To be annoyed with childminder for giving DS ready made pasta?

[Snippets]

The freshly stuffed type you buy from M&S? We had an agreement that all meals would be freshly cooked. I take ages making each meal for him from scratch and have never given him pre-prepared or convenience food and bit annoyed she has.

I don't think these comments are anti-WOHM, ultimately if you are out of the house for 50 odd hours a week then you need to accept that you can't control every single aspect of your childs day. You can ask your CM/nanny/nursery to do x y and z but the only way you can guarantee it happening 100% of the time is by doing it yourself.

I prefer my DD to have freshly prepared food but sometimes we go out for a meal and she'll have something that is probably a bit of a treat. Perhaps the nanny just thought it would be ok as a one off? If it is a deal breaker for you then I suspect there are other things at play here.

Shiney, not hoops

You have so gone down in my estimation now - unless you hand make them? Do ya? I can picture you with your spaghetti hoop maker slaving away late into the night...

Mother OR Father - isnt it illegal (in most jobs anyway) to work 55 hours per week?

Many mothers work those hours.

But do they spend their free time with their child or making fresh pasta?

Is what I think applepudding was trying to say.

Because that was my thought.

No actually, I couldn't work out how you could fit in 55 hours a week and share breakfast and an evening meal with your child. How does that work? Literally, I mean, what are the timings for that? What time is the child's evening meal?

OP needs to dry her eyes ! It was ONE meal. If it's not acceptable to you then talk with your CM Nanny
and did you honestly think you were going to get lots of support on MN with that title?
Have you taken PFB on holiday? Do you ever eat out? What do you do then?
I think you need to step out of your ivory tower and get into the real world

What is this obsession with fresh? There are no guidelines saying that children should always eat fresh veg. There is nothing wrong with tinned or frozen veg according to nutrionists. As I said before, the human race would have died out long ago, or never got through the Ice Age, if we had evolved to eat only fresh food. Hominids were eating pre-prepped food before our species even evolved; we have evolved to eat processed food or we would never survive a winter without polytunnels over the whole of Kent and air freighted Kenyan beans.

OP's had plenty of feedback...

OK. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're not a troll/that you're genuine.

You said:

"Sorry, but you have to be stupid to think a pre-packaged meal from M&S is fresh food. She knows the type of food he has and that sacues are made from scratch and that he doesn't have pre-packed, processed food. I would think all of this is common sense really that a good nanny would know. Would you eat beans and sauages and think you'd had a nutritious meal?"

You might know this to be true, but does your nanny? Few people these days really know about food and ingredients. Have you talked this through with your nanny and been explicit about what is and isn't acceptable for you, or defined what you mean by 'from scratch', 'fresh', 'processed'?

I'm a market researcher and do a lot of work in food. You would be amazed (horrified I suspect!) at how people define these terms. e.g. Bisto Gravy Granules being defined as real gravy ....

Nothing wrong with feedback - snippets asked whether she was being unreasonable in other people's opinion, some people believe that she is (and have over-reacted), others have given balanced responses, others have defended her right to specify what her child eats and others have been needlessly judgemental.

Snippets TALK to your nanny. This is probably an honest misunderstanding and a mistake that I as a nanny would have made unless it was clearly specified beforehand.

Pretty standard in London I'm afraid, particularly if you have a professional job.

it's perfectly possible to be a caring mother and work 50+ hours per week and cook some nice grub for your kids (and I do all of the above and spend far too many hours on here) but for goodness sake, getting upset over M&S pasta. get a blooming grip, dear. my CM takes DS to MacD on the odd occasion. So what? I can keep up the entirely true argument that "we don't go there, darling, mummy has never been" and he can say, well I have - and so what, I don't see him ailing.

I easily work 55 hours a week in term time. But I do a fair bit after DC are in bed and at weekends.

Snippets I will repeat myself, has she made the pasta fresh before?
I ask because if she has then she is aware that the rules extend to fresh shop bought pasta then I agree she was out of order. If not maybe she just didn't realize?
Did you talk about it with her, what was her reason?

Smac here here. Surely a wind up SURELY!!!!! ( but worries that since OP has continues backing herself up that it might not be)

Oh so glad I don't live in London with a professional job.

Is this thread still about pasta? You lot want to try discussing chicken and string.

This thread is even better than the AIBU thread about the childminder taking her 2 year old charge to McDonalds while her kitchen was being refurbished.

er, I don't eat any meals with him in the week. Sorry, but we are on different planets as you have a totally different idea of being a working mum. Yes, I'm not there so I pay someone to look after him. No I can't control 100% but if everyone took that approach noone would ever delegate anything to anyone. Yes, I will talk to her about this and hope it's a one off.

Oh... I will have to readjsut all my preconceptions now...

Don't tell me you don't own a mooncup either...?

Thunderduck, I dispute that. On this thread, it has not been claimed that the nanny purposefully malnourished the child.

It is my favourite MN phrase.

I gave my dd a shop bought fish pie today! How bloody dare I? What a bad mother.

You have a point there Milly. Well it comes pretty close.

Snippets, I hope you are not put off MN by this thread. I think your thread has cheered everyone up.