To Have a Secret Crush on UnQuietDad?

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Cant help it
The thought that there are intelligent, funny, non-sleazy men out there who have masses in common with me....

It just gives me hope

And he's a regular poster on MN too.

hi lou Hope things are good with you xx

I do tend to ignore a good deal of what is said by men on birth and bfing threads (those who are fool enough to post there) but otherwise I don't see the problem with their general presence here. Men are people too.

One male poster encouraging posters to search through your posts isn't demonstrative of men in general on MN is it? Would you expect your views to be taken as gospel of what "women" think?

i'm not in the dark ages noddyholder..i'm more enlightened than you...that's glaringly obvious.

not too bad overall noddy

hope your son is ok now

wrt breastfeeding, tbh i would get the arse if any gender made me feel i was being lectured about it, though it would be quite shocking if i still was, seeing as ds2 is 8 now

yeah ok

Thanks lou he's fine xx

thats good to hear noddy

georgimama..of course i don't expect everyone to agree with me..no one ever agrees with me actually...(not that i can remember anyway)..i suppose i judge men by my own dh...he wouldn't post on mumsnet if you paid him....he's too busy.

Your DH is too busy to be on MN and you aren't too busy?

How does that work then?

She doesn't (work).

he's out wrestling wild boars, chopping wood for the fire, fishing for our supper, you know, that sort of thing,.....i just sit here with my tapestry waiting.

I think we should recruit more dads I am liking these ones

That would figure DaftPunk...

You say you're not stuck in the dark ages but you must be stuck in at least the 19th century if you consider a man, who doesn't have any objection to his partner chatting to both men and women on an internet forum, to be "easy-going".

gunnerbean..maybe it's me who isn't that easy going...i try and see the flip side of situations...my dh rarely uses the computer, but if he did, and was on a website chatting regularly to women, i wouldn't like it, and if he said he just wanted to get a "female perspective"..i'd wonder why he couldn't get that from me.....does no one understand me...even a little bit?

DH writes Captain Scarlet fanfic, and spends a lot of time chatting to fellow writers on the forum where he posts it. He also talks to a group of them on MSN, and he meets them regularly - sometimes the whole group, sometimes just one or two of them. They are all women.

It has honestly never crossed my mind that he might be looking for an affair, nor do I think any of their husbands have any suspicions, because we trust them. I can't imagine staying in a relationship with someone I didn't trust or who didn't trust me - what would be the point?

Interestingly, DH posts his fiction under a female pseudonym, because he "didn't want to look like a pillock" and he thought the existing female posters might be kinder to a woman than a man. (yes, I know, but this was before he had encountered Mumsnet )

Apparently the moderators discussed his posts amongst themselves and decided that he was (a) a man and (b) probably not a homicidal maniac or potential seducer.

RustyBunny - I just went and checked. There really is a Captain Scarlet fanfic site.

How did your DH get into that? Why are the authors all women? Captain Scarlet is from so long ago - how did it survive this long?

Loved all that stuff as a kid (and still now).

DH is a long term Gerry Anderson fan (he has a complete set of TV21 magazine )found the site while googling, read the fiction & decided to try his hand at some.

In case anyone can be bothered this one (very long) is Captain Scarlet with a few bits from Dr Who thrown in, and this (very short) is a Christmas special.

Captain Scarlet was revived as a CGI series a few years ago. It was actually technically very good, but for some reason ITV dumped it into their Saturday morning kid's show, with no fixed timeslot and unsurprisingly it died almost unseen.

I'm not sure why most of the writers are female, though an awful lot of sci-fi fanfic is, especially the sexy stuff, apparently.

Not that you will find a lot of sex on the Captain Scarlet site; they claim it is on moral grounds, because children may be reading it, but personally I think it's because they find it impossible to write sex scenes without visions of tangled strings....

i'm sure J K Rowling was told to just use her initials so boys would buy her books

RustyBunny - oh yes I saw the CGI series every morning with the kids it used to be on during the week really really early. I was fascinated and got the whole set for the kids as they loved it.

LOL at this thread.

I don't mind men posting on Mumsnet but I do wish their posts were preceded by a picture of a cock and a pair of balls.

LOL swedes should burds post a picture of the hairy bear then?

lol swedes. Shall we ask MNHQ for a cock and balls emoticon?

I don't feel I can not comment on this thread, as the discussion raises issues that have occurred to me many times while I have been browsing mumsnet. I feel that as a man I am very aware that I am in a very female environment here, not because I necessarily want to be (or mind being), but because sadly many men/fathers do not take such an active interest in issues of parenting and children in general and because of reasons of location and language barriers, I don't have much opportunity for this kind of chat in RL.
Mumsnet is quite simply the best site of it's kind, and whilst I would not dream of posting on some threads or topics, there are others where I feel I can make a contribution and welcome feedback etc.
I'm usually much more of a lurker than a poster, precisely because I don't want to intrude, and fear the flaming that UQD appears to have suffered (where is that thread?) as I have been lightly toasted myself when making an earnest request for advice. That said, I've had some similar experiences in RL, particularly feeling excluded at toddler groups etc . (though maybe that was because they just didn't like me!)
I also think it?s interesting that the majority of men who do post here (myself included) feel it necessary to make it clear in their choice of nickname that they are of the male persuasion (not always the case for the mums on mumsnet). Perhaps I can ask the other 'dads' why they chose the names they did?
I think that, speaking just for myself, it's to make sure that there is no doubt about my 'perspective' from the getgo, though often wonder if I should have to make this clear and if people would read my posts etc. differently if they didn't know what sex I was.

And for the record, I do have a beard and will enjoy wearing my birkenstock sandals (sans socks) come warmer weather?...