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Ok I know I'm not but I was so amazed at this woman in Asda...

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Wilkiepedia · 16/04/2009 19:25

Cute little 3 year old girl with v rough looking mother (sorry but she was).

Little girl chatting away to mum, mum turns to her and says 'If you don't stop talking in that stupid voice I'm going to twat you over the head so hard that you talk like that forever and will be drinking your food through a straw...'

WTF has that little girls future got to hold?

Sorry but I was so saddened and shocked I felt I had to share. Poor little girl

OP posts:
WinkyWinkola · 17/04/2009 09:30

"Only a low class person would do that."

Do you mean a poor person, greenelephant? Or do you mean a bad person?

wahwahwah · 17/04/2009 09:32

Lovely.

We were once sitting in traffic on a hot day (so windows were down). A little boy (about 4) was dawdling behind his mum and grandma and whinging a bit. 'I need to go for a pee!', 'I need to go for a pee!', 'I need to go for a pee!', 'I need to go for a pee!' (as they do)...

So lovely mummy (who looked a bit like Waynetta Slob) turns around and yells 'well get your f*ing dick out and piss against the wall then'. The poor kid looked terrified.

greenelephant · 17/04/2009 09:40

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junglist1 · 17/04/2009 09:41

I agree that class definitions have nothing to do with child abuse, and would be just as worried for a child who was told wait till we get home,that must be terrifying for a child to know their parent is seething like that.
With regards to stepping in, I once told a mum to calm down, don't know if I'd start a real row in case it was a really abusive mum, I know from experience that real abusers like to keep things well hidden and might turn on the children later if they feel shown up.

TheMitsubishiWarrioress · 17/04/2009 09:45

I agree...a 'low class' person would do that, and not necessarily 'class' due to social standing or financial background.

missblythe · 17/04/2009 09:50

Must be something about Asda.

The only time I ever went to Asda (there isn't actually one near me, I'm not avoiding it for snobbery's sake), I saw a woman trying to ram her 3 yr old DS into the pushchair, and when he resisted, she whacked him round the side of the head and screamed: "Don't just stand there like a fucking dickhead, get in the fucking buggy!"

MuppetsMuggle · 17/04/2009 09:58

I shop in ASDA and don't consider myself a low class person - not all people who shop in ASDA are like that.

I like Asda because Its the closest supermarket to me, and I like some of the offers they have going on at the moment.

LtEveDallas · 17/04/2009 10:10

.....it's not always the supermarket even.

Couple of weeks ago in a bank witnessed a mum shout "Get up off the fucking floor, you stupid bitch" to her maybe 18mth old, accompanied by a crack round the head that I swear you could have heard outside

Little girl wasn't even doing anything wrong, she was sat, really quietly under one of those half table things you queue up behind.

I think the whole Bank had a collective intake of breath.... I said "Good God" really loudly and got a "What the fuck you looking at?"

Worst of all for me was that the little girl didn't so much as whimper - so she's obv used to it....

(I did however take the womans car reg and report to our local police, they said they would get the Homestart people to check up)

MIAonline · 17/04/2009 10:20

Well done LtEveDallas for doing something

Morloth · 17/04/2009 10:31

I think there is an OBVIOUS difference between someone who has been pushed to their limit by their kids yelling/shouting at them and someone just being outright abusive and mean to a little kid.

Rollmops · 17/04/2009 10:45

Arrghhhhhhhhhhhhh..... Why oh why can every moron with opposable thumbs reproduce without a licene?????

TheLadyEvenstar · 17/04/2009 10:48

Morloth, You are right but sometimes it is not always obvious that someone has been pushed to the limit. I have 2 ds's and whilst indoors my eldest makes sure all and sundry know he is pushing the buttons when we are out he is very sly and after a while I have been known to shout speak calmly to him. but because people don't always see what he has done or know that he has been pushinng buttons all day they assume i am being nasty. Sadly unless i shout speak sternly he just carries on out of spite. When i do shout speak sternely he knows he has done enough and stops....for a while. Now he is not a baby he is almost 11yrs old, he is not abused he well cared for but sadly he has been spoilt for years and I am now paying the price.

Oh btw i don't shop is asdas i prefer morrisons or sainsburys.

Rollmops · 17/04/2009 10:55

LadyEvenstar, you are the ADULT hence EXPECTED to have more sense than a child! Shouting like the horrid thing in ASDA is NOT excusable, ever!

CrackopentheBaileys · 17/04/2009 10:58

Yes morloth, we must remember that we are not just talking about telling the child off/shouting at them etc, the woman in the OP threatened her child with violence and spoke in an inexcusabe way.
It's not the same as having a bad day and having a little pop at your LO.

TheLadyEvenstar · 17/04/2009 11:15

Roll, I don't ever remember saying I shouted like the woman in Asda, however if the situation is getting ott then i have been known to shout at ds1 as i know this is the only thing that stops him when he is in full swing.

Quattrocento · 17/04/2009 11:16
TheLadyEvenstar · 17/04/2009 11:18

Quattro i can always be sure of you making me giggle

verygreenlawn · 17/04/2009 11:30

Oh I saw a little boy whacked round the head because he'd run into my trolley. I was stood looking at something, and the boy (4-ish) turned and ran headlong into it. I picked him up and started saying I was sorry - his dad marched over, snatched him away and cuffed him round the head. Then said "well? Do you want some too?" to me.

That was pre-dcs and I did nothing, I was so shocked - and tbh scared of this huge guy too. I'd like to think now I'd do different? Saddest of all, the boy didn't even cry - he just expected it

Morloth · 17/04/2009 11:38

"Saddest of all, the boy didn't even cry - he just expected it"

That's the worst bit isn't it?

If DS thinks we are being unfair or too hard on him he quite rightly sticks up for himself. We are pretty strict but he KNOWS that we love him and that we wouldn't hurt him. So he feels safe enough to say "Hey that's not on".

Sometimes he is wrong and we continue but I like that he knows that he isn't bad and doesn't deserve unfair treatment.

Rollmops · 17/04/2009 11:40

If only...... . Then the ASDA mums could have their stubby little thumbs neatly 'thumb-locked' and there would be no more poor kids destined to abuse by their very parents.

MrsMagooo · 17/04/2009 11:44

That is so sad

Nancy66 · 17/04/2009 11:59

Everytime I've been to Asda there's been an 'incident' last time I went two women were fighting physically in the car park.

At Christmas time some woman accused me of deliberately pushing my trolley into her and said she'd 'knife me' once we got outside.

Personally it ain't worth the tenner it saves me - I shop elsewhere.

To those saying that the poster should have intervened - what do you think would have happenend? She'd have said something to the mother, who'd have given her a mouthful - then gone home and probably beaten the shit out of the kid 'look what you did.' etc.

MuppetsMuggle · 17/04/2009 12:00

I feel about the sterotyping of ASDA mums we're not all like that you know.

Tn0g · 17/04/2009 12:01

I don't understand the significance of it happening in ASDA.

StercusAccidit · 17/04/2009 12:03

VGL i personally would have said "Yes, if you dare.. i have a voice of my own and WILL go to the police and have you done for assault. Ulike your poor child"

Children, are a GIFT. Sadly not everyone can have them
But those who can should appreciate them.

The closest we get to heaven (or whatever your religions special place is ) is the love of a child.

Children are little PEOPLE. How many of us would sit there if someone came on here and said 'my DP had a pop at me in the supermarket today because he had a bad day'?

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