To not want to hear how horrible childbirth is every 5 minutes!!!

[girlylala0807]

Im sick of this.

In the supermarket..."oh your not giving birth there..left me in my own blood for 12 hours...its the worst pain ever...take all the drugs!!

My best friend today, "oh you wont enjoy it, its awful, but you know just breath through it, I managed on just gas and air..."

People at bus stops..."oh poor you, childbirth the worst thing you will ever go through..ever...aw I feel sorry for you now!!"

I know its not going to be good but aibu to not want to heat it every 5 bloody minutes!!!!

I think it's because our lives are all so painfree and controlled these days with modern transport and labour-saving devices. Labour is about the only thing that still takes a degree of effort and does in most cases involve some pain. So they talk about it. Endlessly in some cases.

It's just conversation.

With perhaps a smattering of truth.

And I can totally understand why you don't want to hear it.

Smile, nod and glaze over completely.

to be honest I'd much rather that than the kind of people who try to pretend it will be enjoyable if you've done enough yoga or creative visualization of your cervix. I had people trying to tell me that positive thinking could get me through it without pain which was, frankly, unadulterated bollocks. I'd rather people were honest about the fact that its freaking painful and you will probably need all those drugs which you are turning your nose up at now.

I never had that because family and friends wanted me to have a baby for so long they glossed over the giving birth bit. I was bothered about it as it got nearer the time and was scared of the potential pain! I think if people had been telling me how awful it was and feeling sorry for me I would've felt exactly like you op!
Infact I had a quick labour and birth! I was only having relatively bad labour pains for 3 hours, the worst being the last hour, and I got to the hospital an hour before I had ds! Once he was born, nothing else mattered, the pain was all forgotten!
YANBU

I have 3 kids, all births were fine. All were under 5.5 hrs with no pain meds. Two were home births. Not the worse pain I've ever been in - having my wisdom teeth out was worse. Good luck to you. Don't be afraid to push as hard as you can otherwise it will take longer than it needs to and yes it does feel like you are having a poo - go with it!

girlylala, even if your birth may not go to plan it may still be all right. I had planned a natural birth and had spent my pregnancy doing natal hypnotherapy. The hypnosis techniques I learnt really helped me through the contractions without drugs and then I went into the water pool - all was well. Then they noticed my DD was in distress and I was rushed onto the labour ward, given an epidural and my DD was delivered by emergency c-section. But it was all fine! Baby was great, I didn't suffer from giving birth this way at all (no PND, no bonding issues with DD) and I recovered within a couple of weeks.

i scream and shout and swear like a banshee because it hurts like a motherfucker, but your body just gets on with it and so long as you feel like you have some measure of control over the situation its cool. i would suggest epidural's to anyone as though they make the birth longer they are fanfuckingtastic. i asked my aesthetist to marry me apparently they get that a lot. never been left in my own bloody for 12 hours or anything bad like that. feel for women who say having their wisdom teeth out hurt more but i guess everyone just has different experiences. its odd but i didnt think having my wisdom teeth out hurt that much

i have to say i asked to hear peoples stories when i was pregnant with DS1

if people ask 'will it hurt?' i dont get the people who reply with 'no not all' or aren't honest with their answers - Theyare going to find out anyway why not just basically say

Its like shitting a football!!

When someone said that to me i was shocked but then she just said 'seriously its like feeling you need a really big BIG poo with excruciating constipation pains. And i was grateful for it because then i had an idea of what it would be like.

Now i have 2 i tell it how it is. I give the same information i was told, no poiont lying to them as they will find out eventually!

This is a 2009 thread - who on earth brought this up!

Gah!

after traumatic birth number 1 i was cross no one had told me how bad it could be. and i did tell people so they wouldnt be surprised, and hopefully so they might avoid some of the problems i had. i didnt want to just revel in a gory story. i just wish people wouldn't say 'it's not that bad, i had blah blah blah and loved it!' because it CAN be that bad. my second was even worse than the first. i think positive experiences should be shared, definitely. they kept me going and hopeful the second time i was pregnant. but just because something didn't traumatise or hurt one person doesn't mean it won't someone else and i hate it when people suggest the ones who had a hard time are just whingers or melodramatic. the 'as soon as its over you forget the pain' business, yes for lots of people that's true. but for me i had flashbacks and nightmares for along time, still do after number 2. and the 'it's a positive pain' i sort of saw a glimpse of that the second time but it's just shoot yourself in the face pain sometimes.

I agree its annoying to hear everyone's gory stories, but at least you are able to prepare for the worst and know what to (possibly) expect. These days very few women giving birth have ever seen another woman give birth. As a result, most of us enter into it with a very warped expectation, and a lot of fear, and unfortunately fear tends to make us tense and to fight against our bodies... which worsens pain.

But I totally agree that people share waaaaay too much when they see the pregnant bump...