to care about my name being shortened?

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My real name is quite easily shortened (not as easily as Katherine to Kate, for example, but in that league).

But I hate the shortened version, and frequently have to tell people not to call me that.

It feels really petty, but it irritates me so..

AIBU?

It wouldn't be lou by any chance would it? I hate it too, there is only one friend of mine that I will let call me by the shortened version of my name.

Do people stop when you ask them to?

No, I hate it too. I just politely tell people that I don't like my name being shortened. Then not so politely ignore them if they continue to do so.

Your name is a part of who you are so I don't think it's petty to not like being called something you don't like.

No it's not, YANBU. I can never understand why people when introduced to Katherine have to call her Kate, if her name was Kate she'd have said it. I don't see it as any different to calling Katherine "Anne".

I think you have a right to be called what you want.

My dad is very quietly firm with people who use a shortening of his name.

I recently found out that a woman I work with is called by her full name in every part of her life except at work where she's known as the shortened version - which she doesn't really like. It's a shame she didn't say something before (this has been going on for years) because it's kind of stuck now.

So, YANBU

I feel for you Lo'.

I ksomeone called things like Christopher and it's really hard to remember not to call him Chris. Part of me feels irritated at having been told off expecially when Chris IS short for Christopher and if I want to call him that, it's up to me.

Did your mum get upset with people shortening your name, or does it all come from you?

I guess I think you should try to let go of it because it's obviously causing stress in your life and probably won't stop happening if it hasn't already after all these years. Presumably close friends know.

YANBU. I am called Katherine, am known as Katherine and yet some people call me Kath. Why?

Nah - I'm not a Louise/Louisa, and Lou is fine! (Weirdly)

But, it just winds me up when folks shorten my name.

Maybe it is because my friends wouldn't do it, knowing how much I loathe it ...
... it's daft, I know it is, but I could spit knives when people call me "Ally".

I would see it as affectionate tbh.

YANBU - I am the same about my name

In fact, I actively ignore anyone who calls me the shortened version...

I've always been the WHOLE name - I don't even know when they mean me if they use the short version so it's not ALWAYS deliberately ignoring them lol

yanbu imo

my name is four letters, I detest when people shorten it, okay it happens very rarely, but I am still irritated when they do, it is always shortened by people I don't know too, which also annoys me... I don't really care if I abu.

YANBU-I really hate mine being shortened too (it turns into a boys name and I really hate it!). It is not part of who you are (the shortened version that is).

Since I appear to be the one dissenting voice I might as well state my case less timidly and say YAB not only Unreasonable but also rather Unfriendly.

There. Said it.

Spidermama, I was thinking about your post re: "did your mum get upset with people shortening your name?" and it really struck a chord. Yes, she did, she was adamant about folks using my full name.

Clearly, that has influenced my standpoint. Still can't bear it though.

I have reactions to certain things which have been deliberately handed on to me by my mum. Things like when people say 'Mewsly' instead of moosly (muesli) and when people say less when they mean fewer.
These things really don't matter in the scheme of things but I've been cursed into reacting to them every single time, because my mum used to make a big fuss about it.

I sometimes take my courage in both hands and say 'toilet' instead of lavatory (another of her pet hates) but I always feel sinful and common, as if I've let the whole family down.

I'm a Sarah, didn't think it could really be shortened, but I get called Sare?? YANBU.

Sez?

YANBU. I feel the same ...
"Don't call me Cathy" haha.
I hate that particular shortening of my name for some reason. I get called all sorts of other short names which I love - to my family I'm
'Katie Pooh' all thanks to my dear Grandma and I answer to all my friends/work as 'Caffs'. I'll even accept Kat, Kate etc.. there's just something about 'Cathy' that sets me growling - and I never seem to forget who has called me it (not that I hold grudges or anything!) I'm not the type of person to tell them not to call me by that name ... I just smile and quietly seeth and hiss inside - daft really!

YANBU its your name, therefore, your perogative as to what you are called. Obviously it you wanted people to call you ma'am .....

When I'm introduced to someone who has a name that is commonly shortened eg. David to Dave/Davey, I always ask which they prefer. I think it's rude to call someone a shortened version (when they've asked you not to) just because you think it's affectionate or some such thing.

Yes TinkerBellesMum?

I confess to writing my name shorthand as 'Sez' when on computer games etc..., but I don't like to be called it!

How can it be affectionate when it's a complete stranger?

I'm flicking between here and playing with Rubyella, doesn't mean I want to be called Rubyella IRL lol. My Main is actually one letter short of my name, sounds daft actually but I forgot it's MMORPG (WoW)

I understand what you mean although I come at it from the other direction. I hate my full name, I don't think it suits me (far too girly!) and I always go by the shortened form. I get quite peeved when I introduce myself as X and they say 'oh, short for Y?' and insist on calling me that. If I say I'm X, surely it's just polite to stick with that? Conversely, if you introduced yourself with the long form of your name. I'd assume that's what you wanted to be called...

I sometimes think it's a control thing.

No, YANBU. You can still be "affectionate" and call someone by the preferred name.