To be annoyed with childminder for giving DS ready made pasta?

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The freshly stuffed type you buy from M&S? We had an agreement that all meals would be freshly cooked. I take ages making each meal for him from scratch and have never given him pre-prepared or convenience food and bit annoyed she has.

you need to chill out!!!!

But i am wondering how many mnetters had filled pasta today?? All this talking about yummy pasta gave me cravings . Do you think M and S was very busy today and should pay comission to OP?

'I don't think she is troll and i am not shocked at her OP. As a former London nanny i used to see this every day . I knew a 2 year old girl who was NEVER allowed to eat bread-not even toast for breakfast- because 'is too fattening'. I ve seen children who were not allowed to eat sugar even on their OWN birthday!!! Only rice cake and only organic. Our society goes mad! '

Sadly I don't think she is either. You see the above type of thing on mumsnet! It always sticks in my mind that someone was invited to a 2 yr old party and they got water, plain rice cakes and dried apricots! The mums got nothing because obviously they couldn't have been offered the child stuff and they couldn't have had proper food in front of the DCs.
Children should eat a mixture and have, on the whole, the same as the rest of the family. Like Clam's mine get mainly fresh, but sometimes they get convenience food or frozen.They also eat out, and the odd McDonald's hasn't hurt them. They are all teens, all fit and active and thin.
OP is setting her DC up for real food issues later-she needs to lighten up!!
It is totally unimportant as a one off thing. I still don't know why she had it in the fridge anyway if it wasn't to be eaten.

flippin' 'eck and it wasn't just any crappy pasta from the local spar... this was freshly hand made from free range eggs pasta from m & s!!!!

This is a joke right? Are you real? Or have you just never had to work a day in your life?

Couldn't read entire thread but surely if op has specific dietary requirements for dc couldn't she prepare the pasta herself for the nanny to feed it to dc?

Or get her cook to do it?

I agree with the others who pointed out that it is very easy to call others lazy or lax when you are paying SOMEONE ELSE to look after and prepare food for YOUR child.

Personally, I don't class ready stuffed pasta as junk food. But then we do often go out out all morning together having fun and it is quick and easy for us to use ready prepared pasta and the like. Our main meal is in the evening so we can be a bit more flexible about lunches.

I really hope this is a joke...honestly, life is too short, next you'll be telling me that tinned tomatoes are convenience food...and what about frozen peas

Have been lurking and laughing since yesterday.

Can we nominate OP for troll of the year this thread for MN Classics?

Sadly, jabberwocky, this isn't one off, there are plenty who are so controlling of their DCs. I daresay they don't dare comment on this thread since most posters seem to have common sense; and more important things to worry about. My classic was water and rice cakes for a birthday party-I think prisoners might fare better!

But surley if you never expose a child to a certain amount of treats which may or may not include some sugar (gasps) (but within moderation of course!!!) then A. When they do have it the they are likely to go loopy with the rush and B. The forbidden foods will become a total obsession and later in life they may have a terrible relationship with food?

Or am I just a bad mother??? (BBF runs off to hide the chocolate buttons under some unflavored organic rice cakes) ...

What a surprise that the OP hasn't been seen since 00:31:36 yesterday...

Well, not really much of a surprise.

I think if you have paid childcare you need to mentally prepare yourself for the fact that sometimes the carer isn't going to do exactly what you would like them to do. Honestly if its occasional and does'nt cause your dc harm or endanger them I'd let it go. If there's anything I've learnt in my years of mothering its to pick your battles v.carefully. If I was your nanny/CM and you annoyed me too much with this type of thing I'd tell you to p-off & resign!. FWIW my SIL is v. particular what her dc is fed and she has always taken her dc's lunches/snacks with them to her CM & its an arrangement that works fine. I suggest if you are really that bothered about this you should prepare your ds's lunches etc and freeze them for your nanny to use throughout the week.

why oh why oh why do people post in AIBU when they don't think they are and get annoyed at anyone who suggests they are??

FabulousBakerGirl- I match your experience. My mother (who had food issues) was very controling about what we ate.

No meat
Nothing processed
No sugars

In her eyes people who ate a 'poor' diet were in some way less intelligent/ cared about themselves less/ were 'lazy'/ etc (all stemming from her poor self esteem I'm guessing. Food was power and her mastery over it was all consuming.

It took me years of adult life to build a healthy & enjoyable relationship with food.

In our house we try to talk about and prepare healthy meals but no food (within reason) is taboo or off limits.

Fanjo - do we know that she's annoyed? She could just have been done away with by the ready made pasta support society...

or by the nanny.

stabbed with a stick of spaghetti...

UABU- I would love a plate of M and S pasta. We can only afford Tescos or Lidl!

I've had a terrible thought - perhaps OP has tried aforementioned M&S pasta and is now sat in the bathroom (door locked) cramming bucket loads of it into her gob having a good old fashioned binge... sacla pesto dribbling out of the corner of her mouth and a mad look in her one good eye...

assuming you discussed with your nanny that she must only give your child very specific foods then I dont think you are wrong to be a bit upset.

However, I doubt your nanny did this knowing it would really upset you.

Maybe she had been out all morning and was in a hurry yes, but how long does it take to make scarmbled eggs or a healthy sandwich with a few bits of fruit and salad> Not any longer than it would have taken to heat up the pasta I am guessing.

I dont eat this type of pasta because it tastes too salty so I wouldnt be happy about my child having it.

So if you have given your nanny very very specific instructions then you ANBU and you need to remind her of them.

Howeverm if you have just said, only freshly prepared food, then I can see why she gave the pasta.

If you are that fussy (no offence meant) about what your child eats then give her a list of suitable lunches that are quick to prepare, and check she knows how to make them. Also, maybe a good idea to have a few things in the freezer that you have made and portioned up. That way you know you will be happy with what your child is eating.

I can well imagine that scenario!

Laquitar, I agree the op is definately for real! I was a live in nanny in London many mnay years ago and can remember this type of woman sooo well - one mum like the op said to me she didn't want her 2 year old watching anything on tv except the news at 6pm! I used to watch "neeighbours" just before the news came on and so the 2 yr old was an expert at singing the "neighbours" theme tune, which she did one day in front of a horrified mum! when mum asked me how on earth little x learned that tune I said "oh its on before the news she must have heard it then" and the mum was pleased her dd was waiting for the news to come on!!
In fact met loads of mums who didn't have a clue what their kids liked/ate/did all day, even though they all left detailed instructions of what should be happening (in their perfect world....) Of course at weekends when mum and dad were in charge it was all fish fingers and taking the short cuts to make their lives easier!

also I can remember looking after twins of about 2 and them running me ragged all week, by Friday I fed them crisps and snacks all day as I couldn't be arsed with their demands anymore
their mum was another organic/pureed/cooking from scratch mum too! in other words a PITA to nanny for

YABU
Of course, you know that already
if you want to be such a control freak then maybe you should look after your own child and not pay somebody else to do it.