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To Have a Secret Crush on UnQuietDad?

547 replies

secretcrush · 26/03/2009 17:43

Cant help it
The thought that there are intelligent, funny, non-sleazy men out there who have masses in common with me....

It just gives me hope

And he's a regular poster on MN too.

OP posts:
UnquietDad · 27/03/2009 17:19

Rusty - thanks!
Similar PO woes in this village...

UnquietDad · 27/03/2009 17:21

I bet there are sites which are male-dominated where a handful of women contribute, though. Car sites and fantasy RPG and so on.

TrillianAstra · 27/03/2009 17:22

Yep, and all the 'women' on there really are hairy-handed truckers cos there are no girls on the internet

You're lucky we're not asking for time-stamped photos to prove your maleness!

solidgoldbrass · 27/03/2009 17:31

Oh I love that quote - The Internet, where men are men, women are men, and children are the FBI...

TrillianAstra · 27/03/2009 17:33

LOL

QuintessentialShadow · 27/03/2009 17:41

What a strange thread.

In another universe, and if the op was male, posting he had a crush on a female poster, I am sure there would be an outcry of sicko, perv etc.

And people would drag out the male mumsnetters who in fact HAS committed adulterous with women mumsnetters, wrecking families in the process.

But this, and the pinkriver thread where the op is admitting having fallen in love with a female poster, is of course totally different.

I like and respect the male mumsnettes I have exchanged posts with.

KayHarkerIsPlayingWithMitchell · 27/03/2009 18:30

Well, I really couldn't give a flying banana what gender UQD puts on the census form, I like UQD, respect that he can put his own personal POV forward, is a paid up Doctor Who nut and very funny poster.

I could say the same for any number of other MNers, and if this thread had started as one of the threads in chat that end up as a friendly little list of people we like and why, there wouldn't be any comment.

The fact that it has ended up as a gender-based suspicion-fest is profoundly depressing.

Mumcentreplus · 27/03/2009 18:35

fgs

georgimama · 27/03/2009 18:38

Don't be silly Quint, why on earth would that happen?

Do tell about the MN affairs though, that sounds juicy....

ruty · 27/03/2009 19:04

Rhubarb - saying most women experience sexism in some form quite a lot in their lives is not assuming all men are the same. Saying men experience discrimination too is like saying white people have experienced similar discrimation to black people. Er, no, they haven't. Give it a few hundred years and wide scale, sustained discrimination and then see.

UD - as you know there are quite a few athiests and agnostics who debate on the religion threads and are quite free of woolliness and woo - it is not the fact that they are female that stops them getting people's backs up, it is how they develop their argument and engage with other posters.

UnquietDad · 27/03/2009 21:19

Wasn't disputing that, ruty, but I have seen discussions about "male" debating styles and so on, where it is obvious that the gender is getting in the way of the argument.

southeastastra · 27/03/2009 21:22

i liked ashwheresthehousewares (prob not right spelling)

i'd quite like more male posters

solidgoldbrass · 27/03/2009 21:26

I am utterly Not Fussed about the gender of other posters (and have in fact been thrown off another internet forum for complaining that subscribers had to state their gender when IMO it wasn't/isn't relevant.)
Though I would just like to say: UQD, whatevedr your genitalia, you have been a thorough Good Sport over this thread. Not everyone would have.

UnquietDad · 27/03/2009 21:45

Well, it's funny, isn't it?

solidgoldbrass · 27/03/2009 21:49

Well some of the more horsehair-tampon tendency might have called it harassment if it had been about them...

IorekByrnison · 27/03/2009 22:01

Now there's something a man couldn't get away with saying.

ABetaDad · 27/03/2009 22:01

Oh dear, whatever happened to this thread?

I just read the last few pages again and got really quite tense by the end.

southeastastra - yes it would be nice. It would make it more of a parent site which is why I joined.

solidgoldbrass - agree and LOL

solidgoldbrass · 27/03/2009 22:07

actually in deference to the infact multi gender nature of the site I would like to replace that term with 'horsehair buttplug'...

mumoftoby · 27/03/2009 22:28

haha solidgoldbrass that has really made me laugh and UnquietDad's response has been good fun.

I did try to get my DH to join mumsnet as I think he is more of a breastfeeding expert than me and a bit of a baby whisperer but he is having none of it!

cornsilk · 27/03/2009 22:38

You all knew I was a man didn't you?

LtEveDallas · 27/03/2009 22:41

I like retiredgoth - love the way he describes his kids and is always very 'matter of fact' about the shite that life had handed him!

(Retired Goth - sorry to embarass you but think I'm your ......umberrrr unnnn fayyyynnn)

solidgoldbrass · 27/03/2009 22:41

Me, too. Those of you who I met at the Xmas bash - aren't I convincing?

ABetaDad · 27/03/2009 22:44

You might be too late there mate.

I think they all lost interest in voting when it got a bit 'fighty and shouty' earlier

BigGitDad · 27/03/2009 22:48

'sorry...but there's something very dodgy about any man who spends alot of time on mumsnet'
DP, so for all the times I have chat's with you on MN and everything else so that is really what you think then?
Just don't get it.
End of.

BigGitDad · 27/03/2009 22:52

ctually I like UQD and Pan too (in a blokey way) for what it is worth they offer a valuable male perspective on here. (much more than me!)

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