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AIBU?

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To think it's not very polite to be envited to a party and not be offered anything to eat or drink?

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mummyloveslucy · 26/03/2009 16:12

Hi, My daughter and I went to a birthday party of a little girl in her nursery class. They had the party at there house which was like a mansion overlooking the sea with a huge swimming pool, hot tub and bar.
The parents are loaded, not that that should matter. I was very supprised though that none of the parents were offered any thing to drink and there was so little food, it was only enough for the children. When the Dad saw that all the food had gone, he said "Oh, we judged that well".
We have been to so many nursery partys, some at village halls, play centres or peoples houses but we have always been offered a drink and something to eat.
It just seems strange that the richest family in the school were such bad hosts.

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PuppyMonkey · 26/03/2009 16:14

Well, I would have just nicked some of the kids' sandwiches. I love kiddy style sandwiches me, specially jam!!!

But I have to say, actually, YANBU. Skinflints.

louii · 26/03/2009 16:16

Money doesn't buy you manners.

MadameCastafiore · 26/03/2009 16:17

Maybe if you had been invited you would have been offered refreshments?

friday32 · 26/03/2009 16:17

Thats how they stay rich by being tightwads!!

CMOTdibbler · 26/03/2009 16:17

I would never assume that as an adult, I would be fed at a childrens party.

MIAonline · 26/03/2009 16:17

It depends on what time of day it was. Yes I would expect a drink but I wouldn't expect food at a child's party. Normally the adults just finish of any leftovers at the ones I go to

missmama · 26/03/2009 16:18

And there is the reason they are the richest family at the school

Morloth · 26/03/2009 16:19

hehe, ever see that episode of the Simpsons with Bill Gates?

You don't get rich by spending a lot of money

MrsMcCluskey · 26/03/2009 16:19

I dont expect to be fed if I go to a childrens party.
Maybe a cup of tea?

harleyd · 26/03/2009 16:19

why did you stay at a kids party?

paolosgirl · 26/03/2009 16:20

I would never expect to be fed at a child's party - although would happily hoover up leftover sausage rolls and cake!

Fimbo · 26/03/2009 16:21

I have been to loads of parties over the years and some people offer drinks/food and some don't. Most people (i.e. me!) just tuck into the childrens food anyway. I usually offer tea/coffee or buy them for anyone staying and tell them to eat what they like from the things on the table.

I think yab(slightly) u.

louii · 26/03/2009 16:21

Why did she go to a kids party? Child is at nursery so what 3 or 4? You would leave your child at a party with in someones house with people you don't know so well?

TheCrackFox · 26/03/2009 16:21

Maybe they thought you were staff?

nowwearefour · 26/03/2009 16:23

i went to one recently where exactly the same happened. i wasnt expecting food but thought that we might have been offered a drink. esp as the hosts were wandering round holding cups of tea all the time! just a glass of water would ahv ebeen nice. i didnt feel brave enough to ask for one!! parents at parties for 3 and 4 year olds do tend to stay- not quite old enough if they arent yt 4 ime....

harleyd · 26/03/2009 16:24

yes i have left all my kids at nursery school age at parties, without a second thought

Tas1 · 26/03/2009 16:24

When I hold parties for my DC's, I offer Tea, Coffee and biscuits to any adults staying but I don't do food for them.
Its the children that have been invited not the parents.

But maybe thats just me being a tight arse

PuppyMonkey · 26/03/2009 16:24

Harley, you have to stay when you have a small tot. Although it would have been hilarious if OP had dumped the toddler and said: "See ya!" A lesson learned for all of us there...

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mummyloveslucy · 26/03/2009 16:26

The parents always go to the partys. The children are only 3 and 4.
All the prtys we've been to, there has been enough food for the parents too, ours included and we're poor.

You're right, that is probubly why they are rich. I don't really mind about the food, but I would've liked a cup of tea.

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harleyd · 26/03/2009 16:26

puppymonkey..but thats what i do!

PuppyMonkey · 26/03/2009 16:27

Harley, you're an inspiration!!

sarah293 · 26/03/2009 16:30

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mummyloveslucy · 26/03/2009 16:34

I would've had some of the childrens party food but there was literally just enough for the children.
The Dad said at another childrens party, when I said to one of the Mums "That was a lovely party" He said "Wait untill it's my daughters party, we've got a swimming pool".
I thought that was really nasty of him.

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mummyloveslucy · 26/03/2009 16:36

I don't blame you Riven.

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mummyloveslucy · 26/03/2009 16:41

He didn't thnk I was staff, we all see each other every day. He knows I'm Lucys Mummy.
I wasn't just me, none of the Mums or Dads were offered a drink.
The party was from 1-4pm. I was starving.

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