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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be slightly annoyed at my best mate?

37 replies

heverhoney1 · 16/04/2009 20:28

Can someone tell me if I am being all hormonal and unreasonable to be annoyed that when I told my friend that I was not comfortable travelling too far from home (i.e a bus, a train and another bus) at 38 weeks pregnant as I was worried about going into labour, she told me that she thought i was being "Extreme" but that it was up to me!

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nobodysfool · 16/04/2009 20:28

Not much of a friend IMO.

lou33 · 16/04/2009 20:28

is she childless by any chance?

nobodysfool · 16/04/2009 20:31

Or just brainless?

kitbit · 16/04/2009 20:31

She's a loon, clearly. I carried my hospital bag from room to room with me in the final few days.
But no, YANBU at ALL! And at 38 weeks you can be annoyed at anything you like cos you are a walking miracle

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heverhoney1 · 16/04/2009 20:32

She is indeed childless. She is normally a very good friend but she has been down for a while and I am trying to support her the best I can but for some reason this really got to me.

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MuffinBaker · 16/04/2009 20:32

yanbu

lou33 · 16/04/2009 20:33

i had 3 before 38 weeks, ask her if she will deliver the baby for you if needs be

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heverhoney1 · 16/04/2009 20:33

Cheers I thought I was over reacting (Probably still am to just 1 comment but )

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SparkyFartDust · 16/04/2009 20:35

yanbu

perhaps because she is down she is finding it more difficult to be empathic?

YouKnowNothingoftheCrunchie · 16/04/2009 20:35

I'm 38 weeks and I wouldn't, so YANBU (because I can't possibly be )

Why on earth can't she come to you?

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heverhoney1 · 16/04/2009 20:37

TBH I think she is a bit jealous. She is single and finding it hard going (She is not exactly ancient at 27!!) but I think she really believes she is going to be "left on the shelf" despite having several other single mates who dont have an issue with it at all.

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ssd · 16/04/2009 20:37

YANBU

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heverhoney1 · 16/04/2009 20:39

Oh she only lives 2 mins away so thats not an issue. I am on mat leave from work but I still have some work to do to finnish off my masters and it is travelling into my uni library I dont want to do right now.

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LouMacca · 16/04/2009 20:39

YANBU. Extreme? I think sensible is the word. I went into labour at 37 weeks.

I think your friend clearly has her own thing going on - is she childless by choice?

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heverhoney1 · 16/04/2009 21:30

Thank you again ladies good to know I am not being overly worrried - or if I am that I am allowed to be! (IF your waters break an hour away from home how do you get home in that state?)

On the other hand my mum didnt want me DRIVING less than 5 mins down the road to her!! now that IS extreme!!

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ItsMargotBeaurEGGarde · 16/04/2009 21:31

She's being really self-absorbed. I went into labour at 36+4 and I had that same instinct not to travel too far from the hospital. She's not thinking of YOU.

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heverhoney1 · 16/04/2009 21:45

ohhh you think it might be an instinct not to go too far from the hospital???

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ItsMargotBeaurEGGarde · 16/04/2009 21:52

definitely I had that instinct both times. And weirdly it kicked in earlier with my dc2 and I had him at 36+4 so it was a good job I hadn't been taking the train to Eastborne or something to kill the time!!

KERALA1 · 16/04/2009 21:56

Dd1 born at 37 weeks
dd2 born at 35 weeks. She is being so unreasonable! Could happen any minute...

KERALA1 · 16/04/2009 21:58

Oh and when she is pregnant with her first she will look back at this and

BiscuitStuffer · 16/04/2009 21:58

I hate it when people give agressive opinions like that. It's so offensive and just makes you feel about 12 years old. I have a friend who does that too - completely slates any decision I've made if she thinks it's over the top. I would rather she just accepted that we're different and didn't raise my hackles!!!!

Cattymum · 16/04/2009 22:03

She is being unreasonable... but maybe only through ignorance and a touch of jealousy? Dont let it get to you, this will all be forgotten when you are holding your baby

purpleduck · 16/04/2009 22:14

I would ignore...

When i was about 6 months pg, a friend from Canada came over. She was (and is) a very good friend. We went to London, and she really dragged me around. I was tired, sore and could barely walk for 3 days after.

Cue a few years later.... I was at her house, her little one at our feet and she looks me straight in the eye and says "Listen, I've got to apologise to you for dragging you around, I had NO idea.."

I laughed (years had passed.... )
Sooner or later your friend will "get" it!

ItsMargotBeaurEGGarde · 16/04/2009 22:30

That's so true purpleduck. I remember once a friend invited my dd to be flwoergirl btu not my son! he was to be farmed off to some yokel stranger babysitter!!! I hmmd and hawwed and wondered, is this possible? and told her sorry no. Bit of frostiness but we got over it. About 3 yrs later she said to me, you know how I askd your dc1 to be flowergirl but didn't invite your dc2? well

People do get it in the end... (most people, most of the time!)

MadamDeathstare · 16/04/2009 22:34

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