to care about my name being shortened?

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My real name is quite easily shortened (not as easily as Katherine to Kate, for example, but in that league).

But I hate the shortened version, and frequently have to tell people not to call me that.

It feels really petty, but it irritates me so..

AIBU?

My name is Lynn.

For some utterly incredible reason, people insist on calling me Linda, Lindsey, even Lynette.

Why?

They aren't misremembering my name, they think they're being clever. As they would if someone was introduced as Kate and they insisted on calling them Katherine.

I think people who can't be arsed to call people by the name they were introduced by should be shot.

Whether it's shortening or lengthening or just making it up, they're twats.

I sympathise because I also have an easily shortened name and dislike the obvious abbreviation and don't recognise it as my name at all.

The trouble is that some people think you are being difficult or snotty when you object to it, and I find this makes one or two decide it is their duty to take you down a peg or two and continue using it, apparently in jest, because they know it irritates. It becomes a bit of a point scoring exercise at work I sometimes find...(It can be that kind of place...)

I hate it when my name is shortened (it's only 4 letters) and yes this does come from my parents. If they'd wanted to call me a shortened version, it would be on my birth certificate/christening certificate and what I'd be known as anyway.

My daughter is Phoebe and it's like nails down a blackboard when people call her Pheebs .

It's not affectionate, it's rude.

YANBU-keep insisting.

NYANBU

Mine gets shortened. It does not sound cute/pretty/nice. It makes me sound like a man.

It sounds okay for some people to say it, occasionaly like my sisters. Oh I don't know.

YANBU though.

My mum never minded about people shortening my name, it came from me, and I HATE it.

I think its very unfriendly to call me by a name that 1. Isn't what I am called, 2. I hate

I introduce myself by my proper name and correct people (with increasing force), if they shorten it!

I think it is down to the person whose name it ultimately.

Both ds1 and ds3 have their 'big' names which we rarely use. DS1 tells me off for calling him his big name - says it just doesn't feel like 'him'. So I call him his shortened name (unless he is in big trouble!!))

DS3 is too young to have an opinion yet.

On the other hand, DH's brother has a big name which only MIL calls him. He will correct everyone to use the shortened version but his mum won't.

Squonk, do you hate it when I call you Sq?

It's really lazy of me i know

Fwiw I'm a Sue and I get the clever old blokes calling me 'Suzanne' which is just vile - not in itself, apologies to any Suzannes reading this, but it's NOT MY NAME!!!

So I do sympathise.

I guess all you can do is firmly say 'I prefer being called Katharine (or whatever).' I think people should respect what someone wants to be called.

My in-laws insist on calling DH by the long version of his name, even though he likes the short version and everyone else calls him by the short version. There are two other close relatives of his with the same name (long version) and they still won't use DH's short version even though it would help to know who they're talking about. I think it's quite rude to use a version someone doesn't like.

If you object then, yes, people should respect your request to be called by your full and real name.

I get called a variety of names at work, they lengthen my name, put my inital at the end of it and a couple of my colleagues know my just by my maiden name (even though they've only known me by my married name ) - I don't mind.

YANBU

But i do think it's what yo have been bought up with.

My proper name has only ever been used when i was naughty or in official circumstances. S much so i forget that's my name and don't always answer to it .

I just say i prefer '' thanks.

FA - nope. For some reason, my talk name is different. People (well, you!) shorten it, people lengthen it, it doesn't bother me. Tis just my RL name that I get sniffy about.

I'm a Jennie who frequently gets called Jennifer. Not my frigging name!

I get this too. I have a friend who has the same name as me, and when we met she decided to call me Anna and she could be Annabel(this is an example).

WE met at 16. To this day, 21 yrs later, I am still asking her to call me by my full name. We ARE good friends, and this is a small thing, I've already asked her a number of times to call me my full name (even tho it's also her full name). Her Mum and sister and some people I've met through her all call me the shortened version.

She laughed when friends of mine called me my full name!! As though it were a proposterous recent grandeur on my part!!

ARGHHHH

The weird thing is, I had this at work once, and older woman had the same name as me and told me "you can be Anna". I said, No, that's not my name. And she said, well in the office you can be Anna. I said No, that's not my name. She took a dislike to me after that. Took the piss out of my shabby clothes once.

theres only 3 people shorten/change my name, and i dont mind them doing it
anyone else and it would annoy me a bit

My Mum went to our primary school once when the teacher decided 30-odd years ago, to call my sister Joanna as she had two Joannes in the class as it was 'easier' to remember them apart that way .

Not sure how that same teacher would cope in my dd's class which has umpteen Hollys or Hollies.

FWIW, my Dad is known by his second name but as he's never bothered changing it officially, he still answers to his first name in hospitals as that is the order the names go on the records. We have to ask them to call him by his second name.

Sometimes it?s the attitude that people can give you when you ask them, very nicely, not to call you that name, that irritates me.

Since they have taken it upon themselves to do that, (I certainly never introduce myself with the dreaded abbreviation), it seems a bit cheeky to come over all personally offended, as if you have snubbed them.

YANBU at all.

I'm an Angela and although I don't mind Angie, I cannot bear being called Ange!! I've had people who I've just been introduced to immediately calling me Ange. Can't stand it; it reminds me of "minge" and "winge"!

YANBU - I think it's incredibly rude to call people shortened versions of their names if they don't want it. I would have no problem being politely reminded of this if I accidentally shortened someone. I am struggling at the moment with a friend's name - her husband shortens it, and I've used the shortened version a couple of times but I don'`t know if this is something she only allows her DH to do. Unfortunately, I keep seeing her DH on the school run and he's infecting me with the shortened version - aaaargh!

YANBU

I hate it when I introduce myself to new people, and straight away they use my shortened name I've even had it happen by telesales staff, and it just makes me want to scream at them. Its the height of rudeness IMO to shorten someones name you don't know. I can't even sign my name on cards/letters with the shortened version.

At work, I was alway refered to as the shortened version as well, which annoyed me to hell, especially as my name on my desk had the full one!

I allow my close friends to shortned my name, that doesn't bother me. It just seems that the shortened version is more personal. My DH and parents don't call me the shortened version though.

YANBU.
I always introduce myself with my full name and STILL people shorten it. Drives me mad. I hate the abbreviated version. The problem is that it then sticks and everyone calls you by the short name.

My biggest problem is a few of DH's friends call me Katie when I am Kayleigh. It really bugs me as there excuse is "Kayleigh is hard to say" I have stopped correcting them and I just ignore them if they speak to me.

i don't think it matters
I see it as affectionate tbh...that someone wants to 'claim' my name as my friend iykwim.

Kayleigh is hard to say?
I think you are quite sensible to just ignore them.
FWIW the nickname I don't mind my BiL always spells wrong. But he's just an idiot.

YANBU, my first name is Victoria, people shorten it to Vicky, this does not bother me, its when people call me Vic. I am not boy nor a chest rub.