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...To expect monetary contribution from my DP??

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GrumpyMoo · 29/04/2009 16:24

... In any form. I'm not asking for all his money to go off and spend as I like. But SOMETHING towards his keep would help. And how do I ask him NOW after we have lived together on and off (more off than on TBH) for nearly a year?? HELP someone. Need kick up the backside or somehting please??

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Sycamoretree · 03/05/2009 23:06

Ok, I'm willing to accept that. I just felt things happened very swiftly and lightheartedly. And when the thread was dying, Fumble came along.

But, I don't want to start anything so I'll be off now to talk somewhere else about wellies.

dittany · 03/05/2009 23:07

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 03/05/2009 23:08

Oooh, wellies!

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dittany · 03/05/2009 23:09

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Sycamoretree · 03/05/2009 23:09

I'm about to start one! Although maybe mad o'clock isn't the best time.

Sorry, hijack over.

As you were ladies

caramelwaffle · 03/05/2009 23:09

By dittany on Sun 03-May-09 23:07:07
I think you hit the nail on the head Grumpy.

You didn't fall for his scam completely, you kept your own money which wasn't part of the plan. He was supposed to get it all. Thus loony caps lock rages at MUMSNET.

Oh. I agree.

GrumpyMoo · 03/05/2009 23:09

pmsl at dittany! Yes I have rumbled his PLAN! And sorry to sycamore. I don't hink i have the energy to maintain TWO peoples identities and eccenTRIC typing stykes! I know mine is bad enough! Huge apologies to all you ou there who type properly! You know who you are!
x

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caramelwaffle · 03/05/2009 23:12
GrumpyMoo · 03/05/2009 23:13

Could I have bright red ones? Why do they not make these abopve a size 4?

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Sycamoretree · 03/05/2009 23:13

Tis ok Grumpy.

Excuse my impertinence on your thread. You don't need to explain nuffin' to me.

Sycamoretree · 03/05/2009 23:14

Well, if you're all really so interested please come and advise me properly on my box-fresh thread.

merci.

GrumpyMoo · 03/05/2009 23:16

sycamore. I more than welcome ANYONE who has a view to air it! I'm not frightened of beiong 'told off' contradicted or disagreed with! Wouldn;t have kids otherwise. And I certainly would not have posted on any web forum if all I wanted was to patted on the back or head and told to toddle off. Thabjk you for honestly expressing your view and not being afraid to give ground on it!

Gosh Stilted sounding stuff over with! Not good this stuff!

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GrumpyMoo · 03/05/2009 23:18

One day I WILL learn to tpye and spell and write properly! I meant to say : AT this stuff.
Doesn;'t make sense otherwise!pmsl @ my typing! sheesh!

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 03/05/2009 23:19

Has fumble fucked off then?

Or is Sycamoretree really fumble, engaging in distraction techniques?

Sycamoretree · 03/05/2009 23:21

Oo-er, now, that WOULD be trollery of the highest order.

And I would deserve a medal, non?

Alas no, I just logged on after a very stilted watching of LOST on sky plus interrupted no less than 5 times on account of DS deciding he's finally going to push through those last molars.

Now, please. Wellie advice if you have any?

Oh, and I couldn't even bear to pretend to be as thick as fumble.

StercusAccidit · 03/05/2009 23:21

Thanks GM

Look, you did nothing wrong. What we accept as adults in the search for a happy normal life with a partner/kids/dog/cat ect, is silly sometimes, but only in hindsight.

Sometimes by the time you've been sucked in, it's too late. And you can't see any light at the end of the tunnel when you're in a black hole.

The thing to remember (i have been reminded of this) is that when you have kids, you don't owe YOURSELF a sex life, a partner, a job, or anything. You owe your KIDS first.. their happiness, ect.. ok, a lot of kids are happy if their parents are happy, but only on the outside....you have done your kids a HUGE justice by giving this twat the elbow, now they won't grow up with a warped view of how a relationship should be, and hopefully won't accept the same crap.

I'm no judgy person, boy, it'd be pot kettle black if i was. It took a lot, and like i said, a very near miss with the life of my baby before i finally called it a day.

He cheated numerous times, verbally abused me, emotionally abused me, cocklodged, you name it.. ok, i feel i did my best, i has DS and he 'changed' fuckin didnt last very long i can tell you. And every post i do now i hope he reads, the twat bag. Because he made my and my kids lives a misery.

Do you know my DS1 (11) said the other day 'You must have been very kind to forgive X for cheating on you'

I didn't even know he knew
And then had to follow the loooooong discussion as i tried to make sure my DS won't grow up into a cheating twatbag as a result of me letting one taint his life for the sake of a shag.

Yup, HIS kids, he can be a poor excuse for a father to them now. I have seen him with them, i have his number. Passive agressive emotional abuse of kids right in front of your eyes does have that effect..i will be watching, listening and asking questions of DS2 in the future when he has contact. The minute TWATBAG treats him like the XSC's, i'll put the blockers on it.

Its the least i can do after my poor choice of sperm donor lead to him having THAT for a father.

I still say well done you.

Nothing wrong with a WEBSITE full of people giving good advice, where a lot of them have walked that mile in your shoes..if you have no friends in RL you can ask, we are always here, and we will tell it how it is, which is probably why the control freak didn't like you asking advice.

He knew his number would be called by someone with experience.
Thank god you came on here or you may have been stuck with his shitty behaviour for longer x

GrumpyMoo · 03/05/2009 23:21

oldlady I think you may be right. Well perhaps fumble is lurking. Hopefully with an understanding that once you get passed the shit the cocklodger the rubbish in your life you can then laugh over something like wellies! I took the poker out of my backside years ago! Makes sitting down WAY easier

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fumble · 03/05/2009 23:22

Grumpy if you cant accept a view which is diffrent then where is the freedom of speech its a discussion!

Just because we dont know the whole story (although most on here have judged on one side alone) I am this that and the other!

I am very sorry if I have upset you but you have to admit it really does take two sides to every story

and your non responses certainly highlight this!

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 03/05/2009 23:24

So do yours, feeble fumble.

Sycamoretree · 03/05/2009 23:26

@Ole Laydee

fruitbeard · 03/05/2009 23:26

No RANDOM capitalisation, Fumble?

Spelling and punctuation in ORDER?

Naah. It's not you, is it?

GrumpyMoo · 03/05/2009 23:27

sycamore wellies and and all very very welcome here!

fumble do fuck off, there's a dear.

stercus Chin up eh? there are 'rabbits' you know!

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fumble · 03/05/2009 23:29

its amazing isnt it i will leave you to your very paranoid discussion until some other person enters this and then they will be her ex!!! my god how do you go out in the day after all there might e people looking at you!

GrumpyMoo · 03/05/2009 23:30

fruitbeard? You slay me! But he spelt different wrong Just because I type like a dyslexic monkey doesn;t mean I can't read/spell lol PMSL

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dittany · 03/05/2009 23:30

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