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To Have a Secret Crush on UnQuietDad?

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secretcrush · 26/03/2009 17:43

Cant help it
The thought that there are intelligent, funny, non-sleazy men out there who have masses in common with me....

It just gives me hope

And he's a regular poster on MN too.

OP posts:
georgimama · 27/03/2009 16:51

daftpunk, you chat to men on your music and chat threads, does your DH not mind that?

TrillianAstra · 27/03/2009 16:54

daftpunk - are you saying that all our DH/DPs should be fine with us talking to other women, but jealous and paranoid if they knew we were talking to men online?

I like the fine sprinkling of men we have here. I like that it is a largely female forum, just because that mkaes it stand out from the 'hordes of teenage boys' side of the internet, but I would hate it if men weren't welcome.

And what's wrong with a man liking Dr Who?

georgimama · 27/03/2009 16:56

Can I just say, UnquietDad (I can't believe he hasn't posted on this thread yet) is married. He may of course be cruising MN for an affair, but in truth I feel he is probably looking for female dialogue/character for his next novel(s).

daftpunk · 27/03/2009 16:58

hang on...i chat to one man..bgd, who is actually hardly ever here.

daftpunk · 27/03/2009 16:59

TrillianAstra...yes, i probably am saying that.

UnquietDad · 27/03/2009 17:02

OK, I've only just noticed this, as I have been out doing manly things like Working. Please look it up if you can't remember what it means. So:

  1. MN Towers asked me if I wanted this deleting - I said no, it's quite funny.
  1. I am not a Christian. It was a joke, but some people may have missed that.
  1. I have never worn sandals. With or without socks.
  1. I am actually a posh Southerner, not a Northerner (with or without chip (with or without gravy)) on shoulder. So that blows that theory out of the water.
  1. What's wrong with Doctor Who? Some of you like Sex in the f'ing City and read Jade Weekly, FGS.

What I do find interesting is that men who are good at putting over strong arguments with evidence to support them, rather than just wolliness and woo (not necessarily bigging myself up as one of these, just saying in general) often unintentionally get women's backs up, whereas women will quite happily take said robust argument from their own kind. I'm not quite sure why this is.

UnquietDad · 27/03/2009 17:03

And also, people who use the "L" word (loser) are usually terribly insecure.

georgimama · 27/03/2009 17:04

OK, one man. That sounds a bit special then. Is your DH jealous and paranoid?

Is it alright to talk to men at work? I mean, DH has never met most of my work colleagues - does he need to be jealous and paranoid about them too?

You get stranger and stranger dp.

HolyGuacamole · 27/03/2009 17:05

Oh come on, participating on a forum where there is a minority of men who like to put in their tuppence worth is hardly jealousy inducing. If that bothered my DH, I'd be worried.

smallorange · 27/03/2009 17:05

Waht about at work Daftpunk? Or after work?

I worked in a team with four men and we often went out for a pint after work (sigh.)

Talking to someone on mumsnet is no different, surely.

Also there are plenty of men who do the lion's share of the childcare or who are lone parents and I think they positiveky benefit from mumsnet.

Some just want a bit of female conversation.

daftpunk · 27/03/2009 17:06

actually georgimama bgd was on the song thread long before i joined it...what was i supposed to do...kick him off?

MrsMills · 27/03/2009 17:07

I miss Dominiconnor, his was a laugh wasn't he

georgimama · 27/03/2009 17:07

There he is!

I did think it possible that the only part of this thread UD would take offence at (I am aware you haven't UD) was the suggestion that he is a Christian.

LOL at Jade Weekly.

Lawks · 27/03/2009 17:08

Pruners 10:44:30 post says exactly what I was thinking but couldn't articulate.

"What I am not comfortable with, though, is how it turns into "ooh isn't he lovely?" which trivialises their contribution and also, I'm sorry, makes us look like a bunch of girlies who go all winsome when a man walks into the party. "

georgimama · 27/03/2009 17:09

I would have thought as a normal person you would engage with him if you wanted to.

You're the one who thinks it is wrong to chat to men online, you tell me what you think you ought to do.

daftpunk · 27/03/2009 17:10

talking to people at work is completely different...(you have to talk to them)...i would be a bit if my dh was on a website chatting to women about anything really

georgimama · 27/03/2009 17:11

So what about the posters whose gender you don't know? Do you have a questionnaire people you haven't chatted to before should complete?

justaboutback · 27/03/2009 17:11

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daftpunk · 27/03/2009 17:12

actually..this thread isn't about me...

secretcrush...apologies for turning your thread into a bit of a fight..

..he's turned up now..so i'll leave you too it!

RustyBear · 27/03/2009 17:12

Hijack - UQD - I left TITD at my Dad's last week & as he's 98 & can't get to the post office easily since they closed the one in his village, I'll have to wait to get it back till I go down again. Like it very much so far though....

Pawslikepaddington · 27/03/2009 17:13

Wow, UnquietDad-did you read the whole thread? I only read the 1st and last page, and I don't even Work!

Lawks · 27/03/2009 17:13

I never understand when people post here wanting "a male perspective". There is no such thing as "a male perspective", surely? What one male thinks about a subject will be different from what another male thinks.

Thousands of women on this site, and it's clear that there is no "female perspective" on any topic you can think of. So why would garnering the opinion of the very small handful of men on Mnet be "a male perspective"?

georgimama · 27/03/2009 17:14

I'm at work. Women can multi-task.

TrillianAstra · 27/03/2009 17:14

So daftpunk: is your DH jealous? Or does he not know that you occassionally interact with men when you don't have to?

TrillianAstra · 27/03/2009 17:16

Whoops, I see she's gone. Never mind.

Hi UQD - I don't particularly know you, but I hope you still feel happy and welcome here

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