Co-sleeping with new partner

[Mowgli21]

Hi

Am I wrong in thinking that it is okay to share my bed with my 4 and half year old son and my new partner?

My ex seems to think this is inapproriate behaviour. We have a 50:50 Shared Residence order and we are divorced........ Any thoughts?

Let's face it, we always have only half the story when someone posts about a relationship.

I think Mowgli21 is after advice (and maybe a female point of view?), not to be slated.

I rest my case on the comments of RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion....... having realised that I am the man has changed sides immediately......

Poor confused little boy. Whatever the issues between you and your ex, I think the fact that he needs to co sleep with either of you speaks volumes. If you are concerned about this partner, inform the courts. Someone hads already mentioned MacKenzie Friends - check them out and get these issues resolved before you and your ex cause even more damage to your child.

I see where you are coming from, Reality, but so often a woman posts on MN and many of us jump in and criticise their male partner.

We don't know the full story, so it would be wrong to say that the OP's ex is a bad mother, but the guy wants a bit of support. Maybe he went about it the wrong way (he is ONLY a man, afterall ) but surely he deserves a chance at getting some advice.

I have read through this thread and I am speachless. Really I am.

You are a bit manipulative, arent you mowgli? You like to twist and turn things, dont you?

By Mowgli21 on Wed 25-Feb-09 12:48:27
I rest my case on the comments of RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion....... having realised that I am the man has changed sides immediately......

There are no sides, other than the ones you have made yourself in this, by trying to represent her side and his side, and painting the situation on both sides with your own brush.

You DO realize on some level that people have turned against you because you have LIED, not because you are a man?

I wish you the best, for your child.

Yes, start again.

Wotulookinat

Thanks... That was all I was after......

Do you know, I wondered if you were the ex, purely because you were painting such a shit picture of yourself.

Sorry, I think if you'd asked if it were okay from your perspective you'd have got the same answer - we don't tend to do the 'all men are bastards' thing here too much (and several of the posters on this thread are blokes I think) but now you've just come across as a lying trickster.

What was the point of doing this?

I'm not a bloke.

Scenario is then...... All that I have said but forget the 'Hearsay'.....

Ex - Mother is allowing our son to sleep with her 'Boyfriend' should I be comfortable with that? Son does not like the situation. She denies that the boyfriend exists..... Yet she has just returned from holiday and son insists that the boyfriend was there.....

Hi wotulookinat.... I never thought you were... I mentioned you as having said that I needed some advice or support......

Yeah but you've speculated massively as StayFrosty pointed out - you don't know if half the stuff you've said is true.

I repeat, what was the point of this?

Start again Mowgli, clean slate, new thread.

Spicemonster....... Speculation comes from making it up.... That is not the case.... it was information passed from another... Hearsay... Information from our son, statements to the court, CAFCASS reports, 10 years of living together, living with it for the past 18 months...... The point was as shown by several posters.... Gender bias, I have posted as myself on several sites and received the 'Father' treament... I just wanted to know how people would approach it as the Mum being the doer as opposed to the Father making up a story.... TO a certain extent I have shown that people are quick to jump on the case..... Then change sides when the position is changed

Oh ffs fuck off with this game playing crap.

Are you N1?