he will eat what he wants which is why it's important to me that we make an effort now, whilst it's such easier, and I totally object to somone I pay being too lazy to cook a simple meal for my child as I asked, and pay, her to do. If I don't do something expected of me at work, I would expect to be pulled up on it, so why shouldn't I be able to raise this with my nanny? As it happens, I am totally non-confrontational and wouldn't raise it unless it became a regular thing but wanted other thoughts on this. Glad to see that one or two other mums also think it's slightly out of order. For the rest of you, I can only assume it's guilt that makes you react quuite so strongly to the thought of a mother wanted her child to avoid pre-packaged/convenience food. I'm sure I would feel differently if I had 3 kids but I don't, I have 1 child. Also, I never said I bought the ready stuffed pasta or that it was in my fridge. I varied some of the detail as I didn't want my nanny to read the title of the thread and think it was her. As to for the people making arguments about there being children starving in the world. I assume you make your DC lick the plates clean and serve up leftovers until eaten? Sorry but totally unconvinced by any of your arguments and would have totally thought that SAHM might have had more time to cook for their kids - clearly not so maybe as a working mum I'm not doing too badly after all.

yep, you're doing great snippets, keep it up

Lol, you can assume as much guilt as you like on my behalf (I don't feel any and won't) but that will not change the fact that, going on your op and everything you have posted since YABU, increasingly so.

Your choices are your choices, getting peeved because we don't all make those same choices is childish.

Out of interest why do you keep coming back? Isn't it clear by now how this is going? Or are you just attention seeking?

I am thinking the later.

I still think you and people like you are destroying the planet with your unethical fresh food obsession.

Keep coming back? I think I've posted about 5 times in total - not much in 33 pages. I would say it's fellow MN users who have the obsession rather than me. Why do you keep coming back? I started the f-ing thread!!

And if I'm peeved, how would you describe the vasdt majority of reactions to my opening post? Vastly and tragically out of proportion. I would have got a warmer response if I'd posted that I hit my child.

and I would say, MillyR, that people like you are destroying the planet with your pre-packaged crap and fuelling childhood obesity.

I think it's quite cool that you are still here after such a consummate roasting

I think your fresh-food-only thing is barking, but I was like that with my ds1 when he was a baby (although admittedly I cooked it myself!) and am still a bit joyless in comparison to some people - have been called a food fascist on here for curling my lip at cheestrings and froot shuits

have you been spit-roasted on MN before, or is this your first?

these threads do tend to develop a life of their own

How are chopped tomatoes fattening?

And my children are as thin as whippets actuallly.

my ds2 subsists entirely on parboiled lentils and potato water and he's as fat as fuck

it's not fair

By Snippets on Fri 15-May-09 23:54:28 "The nanny did not spend her own money."

By Snippets on Wed 20-May-09 22:36:37 "Also, I never said I bought the ready stuffed pasta or that it was in my fridge."

Both quotes in reference to the meal in question. SO - where did it come from then? Did the pasta fairies imps drop it in?

Or, are you saying that you gave the nanny money to go out and get the ingredients for a freshly prepared meal and that she mistakenly thought fresh pasta would be ok to buy? In which case, next time give her a shopping list.

Snippy, your tone with other parents is arrogant and patronising in the extreme. Come down off your high horse, you're still not better than the rest of us.

28 posts from snippets and counting...

she probably saw the word "fresh" on the packaging and thought "that looks preposterously expensive, it must be ok"

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The number of posts is not the point, the fact that you have your say and leave then come back and start it all off again, then leave, then... there is a pattern was my point!

The response to your opening op was only as dissproportionate as your response to your nannys error, Tis the nature of AIBU I am afraid.

The reason other people keep coming back is because the thread moves on and people talk about other things then other people see it bumped, read the op and post a response to it without realising that the discussion has already been had, or feeling that they would still like to say their bit.

Anyway, I don't think it is cool that you are still here, I think it is cool when people come back after a roasting and say "fair does, guess you lot disagree" not "ooh you are all so mean and terrible I am really cross" (complete with the virtual foot stamp).

snippets... on risk of bringing the sahm vs wohm debate into this already quite mad thread.... if you work then you have no idea what was going on at home. i've been a sahm most of the time since having dd, and even when she was an only child there were days she didn't let up for long enough for me to so much as make a slice of toast, much less cook a meal from scratch.

some days kids play up and make it impossible for you to do a damn thing, fact of life and part of the reason ready meals exist!

and while i'm on the subject, if you work i think it's actually a bit sad that on the weekends when you are home you waste time cooking that you could be spending with your ds... the 5 mins you save by using canned tomatoes could be spent playing with your child...

Snippets, is it not possible for you to accept that some people don't feed their children crap, but also think that your OP was entirely unreasonable, and that your reaction to being told so is overly petulant.

I have already said, I was like you but have since realised that it was over the top. Why ask experienced mothers if you don't actually want the benefit of their experience??

Is this still going?

Fab.

Amazed you haven't run, snippets. You are either very brave and very sure, or as mad as a box of frogs.

The reason that your opening post attracted such a response was that you said that you objected to ready made pasta. Which people took to mean that you expected nanny to make pasta from scratch. Naturally, as that is what you said. Your later clarifications were not read by many, on a thread this size people will only read the opening post.

I love millyr and her fresh food fetish dismay. She is completely right. In our house we prepare chutneys from our tomato crop, as the tomatoes won't last otherwise. Thus it has been since the dawn of man. People have merrily salted, pickled, spiced and chilled and have survived harsh winters as a result.

Also agree with others that "fresh" means dfferent things to different people. Have you explained to your nanny and listed if necessary exactly what you mean?

Plus at flavourless sauce described in earlier posts. I never feed DD anything I wouldn't eat myself. And I wouldn't eat that.

I also agree with PinkTulips - I can't actually imagine being able to cook a fresh lunch for my two from scratch as neither of them give me a minute to do anything when I am at home (I have to batch cook, freeze and - horror - reheat).