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To Have a Secret Crush on UnQuietDad?

547 replies

secretcrush · 26/03/2009 17:43

Cant help it
The thought that there are intelligent, funny, non-sleazy men out there who have masses in common with me....

It just gives me hope

And he's a regular poster on MN too.

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Tn0g · 28/03/2009 19:13

ABetaDad, I really don't think you need to justify your exsistense on MN.

I personally think you're a great asset, balanced and thoughtful in your posts...

Oh,

and I don't have a crush on you.

2shoes · 28/03/2009 21:20

I think men add a certain something to mn(no idea what it is) but it just adds to the mix.
when ds was a tot I went to a M&T group, it was very small and it was fun when a couple of dads came along(ok one was a tv actor at the time)
I think it is good that men take an interest in their familys.

stickylittlefingers · 28/03/2009 21:44

I know my dp has lots of conversations in RL re children, relationships etc with the women he works with; it bothers me not a jot, so it wouldn't if he were on here (perhaps he is and I don't know!! Wouldn't that be funny!) Anyway, if you can't trust a dp to talk to members of the opposite sex, then you've got problems, imo. Until now, I've always worked in very male dominated offices and dp has never shown any signs of jealousy. Which I kind of take as read.

I'm very glad there are men on MN!

purits · 28/03/2009 21:52

I think that daftpunk is well-named.

I appreciate UQD's posts because they are intelligent and humourous. The same can be said for many of the male posters on here (shan't name them because I am bound to omit someone from the list and they will feel left out; I hate those 'who is your favourite Mner' threads).

daftpunk · 28/03/2009 22:05

purits;...the "daft" daftpunk jokes are so old they're growing mould... try and think of something original to say to me..

and just to educate you abit..daftpunk are a french electronic music duo....quite good aswell.

2shoes · 28/03/2009 22:07

see here

smallorange · 28/03/2009 22:09

They are great. That clip made me want to be young again

purits · 28/03/2009 22:12

Sorry dp, not come across the old jibes before.. But I'm still struggling to understand your problem with the male posters. A hundred years ago, would you have been against the sufferage movement too and telling women to get back to the kitchen? The likes of UQD are quite brave posting on here: we should be encouraging more of them, not slapping down the pioneers.

Yurtgirl · 28/03/2009 22:17

I appreciate the present of most of the dads on mumsnet - a few are really annoying but I just ignore them!

I heart unquietdad too Is he taken?

nannynick · 28/03/2009 22:21

Now you will make us men all wonder who is really annoying.

I can be at times ... sorry if I annoy you

daftpunk · 28/03/2009 22:26

purits;..no worries

and listen...i would have started the sufferagets....you have all totally missed my point.

PadDad · 28/03/2009 22:27

Apparently it's bad form to start a thread about a thread.

Otherwise I would love to start one about daftpunk.

Here are some of her posts from this thread that I've most enjoyed, and I can't wait to find out what she's posted on other threads.

Can anyone guide me to any posts as good as these?:

?...the clue is in the name mumsnet....why would a man wanna spend time on a website that is probably 98% women?....it's not normal imo...?

?if i found my dh posting on here i'd probably divorce him?

?sorry...but there's something very dodgy about any man who spends alot of time on mumsnet. ? i'd rather my dh was downloading hard-core pornography tbh...?

?yeah well...i like my men to be men...not losers?

?i swear i was shocked and stunned when i found out there were men on here... i had thought (in my naivety) that this site was all women...oh well??

?errr, so he doesn't mind you talking to some faceless man...just to get a male perspective?..he must be very easy going.?

?i would be a bit if my dh was on a website chatting to women about anything really?

?i don't know if you're married UQD...but i would have thought if you were, you would have taken up MNHQ very sensible offer of having this thread deleted.....have you shown this thread to your wife??

UnquietDad · 28/03/2009 23:45

I am taken. And a winner. Just to clarify.

CKelpie · 29/03/2009 00:12

I think PadDad's collection makes your point loud and clear DaftPunk. It's a shame you feel that way and I personally believe you are limiting yourself massively in terms of a broad perspective.

I think it is safe to say that this is not a dating site and the men who do post here are not trying to get into your knickers.
Those types would stand out a mile for anyone with a couple of years life experience.
If you truly feel the men on here are a threat to your virtue, I suspect that is your problem and not theirs.

themildmanneredjanitor · 29/03/2009 00:13

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

CKelpie · 29/03/2009 00:19

?

BigGitDad · 29/03/2009 00:46

What would MN be without the joy of disgusting posts where posters do make personal comments and throw around insults? After all that's what the disclaimer at the top of the page is for isn't it?
Like I said DP, I find it strange that having chatted to you for so long on the music threads etc that now you think of us men in that way. Unless you are joking and I have completely missed the point? Can you let me know?

jeminthecity · 29/03/2009 00:49

Arf!!

BigGitDad · 29/03/2009 00:50

(Thinks about starting a threada about how much I hate UQD!! )
Of course I am joking..

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secretcrush · 29/03/2009 03:32

[wonders if UnQuietMum has posted on thread yet]
I love the idea that men post on here without a second thought to the fact that MN members are mostly female. Tis how it should be.

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secretcrush · 29/03/2009 03:39

CKelpie thanks for the sentiments, however I did know that UQD was taken (and therefore safe).
Sad but true-my ex was the sort of person who most def would have had a problem with me having a dialogue with a male poster
Suppose I should modify "crush" to "example of type of man who might just restore my faith in relationships".
Bit long-winded tho'

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QuintessentialShadow · 29/03/2009 09:37

tnOg - how is life treating you?

Rhubarb · 29/03/2009 12:00

I am really really saddened by this thread.

That men somehow have to justify being on here - where has equality in parenting gone? How dare we expect our men to be hands-on dads when we exclude them from parenting forums because they are men!

And how pathetic are we, if we cannot trust ourselves to have an online chat on a parenting website without starting an illicit affair.

Protect the poor, vulnerable woman for heaven's sake! Goodness knows that kind of corrupt thoughts might be placed in her empty little head by the scoundrels that are men!

I really thought this type of discrimination and this breathtaking ignorance were happily things of the past. I was wrong.

Daftpunk - I think it's wrong that people are having personal digs at you, you are entitled to your opinions without the fear of people making personal jibes. However I am incredulous and stunned by the statements you have made on here.

And for all the male posters - I think you've taken this in very good form, because if this were reversed and women in the firing line, there would be an uproar. Every credit to every single man on here who has risen above this level of ignorance and managed to take it all on the chin in good humour. I don't think I would have been quite so patient.

TotalChaos · 29/03/2009 12:09

good post Rhubarb, completely agree.

BreevandercampLGJ · 29/03/2009 12:10

Cracking post Rhubarb.