To be annoyed with childminder for giving DS ready made pasta?

[Snippets]

The freshly stuffed type you buy from M&S? We had an agreement that all meals would be freshly cooked. I take ages making each meal for him from scratch and have never given him pre-prepared or convenience food and bit annoyed she has.

When weaning dd I had such good intentions-only organic, no sugar etc, etc, etc. When I realsied how expensive, time consuming and wasteful the whole shebang could be I was more than happy to cut corners and have the occasional ''naughty'' treat including pre-packaged convenience food. I think that the odd preservative here and there is a good thing if it saves the carers sanity. I also don't think that kids should feel that some foods are forbidden.
Op- I'm sure that if you find the time to cook with your child when he is a bit older you can instil a healthy relatiosnhip with food and where it comes from but if you ban him from eating certain foods he will probably do it behind your back anyway. Crisps and chocolate will become even more sought after for him.

if you want to be such a control freak then maybe you should look after your own child and not pay somebody else to do it.

Strrraight to the jugular - but probably very good advice.

tattifer
that's me, blunt, direct and straight to the point
gets me in loads of trouble
not that I care much
have a skin like a rhino

try some organic aloe vera moisturising cream

are you trying to soften me up?

(organic) butter you up

won't work
unless you have chocolate (plain) and wine (chardonay)

green and blacks milk chocolate (on the grounds it's darker than the average milk chocolate) and a very fine bottle of shiraz?

And some doritos and quackermole!

it will do, at a pinch

you can have all the doritos, see i can be nice
have you got any pringles instead?

Nope, how about french bread straight from the oven and some pate?

(Obviously both ready made)

sounds lovely!
I once had someone ask me if i made my own mayonnaise

as if
life is too short to make mayonnaise
btw I snooped on your profile
I am 42 too!!!

Sadly I'm not anymore I was 4ERHUMPH3 last week

Still have absolutely no inclination to make my own pasta - I am a fallen woman...

slightly off topic
but pasta maker machine thingys are absolutely fantastic when you use them with playdough

• disclaimer you can't eat it

Are you sure about the can't eat it part?
A) because both my daughters did when they were younger and they're fine
B) You know, don't you, that somewhere out there, in a town near you, is someone who makes their own playdough...

...mwahahahaha

Hahahaha, making playdough! Argh, I did that once at a toddler group, I offered in a helpful way, god what a disaster! But then all my cooked from scratch food my dc's were subjected to was pretty grim too, OP...start using SOME ready made stuff now, or you may go mad.

Tis too late manatee, I fear she already has or she wouldn't have posted the question in the first place.

Although I agree completely that OP is overreacting and should perhaps relax a little wrt "acceptable" food, I am more shocked by some of the posts on here where nannies deliberately gave children sweets, crisps etc against the parents' express requests, and seem to be proud about it. Surely that's not right?! A piece of toast wouldn't have been any trouble, surely? Giving treats every now and again is one thing, but that's going to far and I would have been furious. I also think it's a childish thing to do.

I believe that most nannies won't do that.

Snippets #i think you are being precious....and I look forward to you being able to do this when you have more than 1 child. Personally, I would rather give my child some processed food and spend time playing with them than all my time in the kitchen

Have you never seen the nanny diaries?!

Maybe I was just lucky then, but my (very limited, granted) experience of nannies have been great.

I've had a temp nanny helping out earlier this year who went to more trouble than I ever do, texting me updates (I didn't ask!) throughout the day, going to a lot of trouble wrt variety etc. My current nanny often asks me to help her look at new ideas to introduce certain things - for example, she wants to give him more fish at the moment, so wanted to know what I'd suggest.
Also, reading the nannies/childminders boards on here, I don't think that's the exception at all - I find their discussions very inspiring (and makes me feel slightly guilty for not making more of an effort myself...)

snippets, YABU! She is a childminder, not a Norland nanny! She has other children to care for other than your DS and is probably paid a low rate of pay too! I'm sure you have excellent intentions in wanting to feed your child organic, freshly prepared food but you won't be able to continue this forever. Nor will you be able to have the same standards with child no. 2,3 or 4!
My mother had 4 children (I was the eldest) and she told me she used to puree three course meals for me as a baby and used towelling nappies. I am sure this is true as I know my mother's personality!! However, by the time she had no. 3 and 4, she had to resort to pampers nappies and milupa! Even she had to compromise for everyone's sanity!!

I think at some point she said that it was her nanny and not her CM,although I missed that point.
I am fairly sure that Italians would be very surprised by having pasta for the family and pasta for PFB. DCs have to have separate food when first weaned, but after that they aim should be to eat as a family IMO.
Nannies have my sympathies when they have to put up with parents who expect them to do things that they wouldn't manage themselves.

ssd not giving nannies a bad name there at all,are you?

I'd just like to reassure any employers here that as a nanny I would NEVER presume to watch neighbours while being paid to look after you children (unless they are asleep and I have time to sit down), if you say no sweets/crisps then I respect that and small children ARE demanding - that doesn't mean I take shortcuts.

You're not only being unreasonable but also a hypocrit. You say that your child isn't allowed any pre-prepared food but then say you make him pasta sauce from tomatoes and cheese. Hello? What do you think cheese is? Do you make your own cheese? FFS.

Your CM is probably a bit confused (as I would be) when your standards vary so much. Maybe you should give her an exact list of what is and what isn't acceptable? May I also suggest if you do this you start looking for another CM as she's likely to give you the boot.