To think perhaps this wasn't the most appropriate way to bf baby in a public place?

[lollipopz]

OK I am usually all for breast feeding have breast fed all 3 of my dcs and if they were hungry in restraunt on train etc I would cover and feed them, however this shocked me.
Was in supermarket last night with 2 dds aged 5 and 7. Dds had nipped off to pick up some juice when dd1 rushed up to me with a bright red face and ushered my to the next aisle. There was a woman standing with her shirt unbuttoned feeding a baby who was sat upright in a trolley so every one that walked by could see exactly what she was doing and also had a clear view of her other boob that was hanging out her bra . Not only that the baby must have been about 7 or 8 months and was straining to reach as she sort of crouched to it's level.
Surely this is not the best way and she could have left her trolley and went into the baby room she didn't have that much stuff in there any way.

Just a thought.

Men have nipples too, and sometimes even moobs. These are not required to be covered up in the crisps aisle or anywhere else for that matter.

Maybe she didn't give a flying fandango about discretion.

Or maybe she really felt like giving 101 random people on the internet a chance to say Oooh How Disgraceful? Quite public-spirited, I'd say.

i am indiscreet about my mooncup. i'm always blethering about it to anyone who will listen. and i've shown it to people. (not in situ)

My twopenn'orth - I actually applaud the breastfeeding woman. Good on her. Why should anyone in this day and age feel that it is inappropriate to feed a baby like this. People really shouldn't feel uncomfortable with it.

Is probably not the most comfortable way to feed, but given the choice between (a) screaming hungry baby (b) feeding in a godforsaken baby room or (c) letting the baby have a quick feed whilst doing the shopping at the same time, well, do you blame her? Anyone who thinks 'ooh look at her' should go hang, frankly.

As for making young boys feel uncomfortable, well young boys don't seem tyo be that uncomfortable with all those girls in Nuts magazine do they?

and certainly not in the juice and crisps aisle.

I have bf DS1 whilst shopping in Sainsbury's he was really very little DH was pushing the trolley and taking direction and I was walking feeding DS1 in a cradle hold I don't remember anyone noticing or any funny looks.

I would't personally open my blouse and dangle my boob towards my babys mouth (the mental image I have from OP) but I wouldn't wear a crop top and mini skirt where you can see your pants either, I kind of envy the people with the confidence in themselves to be able to do either.

Surely I can't be the only one who thinks that there is a lot of airspace between feeding like it's a dreadful shameful thing and hiding yourself away and getting both breasts out in a supermarket aisle?

Like I said, the magazine thing is a red herring anyway. I would much rather see a breastfeeding breast in public than a stupid magazine cover. But I still think that breasts are private parts of the body and that a flash by accident because a baby isn't that great at latching (or whatever) is completely different to wandering around with both your breasts out.

I don't blame lollipopz daughter getting embarrassed, she is a child ffs, my son still points at me getting dressed in the morning and declares that he 'can see my big boobies.'

I wouldn't blame people for feeling uncomfortable in this situation, i am pro bfing i did it myself when i could. I think its polite to be secreet about it becuase in the sexulised society we live in and hvae grown up in some people do find seeing breasts in public uncomfortable.
I just think its an adults job to say to a child, 'that lady is feeding her bbay, some ladies don't do it like that but that lady had chosen to.'

A cradle hold is different I think, as is a sling.

Surely it must be really really uncomfortable too? Her poor back!

I genuinely can't see why you're so bothered. So a pair of breasts were visible. They weren't yours. Lots of people got a good gawp. Your daughter was enjoyably scandalised. What's the problem?

I'd have been a bit shocked too. I've bf 2 babies and will bf dc3 too.

Personally i wouldn't do this as like to be comfortable to feed and also would not appreciate strange men leering at my boobs. Although to be honest my blue veined bf boobs - well, any man would have to be pretty desperate.

I think breastfeeding is fabulous - I simply don't think that doing it gives you the right to ignore others. Condemning anyone who suggests a sensible amount of discretion as anti-breastfeeding or ludicously prudish is again, naive. I also think that the kamikaze 'get your boobs out anywhere, anytime' attitude puts more people off breastfeeding than encourages - it is so alien to northern European mindsets that people think, well I couldn't possibly be like that so I'm not going to try.

Mother Inferior - I'm not tutting about anything, I'm expressing a perfectly valid opinion formed from experience.

that is so not on...if i'd been the manager of that supermarket she would have been asked to do her feeding in private...what an idiot.

lol mi.

Aitch am glad you added that bit about not in situ-for a minute I had worrying images of you whipping it out and brandishing it at people

i think the only problem is it woulb be uncomfortable. i would ratrher have taken baby out of trolley and held her whilst trying to maintain some dignity. i.e. not flopping my boobs out or breaking my back

Maybe it was a one-woman protest at "feeding" rooms.

I might set up a cafe for adults with incredibly uncomfortable chairs, babies being changed on tables and overflowing nappy bins scattered about the place.

Think I'll be a millionaire by the end of the year?

Its not the way i would feed but i would not think any the worse of the woman who was doing it.

I have certainly held my dd's when they were babies and fed them whilst walking round a supermarket as dp pushed the trolley and put the food in. I would have been wearing a breast feeding top tho with a small discreet opening (which babys head totally obscures) so no breasts actually on display at all. But bottom line is that breasts are for breast feeding! I would not be offended by either discreet or indiscreet breast feeding. i fullly support every woman's right to feed her baby in the way that nature intended.

I was serious, there are many ways to bf a baby in public, over a trooey is not one of them. I find it quite bizarre.

And LOL at the "a breastfeed is a sacred event and must be performed in private, with reverence" posters on here - really? EVERY feed?

More here about feeding babies in public and the law.

I don't think that women who take a militant line are very helpful in the quest to get more breast feeding mothers.

i b/f all my dc..but i have some class...would never whip my tits out in a supermarket

nothing to do with class, dp, just personal choice. and the law is behind her.

i think i may have lightly applauded her if i'd seen her, tbh. it all sounds hilarious.

There are lots of things that are 'natural' that I wouldn't want to see happen in a supermarket. The situation described in the OP would be one example.
Women can't just get their breasts out anywhere and use the excuse 'it's what they are for' without any thought as to how other people are feeling.

I have breastfed plenty of children, in all kinds of places, but there is nothing wrong with being considerate and as discreet as possible.