To be annoyed with childminder for giving DS ready made pasta?

[Snippets]

The freshly stuffed type you buy from M&S? We had an agreement that all meals would be freshly cooked. I take ages making each meal for him from scratch and have never given him pre-prepared or convenience food and bit annoyed she has.

Snippets said:
".....For the rest of you, I can only assume it's guilt that makes you react quuite so strongly to the thought of a mother wanted her child to avoid pre-packaged/convenience food....."

Ahh yes - we should feel guilty because we don't feed our children to your high standards so we are clearly neglecting them and feeding them turkey twizzlers coated in salt for every meal!!

I could suggest that your obsessiveness about one meal of good quality filled pasta is due to your guilt about working long hours and leaving your child with a nanny.

clemette, you don't use a microwave to reheat, do you? Have you no shame, woman?

(whispers, yes - and it is from evil Tescos!!)

"and I would say, MillyR, that people like you are destroying the planet with your pre-packaged crap and fuelling childhood obesity."

Um, no. it is much more environmentally friendly to use preserves etc rather than entirely "fresh" food which has usually been flown or shipped around the world. Or at least trucked from warmer climes. Or grown in a polytunnel at great expense.

Plus people end up chucking out more perishables which is bad also.

Balance of tinned/frozen/preserved and local in season ingredients is what is required. And really getting to grips with leftovers

I really want this thread to reach 1,000 posts.

It is so absurd.

'I could suggest that your obsessiveness about one meal of good quality filled pasta is due to your guilt about working long hours and leaving your child with a nanny.'

V v unkind even if the OP is as mad as a box of frogs.

I am v disappointed.

no more unkind than Snippy's own statement, surely, BALD?
Or are you working on the principle that she is a vulnerable person?

two wrongs don't make a right, and no one should be castigated for being a working parent

[prim]

Is she being castigated for being a working parent though? I didn't read it that way.

Snippy accused MillyR of being motivated by her guilt at failing to cook fresh meals for her dc. Milly retaliated by suggesting that Snippy was motivated by her guilt at working long hours and having a nanny.

She didn't say "You deserve to feel guilty".

well, I don't think she was exactly being castigated as a WOHM - she had made an enormous assumption, wildly incorrect in many cases and I think it is fair to assume in return that she is measuring others by her own feelings, which is what stayingsunnygirl said, iyswim
(and I fully appreciate that I have been a bit convoluted there but my brain is a bit off-line)

No I didn't! It was another poster. I did not make those comments.

stayingsunnygirl, not MillyR

[slinks off]

oh good, greeny thought the same as me and probably explained it better.

no, you're all right thumby, I fucked it up royally

Agree with greensneeze that the suggestion of guilt was a guess at how the OP might feel and why she is seemingly going OTT over one small pasta episode, rather than saying she should feel guilty.

And in return snipper did say that using a tin of tomatoes in cooking was akin to feeding kentucky dipped in raw corn syrup to the sprogs. Resulting in epidemic of obesity, no less.

I think that I read that the dc is just 13 months so this doesn't seem unreasonable to me.

isenhart7 - are you snippets? [paronoid]

Thumbwitch and Greensneeze are right - I had no intention to castigate anyone for being a working parent - merely to turn Snippet's statement back on her. A bit of judge not lest ye be judged, I suppose.

It would be unreasonable if the dc were 13 weeks but not at 13 months.

Mmmmm jabber pass 'em over...

The more i think about this thread the more i worry about the home made food.

Chopping up some tomatoes and adding cheese or herbs and cooking for 5 mins sounds rank.

Surely if doing it from scratch one would plunge the tomatoes into boiling water for a few secs then cool and peel them before chopping. Otherwise you end up with gobfulls of tomato skins which is horrible. And they are rather indigestable, especially to a 14 month year old, I have seen the evidence.

If someone gave me a couple of chopped tomatoes cooked for 5 mins with herbs or cheese (eh?) i would not be a happy bunny.

Better to feed said child properly cooked food containing the most wonderful of labour saving inventions, tinned tomatoes, or in my case, waitrose passata

Print Recipe Sponsored by: Italian Tomato GravyCopyright 2001 Television Food Network, G.P. All rights reservedPrep Time: 15 min Inactive Prep Time: 0 min Cook Time: 40 min Level: Easy Serves: 6 servings, Serving suggestion Ingredients1/2 cup extra-virgin olive oil 3 garlic cloves, chopped Pinch red pepper flakes 2 tablespoons chopped fresh basil 2 tablespoons chopped fresh oregano 1 tablespoon fresh thyme leaves 2 bay leaves 1 onion, diced 1 carrot, finely chopped 1/4 cup red wine 2 (28-ounce) cans whole peeled plum tomatoes Pinch sugar Salt and freshly ground black pepper DirectionsHeat olive oil in a large saucepan over low heat. Saute the garlic, red pepper flakes, and herbs for 2 minutes until the herbs are fragrant and garlic is golden (but not overly brown.) Raise the heat to medium, add onion and carrot; cook for 5 minutes until they breakdown and are soft. Deglaze with red wine and reduce to evaporate the alcohol. Hand crush the canned tomatoes and add to the pot, along with its liquid. Add a pinch of sugar to cut down on the acidity from the tomatoes; season with salt and pepper. Let simmer for 30 minutes, uncovered. Printed from FoodNetwork.com on Wed May 20 2009© 2009 Scripps Networks, LLC. All Rights ReservedAdvertisement will not be printed

Note the 2 cans of plum tomatoes and the 55 minutes of total preparation time.

Oh, sorry, all formatting was lost when I hit post. Still a good recipe though.