Should I tell my boyfriend the real reason I don't want a baby with him?

[merryalice]

I have been with my boyfriend six years and he tries to encourage me to have his baby. He has no children, I have one. I have told him I do not want to start again having kids at my age - 40 - when I already have a teenage girl.
However, I am not adverse to the idea in itself, but I don't want a baby with him.
There is one simple reason - I don't want a ginger haired kid and I don't want a boy.
The chances of having a boy would be high - he is one of three brothers, his brothers have boys. They are all ginger. My boyfriend is the best looking of the brothers, the others are quite neanderthal looking although intelligent. Their kids are real odd looking and I just don't want to run the risk of having a kid who looks like them.
Should I tell him this? I have already said that if he really wants to have children he needs to think about moving on from our relationship.
Plus the thought of being tied to my boyfriend in this way for life is not what I want. I think I have had too good an example set with my girl, she is beautiful and intelligent and my relationship with her father is a great friendship which I will keep for life and I am pleased with it all as a whole. I also worry about not being able to love a new child as much as my girl -so perhaps the ginger thing is an excuse?
Any thoughts anyone?

Yes tell him this and give him a chance to find a decent girlfriend.

Although I know this is not a serious thread. No-one could be this horrible surely?

B- would have been an A+ but you laid it on a little too thick

Must have another ginger nut with my cuppa ...

Sorry ... you were saying ?

If this isn't a joke then you don't think much of him - definitely get out now.

A Ginger

ooooh, offensive on so many levels...

i don;t think he should have children with someone as shallow and judgemental as you

next!

Are you taking the piss?

If you find ginger boys and men so repulsive then why are you shagging one?

I was until I got to 'neanderthal looking although intelligent'. Then I started laughing.

If you do want more children you'd better move on swiftly as it can't be easy to find a replacement when you're that shallow

i quite like the neanderthal look myself

That is, laughing at the crap trolling, not at the nastiness towards ginger people, obviously.

Please let this man go so he can find a loving woman to have a family with.

Ginger people are gorgeous IMHO. I have always thought so.

I'll stop feeding the troll now.

MrsM you went to all the trouble of having children with a black man to give them the best possible chance and they still end up ginger?! You poor thing

(ps I am ginger in case I'm about to be hounded off MN...)

lol! I was delighted, if a little surprised! She is a gorgeous, flame-haired cutie. Gingers rock!

Oh yes, you are making the right decision, who'd want a ginger kid?

although the whole black and ginger look hasn't worked out very well for wes brown.

I appreciate you are a bit bored and lack excitement hence the need for this post but why be nasty about ginger people?

lol!@mayor.

Well, it will work out for my previous second born, OK?

precious!

God, my typing is so lame...

If you yourself are really good looking then you could always take the risk that any resulting child you breed might take after you.

However, if you are a cross-eyed buck toothed hunchback midget with a moustouche, it would be a mistake of gargntuan proportions to breed with an ugly ginger man

And he has been able to put up with you for 6 years and STILL want your children? You must be a good lay because im certain its not your personality.

Yes definitely tell him, then he won't want kids with you